to think this vinted seller was rude?

[Marble2021]

I saw a bag on Vinted and made an offer on it. The seller declined the offer. I messaged the seller 'What price would you accept for the bag?'. She replied saying 'If you don't say hello, I will not sell it to you :)'. Then she blocked me from buying the item. AIBU to think she was rude?

She's probably fed up.

I'm sure you're not one of them, but the number of people on marketplace who can't even ask a simple question without coming across as rude and abrupt is mind boggling.

Available?

15?

Mine

I need delivery etc...

I'm not fussy about manners, but I wouldn't message someone without starting with "hi", at least. It won't have helped if you offered a lot lower than what she was asking either, not saying you did, but I have less patience when someone offers way under the price I've listed.

Why didn't you start your message with a 'Hi' or 'Hello'?

That's writing to someone 101.

One of you was rude. Hint - it wasn't her.

I would've said started by saying hello to be honest.

However I don't care how rude the person is if they pay the amount I want , so I think the seller has overreacted.

God no, the less chat the better

@StanleyGreen

One of you was rude. Hint - it wasn't her.

Nope.....

When you send your first offer message, the Vinted app automatically puts " Hi!" at the start.

Seems a bit picky for them to be labouring the point about saying hello if you sent the offer that way. But hey, it's their item... 🤷‍♂️

Why would you have to say hello? Bizarre.
It's just a automatic procedure of payment or offer - dialogue isn't necessary at all.

Weird. She must not want to part with her items

Yes, she was rude. I've been buying and selling online for many years, I've never said Hello when asking a question, and I don't believe anyone ever has said it to me. I can't stand sellers like that - and I wouldn't be buying anything they had for sale. She obviously doesn't really want the sale.

It’s a bit rude.

I refused to give someone my (free) coffee table the other day because I just got a message of ‘send me your address’

I honestly wouldn’t notice if someone messaging me on Vinted had said hello or not. She sounds like she’d be a bit of a pain to deal with, so maybe you’re better off not buying from her.

On the other hand, at least she bothered to decline the offer, which is more than two of the sellers I’ve messaged recently have bothered to do.

I've been giving stuff away for years on FB Marketplace and Freecycle. I rarely if ever get a message that starts with 'hello' (or any greeting for that matter) - and that's when I'm giving stuff away free of charge.

If I took your seller's approach, I'd probably never have shifted a thing.

@AsYouWishButtercup

It’s a bit rude.

I refused to give someone my (free) coffee table the other day because I just got a message of ‘send me your address’

I'd have ignored that 'enquiry' too.

I've only ever listed things I wanted to give away for free. Memorable responses include:

• "I don't want the item you're advertising, how much is the TV in the background of the photo?"
• "Do you arrange delivery?"
• "What else have you got for me?"
• (when I listed 3 items) "Are you doing a house clearance then? I'll take everything."

@5keletor

I'm not fussy about manners, but I wouldn't message someone without starting with "hi", at least. It won't have helped if you offered a lot lower than what she was asking either, not saying you did, but I have less patience when someone offers way under the price I've listed.

I offered 1 euro less than the item price

@Idontevenknow

I would've said started by saying hello to be honest.

However I don't care how rude the person is if they pay the amount I want , so I think the seller has overreacted.

Me too. You want to sell the bag not be her friend

If you offered 1 euro under the asking price (seriously?) then surely it's pretty obvious what the seller was expecting.

1 Euro?

FFS! You sound like a nut. One of those difficult buyers who just twists and turns and makes all sorts of stupid little difficulties.

Haha, you offered one euro less? Seriously?

She probably refused you because she was confused by that (it's really odd) and thought you weren't a genuine buyer.

I offered 1 euro less than the item price

Why did you do that?

I sell on vinted and honestly couldn’t tell you if people say hello or not before asking a question.
Sometimes you notice the over friendly responses, ‘anything for you babe’ and I do try to be friendly by saying hello, please, thank you etc.
It’s probably for the best that she’s blocked you tbh.

I've had sellers who are a bit abrupt in their messages and don't say hi. I do think it is a bit rude but if I'm selling something and I get the money for it, that's all I'm bothered about. Their lack of manners is irrelevant to me, it's not like I'm vetting them for friendship. It's a business transaction.

I sell on Vinted and this is how it works. Items are normally sold for a couple of quid.
Sellers will say "offers welcome".
Offers are normally 1 or 2 quid under the asking price, that's just how it works.
Also you press a button and put in your offer which automatically sends a message to the seller saying "Hi! Would you sell this for £4" for example.

You were not rude, she sounds strange.

But then maybe she's had loads of people trying to get the item for cheaper and was fed up.