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to think this vinted seller was rude?

248 replies

Marble2021 · 08/01/2022 22:03

I saw a bag on Vinted and made an offer on it. The seller declined the offer. I messaged the seller 'What price would you accept for the bag?'. She replied saying 'If you don't say hello, I will not sell it to you :)'. Then she blocked me from buying the item. AIBU to think she was rude?

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WomanStanleyWoman · 09/01/2022 21:40

Well it’s not that big a leap judging by the ridiculous overreaction in some of the responses here…

IamGusFring · 09/01/2022 22:02

[quote Marble2021]@Butchyrestingface because I often buy items on vinted and if I get small discounts each time that money adds up.I fail to see what is wrong with offering 1 euro less.[/quote]
It's a third of the value . You look like a cheapskate .

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Marble2021 · 09/01/2022 22:10

@IamGusFring So what if I do? Other sellers have never had a problem with it.I have offered a euro less, bought the item and they left me good feedback.So what is the problem there??

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WomanStanleyWoman · 09/01/2022 22:12

It's a third of the value . You look like a cheapskate.

And? The seller has the right to refuse if she’s unhappy with the offer.

Enough4me · 10/01/2022 00:11

OMFG if one more person asks why OP offered less when this wasn't even the issue for the seller my brain will implode and run out my nose!

BadLad · 10/01/2022 00:51

Perhaps I'm just an oafish neanderthal, but I can't see what the seller said that was rude enough to anger you to the point of making a thread about it. At the very worst I would describe her as being a bit short with you. I've seen much ruder on about half the AIBU threads I read.

Obviously you disagree, and that's fine. We all have different opinions about what we consider rude. Most etiquette debates on here end up being impossible to please everyone. I remember a thread where a poster was anxious about joing her housemate's dinner party, and wanted to leave them to it and take herself to her room. Some posters said that would be unspeakably rude. Others said that if she went and said "hello", she'd be rude for interrupting.

If I'm selling something, I don't really care about salutations as long as I don't get messed around. But apparently this seller does find it rude not to put them in. That's up to her. Just shrug and move on.

StrangeLookingParasite · 10/01/2022 08:47

[quote AreSomeGoldfishJustDicks]@StrangeLookingParasite nothing like us paupers selling Primark and New Look then 😉[/quote]
Nice hyperbole, but I'm trying to point out that it's not 'just the way Vinted works'. Maybe for you it is, but your experience isn't everyones.

WomanStanleyWoman · 10/01/2022 10:55

And I have had some rude, rude offers - 55€ for something new priced at 90€, which cost 170€.

Vinted sets a minimum level at which you can make an offer. €55 is probably just the minimum; of course you’ll get people chancing their arm at that level.

It amazes me that on threads about house-buying, people will actively encourage the OP to make a very low offer and will be mystified at any suggestion that the sellers might take offence. This is when tens of thousands of pounds is involved! A few quid? It’s ‘rude, rude’ to make an offer.

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Marble2021 · 10/01/2022 11:22

@ pixie5121 I did not ask if I was rude. I asked if the vinted seller was rude.Get it right. By the way, don't tell me I should not post on my own thread and I should be dealing with other problems instead.

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Wafflesnsniffles · 10/01/2022 11:27

I never react well to people who message and dont bother to even say Hello.
I agree with a poster upthread who said hint it wasnt her who was rude. It may be shes got a bunch of people offering to buy the item - If that situation I always prioritise the ones who are polite over those who cant be bothered - even if that means selling it slightly cheaper.

Wafflesnsniffles · 10/01/2022 11:29

And no I dont think the seller was rude. But your failure to preface your comment with even a simple hello/hi caused her to block you.
Given some of your replies on this thread - sounds like the seller was wise.

LivingDeadGirlUK · 10/01/2022 11:30

I think she probably just thought you were odd to offer 1 euro less, then message to ask how much she would accept. She would have accepted 1 euro more, you could have bought it without even having to say anything let alone Hello. It would have flagged you up as the kind of person who has items lost in the post or finds issues once the item is sent to me, if I had a lot of other people favoriting the items I would have offered it to them for 1 euro less in a few days if it hadn't gone full price.

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Marble2021 · 10/01/2022 11:41

@Wafflesnsniffles If she was wise to block me, can you explain my good feedback on vinted from many buyers and sellers? I have messaged many sellers with a 'hello' before and none of them have had a problem with it. That particular item has been on vinted for 2 years now and so have many of her other items. Oh, I can't think why...

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IamGusFring · 10/01/2022 11:45

I hope you have had a good weekend @Marble2021 despite this . Time to leave it behind you . Go find a fabulous bag 😁

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Marble2021 · 10/01/2022 11:45

@FluffyBooBoo Now that I have responded to you (and you did not even bother to reply), can you respond to others who have contradicted your argument?

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Marble2021 · 10/01/2022 11:45

@IamGusFring thank you :)

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FluffyBooBoo · 10/01/2022 11:58

[quote Marble2021]@FluffyBooBoo Now that I have responded to you (and you did not even bother to reply), can you respond to others who have contradicted your argument?[/quote]
I didn't bother to reply because a) I see no benefit to either of us in going round in circles b) you just repeated things you've already said c) I had said everything I wanted to say and d) I'm not all that invested in this conversation.

I'm not sure why you are tagging me, considering I've already addressed your point (made multiple times) about me not answering other people. Nobody has tagged me since your last post to me, so if people have been answering since, I don't know about it..

This will be my last post on this thread, unless something changes. I have nothing new to add as it stands.

Anyway, back to work!

IamGusFring · 10/01/2022 12:01

@IamGusFring

I hope you have had a good weekend *@Marble2021* despite this . Time to leave it behind you . Go find a fabulous bag 😁
Sorry that was the wrong emoji . I meant 😁
IamGusFring · 10/01/2022 12:01

Oh God sorry I can't see without my glasses on .

Enough4me · 10/01/2022 13:56

@IamGusFring, sorry but that did make me laugh, here have a Grin.

Wafflesnsniffles · 10/01/2022 22:50

Marble - so shes had many items on there for 2+years - whatever the reason, whyever she blocked you, she blocked you and has moved on. You havent.
I sell stuff online a lot and never bother to engage with people who ask blunt questions or who quibble an already low price. So I would have ignored your message. Would you be on here moaning about me having ignored you?

FriendshipsAreHardForMe · 10/01/2022 22:59

YABU.

  1. you're rude. You were rude on your messages and you're rude in your comments on your thread.

  2. and you're tight. An adult offering €2 instead of €3 is ludicrous.

I'm glad she stood up for herself. I assume she's not crying into her pillow tonight that she didn't sell her €3 bag - you on the other hand are posting online about it.

HikingforScenery · 10/01/2022 23:10

@Enough4me

OMFG if one more person asks why OP offered less when this wasn't even the issue for the seller my brain will implode and run out my nose!
Why did OP offer less?

Did you 🧠 fall out?
I just like to test stuff out Grin

As you were Wink

phishy · 10/01/2022 23:22

I bet if you register with a male sounding name, they would not demand a ‘hello’.

Society has strange rules for women,

Enough4me · 11/01/2022 00:05

@HikingforScenery
BOOM, drip, drip, drip...
you owe me a new brain 🤣