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To want the £10?

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Cardio101 · 01/01/2022 14:15

Advertised an old big unit on Facebook market place for £10, very clear it’s £10 on the post.
Arranged for someone to collect it when I was at work but DH at home.
Person arrives and tells DH that it’s free, he says ‘oh is it? Are you sure?’, and she said it was definitely advertised as free so he let her take it.

It was old, and slightly damaged, but something that could easily be painted over/done up.

AIBU to be pissed off she didn’t pay when it was clearly advertised in the post as £10 and she lied to my husband?
It’s only £10, it doesn’t make a difference to my life at all, it’s more the principle!

I did actually message her after and explain it clearly said £10 in the post but of course she hasn’t replied!

OP posts:
CrimbleCrumble1 · 01/01/2022 17:37

Get the tenner off your DH.

Floralnomad · 01/01/2022 17:41

Just put it down to experience , at the end of the day she could easily claim she gave the money to your husband , you have no proof either way .

LittleRoundRobin · 01/01/2022 17:41

@Nocutenamesleft

It is theft!

Theft is explained as to deceive someone

The dishonest appropriation of property.

So ring the police.

It may be 'low-level crime,' but this may not be a bad idea actually....... This woman may have done it before, and will probably do it again. Calling the police, and having them contact her about it, may make her think twice about doing it again, and her card will be marked.

A man screamed in my neighbour's face 2 months bac, in Tesco car park, as she was in a child zone with her blue badge. (There were no disabled spaces.) It shook her up terribly and frightened her. It was her word against his, but she (on my advice) called 101 and reported him. Luckily, she took his car reg as he walked off ...

Long story short, the police took the details off her, and came back a day or two later, and said they had looked into him, and they had had a report into him and his aggressive behaviour towards women in public 2 months earlier.

It was that woman's word against his then, so they just kept it on record and didn't do much, but (said the PC) because a second report had come in about the same man being abusive in 8 weeks. She gave a statement, and he is in court in February, on a charge of affray and aggression (or something similar.)

Even though it seems trivial (the OPs issue,) it may be worth reporting it, as this woman may have stolen off people before. And it IS theft, £10, or £100, or £1000, it's STEALING, and the last time I checked, stealing from someone was against the law.

As pps have said, report her to facebook/facebook marketplace too. Not sure how, but there has to be a way to do it.

Ignore the 'chalk it up to experience' comments. Why should this cheeky f*cker get away with it?

NannaMcPhoo · 01/01/2022 17:41

Absolute scummer. You could try and track them down by creating a new account or searching their name and town on the internet. But with scum like that who know where you live it is really not worth it.

HollowTalk · 01/01/2022 17:44

@HumunaHey

What a CF. I would publicly shame her on Facebook. Tag her name. It's almost theft.
I'd do that, too, with screenshots where you show the price.
andysgirl22 · 01/01/2022 17:53

I'm sorry OP, i actually think this is abhorrent due to her lying. I think you should name and shame her on thr Facebook page as previous posters have suggested to hopefully stop her cheating someone else. I know you've said that to you the tenner doesn't affect your life but what if this cheeky mare did it to someone else for a bigger amount and/or is very vulnerable. I think it was blatant cheeky fuckery not exactly desperation as its not the type of thing you would be desperate for or would resolve an immediate life threatening situation if that makes sense.

Salome61 · 01/01/2022 17:57

So sorry, what a bare faced thief. What goes around comes around, she'll get her come uppance.

Beautiful3 · 01/01/2022 17:59

Your boyfriend shouldn't have let her take it without ringing you and double checking. You told your boyfriend it was £10, and he believed a stranger?!

Benjispruce5 · 01/01/2022 18:03

A FaceTime selling site? Is there no review mechanism?

Benjispruce5 · 01/01/2022 18:03

Facebook not FaceTime

Benjispruce5 · 01/01/2022 18:05

He was naive but it’s not his fault, she’s a con artist and he’s is a kind, trusting person by the sounds of it. Unbelievable amount of people letting her off!

TyrannosaurusRegina · 01/01/2022 18:09

@HumunaHey

What a CF. I would publicly shame her on Facebook. Tag her name. It's almost theft.
So would I. What an embarrassment she has made of herself for a tenner. Your husband is a bit of a gormless twit as well, isn't he?
Dottyteapot · 01/01/2022 18:22

Although this would really annoy me too, I think it’s best if you just let it go.

At the end of the day, she knows where you live but other than her name, you know nothing about her. If you start naming her, she could cause more trouble to you than you can to her.

But only ever sell in the future when your at home so you can be sure your getting what you’ve asked for.

I’ve had loads of problems with Facebook selling page (people turning up with £20 notes for a £5 item and I’ve not had change so sent them to get change from a local shop but you can tell they’re hoping I’ll let them have it for free), or trying to return an item saying it’s faulty but the item they’ve got isn’t the one I sold Angry

WiddlinDiddlin · 01/01/2022 18:24

Just post an account of what happened on facebook.

She'll end up with no one willing to sell to her or buy from her, or even removed from the site.

You could try to report for theft by deception but its unlikely you'll get your money back, and I'd make 100% sure that the listing didn't have 'free' on it anywhere (and it is easy to do unfortunately by failing to fill out the price in the drop down menu, and just putting it in the description).

GoldSilverGlimmer · 01/01/2022 18:53

I think it’s a common ruse among som buyers, as someone tried this on me, when they came to collect items, I said no, it’s £20 as we agreed.

Faretheewellmyfairyfay · 01/01/2022 19:09

YANBU and she's a low-level con artist. (I'm also a bit worried about your DH, is he always this gullible?) I don't think there is any point trying to get the £10 now though.

From what I can gather, Facebook Marketplace is a bit of a free-for-all. Maybe try another method next time that has better dispute resolution and payment in advance? Or prime your husband accordingly when you do use FB Marketplace, or anything else.

Bertiebiscuit · 02/01/2022 17:29

P s don't trust your husband with anything in future, why did he not check with you???????

AlbusSeverusMalfoy · 02/01/2022 17:33

Surely you knew they were coming to collect whilst you were working and husband was home and you told your husband the person needed to pay £10?

PunishmentSnart · 02/01/2022 17:37

I would 100% name and shame. I know you dont need the money but she probably does this all the time and it may happen to someone vulnerable. People like this are vile.

ScotsGranny2 · 02/01/2022 17:37

I must agree that your husband agreed for her to take it free as she lied so faults on both sides. I would report her to admin on the FB page so they are aware in case she does this regularly.

Kellymumto2 · 02/01/2022 17:38

A similar thing happened to me a few years ago. I listed something and was asked to deliver it, for free of course, I agreed reluctantly. It was advertised for £10 also. The lady didn’t answer the door when I went round. I sat in my car and text her and she said she was in the bath, could I post it through the letter box and she had stuck the money in an envelope to the door. Like an idiot I put the thing through the letter box and took the envelope. When I got to the car there was a £5 note inside and not £10, I went back to the door, of course, no answer, I did a Facebook call, no reply and I sent a message and she ignored me, the next day she text and said she was sorry she was sure it was up for £5 and was so embarrassed. Why hadn’t I knocked, I had, and if I went back she would pay the other £5, I know I should’ve gone back but she knew it was £10 and was taking a chance and it would have cost me more fuel to return anyway so I let it go, but I do not deliver and I don’t hand over without the cash first. Marketplace on Facebook is the worst!

CuriousCassie · 02/01/2022 17:39

@Skiptheheartsandflowers

It's definitely his fault, not hers

He's been a twit, but how is it not the fault of the person who lied and said it had been advertised for free? They've carried out the deception. The husband just fell for it. How is he worse?

This.

Abso-blinking-lutely.
She's the shyster. He fell for it, poor sap.
Name and shame her. If she blocked you she knows she did wrong. (And it's not a question of money, but of honesty.)

kayade · 02/01/2022 17:43

@girlmom21

Not sure it isn't her fault for lying tbh!

Sounds like she tried it on and got away with being cheeky, as DH trusted her or just couldn't be arsed.

MarySlater · 02/01/2022 17:47

Let it go.
An infuriating thing to happen but not worth holding on to

RevolvingPivot · 02/01/2022 17:49

As the above said. I've sold lots of things on Facebook and often I'll put a price in the description box but the price box changes to FREE. I'm not sure why it happens. Can you check the advert and double check?

I know if this happened then the price would still be in the description but people don't always read these especially if they think the item is free.

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