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Original poster

Not letting my 17yo go out for NYE?

205 replies

Icelandiaa · 31/12/2021 17:47

He wants to go to his mates. But we don't drive so can't pick him up.

He said he will be home about 1am. But I don't want him out at 1am.

I doubt there will be taxis available and he's definitely not walking home.

He's 17 though (just turned days ago)

AIBU to not let him?

OP posts:
JannyWaps969 · 31/12/2021 22:27

Get a grip love. He's 17 I'm sure he'd be fine walking home. Parents like you coddling your kids. I had my 6 year old going to the shop and you don't see me crying

RampantIvy · 31/12/2021 22:31

Why don't you get to grips with reading the OP's updates instead @JannyWaps969 Hmm

Waxonwaxoff0 · 31/12/2021 22:36

@Jada1234

None of my children are going out tonight to come home with the covid virus
Grin how pathetic.
Payitforward55 · 31/12/2021 22:44

I'm really surprised at the responses. I would not let him go. All 17 year olds are different. Every 17 I can think of in my family would not be walking 4 miles home at 1am. Anything could happen.

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 31/12/2021 22:49

He is paying the price for neither of you being able to drive. Thats just nuts. What if there was an emergency or you needed to collect him early if he waa drunk etc? Get some driving lessons and facilitate him becoming an adult. Maddest thread today this

That is so ridiculous it's laughable!!!

OP, he'll be fine and I know he's staying over but 4 miles is nothing.

Happy New yearSmile

RaginaPhalange · 31/12/2021 22:49

Yabu, he's old enough to either walk home or get a taxi. Jeez I lived alone at that age. However yanbu to be worried but you need to let him grow up.

HemanOrSheRa · 31/12/2021 22:56

The boy is HOME. HE'S HOME. He went, it wasn't for him. HE IS HOME.

STAND DOWN.

WorraLiberty · 31/12/2021 22:58

[quote SalveVagina]@WorraLiberty I also think you're wrong about them going out or not. None of my DC is "going out", because they think that "going out" is lame and is for 15 yr olds with fake IDs. They are all at house parties, which appear to be the Place To Be this year. I feel sorry for nightclub owners, but I think the combination of Covid, vaccine passports, proof of negative LFTs etc has meant that young people have found it easier to swerve all that shit and stay at someone's home instead.[/quote]
I agree with you so I think you've mixed me up with a PP.

Original poster
Icelandiaa · 31/12/2021 22:59

@HemanOrSheRa

The boy is HOME. HE'S HOME. He went, it wasn't for him. HE IS HOME.

STAND DOWN.

😂😂😂
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Jada1234 · 01/01/2022 00:10

@Waxonwaxoff0 your pathetic some peoples family member's have died. You Fool!

Payitforward55 · 01/01/2022 00:28

Very good. Glad he is back safe.

CantBeAssed · 01/01/2022 00:45

Sounds like you have a very sensible young man who knows his own mind. Glad it all worked out. No matter what their age us mum's will always worryWink

RedHelenB · 01/01/2022 01:08

As I said, just let him find his own way.

RampantIvy · 01/01/2022 01:09

@RedHelenB

As I said, just let him find his own way.
He did. He's home!
TakemedowntoPotatoCity · 01/01/2022 01:24

He sounds sweet, Flowers

And there are different types of teens he is nearer 16 than 18 after all, so I don't blame you for worrying and you must have breathed a secret with of relief when he got home.

LowlandLucky · 01/01/2022 02:03

Bloody hell, i was married at 17 (way way way too young) You need to let go.

RampantIvy · 01/01/2022 02:27

@LowlandLucky

Bloody hell, i was married at 17 (way way way too young) You need to let go.
And another full house!

How is this relevant? You were not a just turned 17 year old boy. Everyone matures at different stages.

RampantIvy · 01/01/2022 02:28

And to add to that - at 17 I was still at school, and nowhere near ready to get married.

BasicDad · 01/01/2022 03:04

@Icelandiaa

He's just come home bless him :(

Not his scene apparently.

Have you ever thought that his upbringing might have contributed to his courage, confidence to fit in, and relative maturity?

I say this as a child that had a helicopter parent of a father that wanted me wrapped in cotton wool for as long as it was possible.

RampantIvy · 01/01/2022 07:21

Or maybe the OK has been more protective because he is young for his age and lacks confidence.

I really feel the OP doesn't deserve the pasting about her parenting skills she has been getting on this thread.

sweetbellyhigh · 01/01/2022 07:58

@BasicDad

Yes of course OP's parenting has contributed to her son's courage and confidence. And what a great job she has done. OP he sounds wonderful 🌺

UsernameInTheTown · 01/01/2022 08:09

Poor lad.

LostForIdeas · 01/01/2022 09:29

@Icelandiaa

He said he just didn't want to be there. He's not very sociable, hence me being a bit worried/surprised he wanted to be out at that time.

Have ordered him a takeaway and gonna put a film on.

You have raised a confident teen who is happy to recognise if things aren’t going well for him and step back.

I think the fact he felt ok with leaving the party is great. He did it in a safe way too.

A shame it wasn’t as good as he hoped. But it looks like he handled it perfectly.

Blueeyedgirl21 · 01/01/2022 10:53

Doesn’t sound like OP has raised a confident teen at all

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Icelandiaa · 01/01/2022 11:12

He's actually very confident in himself. He's extremely funny and comfortable with his friends group and at college. That's the feedback we get from teachers.

He just doesn't like large groups of strangers and is very against drinking /smoking.

He went and saw his mates for a few hours and decided that was enough. I don't see how that is a negative thing or a bad reflection of my parenting Confused

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