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Original poster

Not letting my 17yo go out for NYE?

205 replies

Icelandiaa · 31/12/2021 17:47

He wants to go to his mates. But we don't drive so can't pick him up.

He said he will be home about 1am. But I don't want him out at 1am.

I doubt there will be taxis available and he's definitely not walking home.

He's 17 though (just turned days ago)

AIBU to not let him?

OP posts:
DroopyClematis · 31/12/2021 21:09

Let him go.

Dita73 · 31/12/2021 21:14

This can’t be real

TheHamburgler · 31/12/2021 21:17

there's no way a group of young drunk lads are staying at home on nye if some of them are old enough to be out out
Odd comment. Teenage NYE get togethers and/or sleepovers are a pretty normal occurrence.

Pinetreesfall · 31/12/2021 21:27

I was flying solo to Asia at this age. Cannot fathom the issue here!

Xtraincome · 31/12/2021 21:27

I think you should let him go OP. Get him to bring a mate back with him so he's not alone when walking all that distance.

If you live rurally I would understand the big walk being a worry. But it's nothing to a 17 year old in the burbs/city. As in it's better lit/busier on the streets.

1am home time is very Conservative of him, ensure he's back by 2am that way he can ring it in with time for Auld Lang Syne and a NYE kiss with someone! Wink

Does he tend to stay out later than agreed or go off grid? If not, please let him go!

RampantIvy · 31/12/2021 21:30

@Pinetreesfall

I was flying solo to Asia at this age. Cannot fathom the issue here!
Bingo!
AutomaticMoon · 31/12/2021 21:30

😱 I was working and got married at 17, in 2001, if I was your son, I’d be climbing the walls 😂

RampantIvy · 31/12/2021 21:31

Please read the OP's updates @Xtraincome

RampantIvy · 31/12/2021 21:31

@AutomaticMoon

😱 I was working and got married at 17, in 2001, if I was your son, I’d be climbing the walls 😂
Full house
Tee20x · 31/12/2021 21:31

YABU.

"But I don't want him out at 1am" ?¿ what ever will you do when he moves out and you have no clue where he is or what he gets up to on nights out.

Original poster
Icelandiaa · 31/12/2021 21:44

He's just come home bless him :(

Not his scene apparently.

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Everydaydayisaschoolday · 31/12/2021 21:47

@Janeandjohnny

He is paying the price for neither of you being able to drive. Thats just nuts. What if there was an emergency or you needed to collect him early if he waa drunk etc? Get some driving lessons and facilitate him becoming an adult. Maddest thread today this.
He can learn to drive himself now he is 17.
Benjispruce5 · 31/12/2021 21:47

Ahh @Icelandiaa Smile

Wife2b · 31/12/2021 21:48

Fun police. Chill OP.

HemanOrSheRa · 31/12/2021 21:50

@Icelandiaa

He's just come home bless him :(

Not his scene apparently.

Ah bless him. DS did that a few times. Once after many, many negotiations and much stress, to be allowed to go to an under 18's club night. He was 14. EVERYONE was going Grin. And we were being LAME. We agreed for him to go with his mates but be picked up by us (so embarrassing). He got the bus home by 9pm Grin.
Original poster
Icelandiaa · 31/12/2021 21:51

He said he just didn't want to be there.
He's not very sociable, hence me being a bit worried/surprised he wanted to be out at that time.

Have ordered him a takeaway and gonna put a film on.

OP posts:
SalveVagina · 31/12/2021 21:53

Oh bless him @Icelandiaa He sounds like a sweetheart.

OldWivesTale · 31/12/2021 21:55

Jeez, he's 17...

JuergenSchwarzwald · 31/12/2021 21:55

All teens have Uber now don't they

It' safer to walk than use an Uber!

but anyway he's home so it doesn't matter

Original poster
Icelandiaa · 31/12/2021 21:59

@OldWivesTale

Jeez, he's 17...
He is. But a young 17. He's only just started going cinema and stuff with mates at college.

Nothing to do with me. He's just never been the type. More of a home body and gamer.

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AutomaticMoon · 31/12/2021 22:00

Aw bless him, maybe the person he fancies wasn’t there 😔 Have a Happy New Year, OP, now that he’s safe with you 🎉

HemanOrSheRa · 31/12/2021 22:02

It's fine OP. You don't have to justify yourself to people who don't read the thread. You let him go with a plan. He didn't like it and came home. He's a good boy. The End.

Vapeyvapevape · 31/12/2021 22:08

How did he get home after all ? At least he knows his own mind and is happy to walk away from something he doesn’t feel comfortable with.

Original poster
Icelandiaa · 31/12/2021 22:13

@Vapeyvapevape

How did he get home after all ? At least he knows his own mind and is happy to walk away from something he doesn’t feel comfortable with.
He got the bus home with another friend who didn't want to stay.

Yeah. DP just said that, it's good he's confident enough to do so. I think they might have been drinking and stuff.

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RampantIvy · 31/12/2021 22:18

@HemanOrSheRa

It's fine OP. You don't have to justify yourself to people who don't read the thread. You let him go with a plan. He didn't like it and came home. He's a good boy. The End.
I agree.

Those who left home at 16 or got married at 17 - this boy isn't you, so why comment?

Why is it so difficult to understand that teenagers mature at different times?

I'm sorry he didn't enjoy his evening OP.