SIL gone to panto when waiting for PCR result - oh yes she did!

[anotherannoyngSIL]

Name changed as I’ve been slated on here before for not allowing my SIL to do as she pleases.

Today I thought we’d made a positive turn as she has taken my older son and hers to the pantomime as I’ve got a broken leg (though she has made a big thing about helping out).

Unfortunately she’s just text me to say “BTW I’ve had a positive lateral and waiting on my PCR but decided to take the boys anyway as xxx (her son) was looking forward to it, I’m sure that’s fine”.

In which universe is that fine?? She’s risking not just my son, but the others she’s gone with and the whole audience!! She is very jealous if people do social things without her but surely there comes a time when sense is more important than FOMO?? I’m assuming she waited till she was there to tell me so I couldn’t do anything.

Husband says I’m being unreasonable for being annoyed as the rules aren’t clear cut and she hasn’t had the PCR test back.

AIBU for wanting to ban her as she’s so irresponsible and only really cares about herself?

Bloody hell. I despair.

I presume she will lie if contacted by T&T?

Can't believe people still don't understand basics like this. Yes is disappointing. But its life right now

What a knob. Why even bother doing a LFT/PCR if you don't give a shit anyway?

She's a dickhead

I just can’t get excited about this any more.

If it’s as rife as the headlines are screaming about then what’s even the point 🤷🏻‍♀️

That’s grossly irresponsible of her - there could be vulnerable people in that theatre which she is directly putting at risk.

Fucks sake, it’s absolutely not fine in any universe and your husband is also unreasonable for enabling her - the rules are super clear cut in what to do if you get a positive lateral flow (false positive lateral flows are almost unheard of, she definitely has COVID). And this is part of the reason why we are still stuck where we are in this pandemic. No point constantly making the rules stricter when people won’t follow the very basic rule of self isolating if you have tested positive….

We also have Covid - still waiting on PCR to be delivered. I think it is pretty clear you have to isolate while waiting for PCR. I mean lots of stuff isn't clear but that is. My DC were also looking forward to the panto but we had to cancel. At least we can book something else once we are better.

WTAF?

Selfish, selfish excuse of a human being

Also I mean how many threads do we need to scorn people who have broken the rules? We KNOW it’s unreasonable. We KNOW.

Haven't read your other threads but it sounds as though you are looking for a reason to want to ban her from your house. Of course this is unreasonable of her but she won't be the only one who is doing this.

Unfortunately this is the risk you take when you go to a public event. If you are acting responsibly then you hope everyone else is too, but unfortunately that isn't the case.

Lots of people seem to think until they're positive they're fine. Same people who who go on as normal while their entire household is isolating.

The really weird thing is that she told you.

I mean obviously it's a stupid and irresponsible thing to do, but why would she tell people that what she's done?

Are you sure she's not on a wind up?

I'm afraid I couldn't get het up about this. If one-third of all people are asymptomatic and merrily spreading it, then what difference does it make if someone may be aware that they may test positive? If isolation worked, why do we have close to 200,000 cases a day?

Frankly, it's so contagious that if you don't want to catch it then don't go anywhere. Mind you, I've always felt that the onus should be on those not wanting to catch it to stay home, rather than others having to curtail their freedom in case someone catches it.

@Northernsoullover

Bloody hell. I despair.

This. Where do all these idiots come from ?

@Lacedwithgrace

Lots of people seem to think until they're positive they're fine. Same people who who go on as normal while their entire household is isolating.

That is actually what the law in Engalnd requires them to do currently. I have to go to work if the rest of my household is positive.

I mean... Call the theatre?! Tell them she's covid positive and sitting in their audience. Then contact test & trace. And send DH to get your kid. Then never speak to her again.

@Marianne1234 it's still ok for the OP to have a whinge about someone knowingly putting her son at risk from CoVID. There are plenty of other threads if this one doesn't interest you. 🤷

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Honestly it’s not something I would do. I did have Covid and did my due diligence of household purgatory... but I don’t agree with the rules either. At some point this has to end. I’m already scared there going to shut the schools again and I don’t agree with protecting the vulnerable/elderly at the expense of the young.

Like I said, if there is truth in the headlines then her son is at risk every time he crosses the door.

As PP mentioned, I'm quite surprised she texted you with this info. What is she hoping to achieve? But she is clearly utterly selfish and I feel for you OP, having a SIL like this. Not only has she put people at risk, closer to home - your son is possibly not going to return to school after the holidays. From personal experience, a positive LFT almost certainly means a positive PCR.

This makes me really angry

My approach has generally been cautious, but sensible. When I hear stories like this, it makes me even more cautious. If everyone else was sensible, I shouldn't have to be more cautious