Page 6 | SIL gone to panto when waiting for PCR result - oh yes she did!

stupiduser · 30/12/2021 16:45

My Dd has been performing in panto this season. They all had to have proof of negative lateral flows before every performance and the audience were asked to test too. If you take the cast down with covid you ruin the show for everyone. People like your SIL ruin it for so many. Disgusting behaviour. I would be so mad I would have contacted the theatre

MissLucyEyelesbarrow · 30/12/2021 16:50

If isolation worked, why do we have close to 200,000 cases a day?

Good grief.

The aim of isolation is not to stop the spread, but to slow it, so that the health service can cope. The larger the numbers of infected people, the more important this is.

If 200,000 infected people self-isolate and so only give Covid to 1 other person (on average), you get another 200,000 infections. If those people infect 1 person each, you get another 200,000 and so on.

If each infected person does not isolate, so infects 4 people on average, you get another 800,000 infections. If those people do the same, you get 3,200,000 infections.

Can you see the difference?

dittheringdoldrums · 30/12/2021 16:51

@anotherannoyngSIL I'd be apoplectic with her. What the fuck is her excuse for this? And I'd be furious with your husband too for basically taking her side.

KittenCatcher · 30/12/2021 16:51

just in case she and your dh are not clear of the rules, stupid stupid woman
www.nhs.uk/conditions/coronavirus-covid-19/testing/test-results/positive-test-result/

IWentAwayIStayedAway · 30/12/2021 16:51

You have to go no contact with her. Easiest way to avoid her drama. She sounds like a bellend

KittenCatcher · 30/12/2021 16:53

www.bbc.co.uk/news/explainers-54239922

dob her in

TinyLittlePandaSneeze · 30/12/2021 16:55

@KittenCatcher

www.bbc.co.uk/news/explainers-54239922

dob her in

To who? The BBC?

KittenCatcher · 30/12/2021 16:57

Tiny, no of course not, don't be ridiculous, I posted that information so that OP can see what the rules areand hopefully knows what they should do now.

IggysPop · 30/12/2021 16:58

Blimey

Well it is a stupid thing to do. There will be people who are vulnerable and don’t know it yet. I didn’t know I was asthmatic until I caught and it was very ill (really).

And of course people who are CV and CEV are entitled to go about their lives too. Like go to a theatre. They should be able to make their own risk assessment on the basis that people are generally not selfish twunts.

I had to cancel an event I had wanted to go to for 10+ years. I hadn’t even taken a PCR at that point, but my daughter was waiting for her second PCR (first was inconclusive) and I didn’t think my entertainment was more important than potentially spreading this. I did test positive 3 days later.

TheRainbow · 30/12/2021 16:58

@Wizzbangfizz

Frankly, it's so contagious that if you don't want to catch it then don't go anywhere. Mind you, I've always felt that the onus should be on those not wanting to catch it to stay home, rather than others having to curtail their freedom in case someone catches it.

Agreed @DappledOliveGroves

well , us CEV can't curtail our freedoms because we also have young children whose well being and mental health needs to be looked after by taking them places and going out.

Electricbug321 · 30/12/2021 16:58

The state of some of these replies.

@BonnesVacances I agree completely with what you have said. I’m so sorry their are people who think their right to go to a panto is worth more than other people’s lives.

TheWokeyCokey · 30/12/2021 16:59

Not sure what's worse... her doing that or the fact you need to ask whether it's unreasonable TBH.

KittenCatcher · 30/12/2021 17:00

www.police.uk/tua/tell-us-about/c19/v8/tell-us-about-a-possible-breach-of-coronavirus-covid-19-measures/

Pamlar · 30/12/2021 17:01

@Marianne1234

I just can’t get excited about this any more.

If it’s as rife as the headlines are screaming about then what’s even the point 🤷🏻‍♀️

I hear you but to go a public place packed with people is so incredibly selfish

TinyLittlePandaSneeze · 30/12/2021 17:03

@KittenCatcher

Tiny, no of course not, don't be ridiculous, I posted that information so that OP can see what the rules areand hopefully knows what they should do now.

I genuinely didn't know where to report them and thought there might be a link in the article sorry. Thank you.

Yes OP report to the police I've had enough of these dangerous selfish people now. We're all going to die at this rate frankly. It's enough with people accidentally spreading it.

Fluffycloudland77 · 30/12/2021 17:04

As a veteran of sil’s I can assure you they never change.

ittakes2 · 30/12/2021 17:07

I am sorry but I think your biggest issue is your hubby thinks it’s ok. She’s a knob but you can stop engaging with her ...you are married to him.

TheRainbow · 30/12/2021 17:09

@anotherannoyngSIL

Name changed as I’ve been slated on here before for not allowing my SIL to do as she pleases.

Today I thought we’d made a positive turn as she has taken my older son and hers to the pantomime as I’ve got a broken leg (though she has made a big thing about helping out).

Unfortunately she’s just text me to say “BTW I’ve had a positive lateral and waiting on my PCR but decided to take the boys anyway as xxx (her son) was looking forward to it, I’m sure that’s fine”.

In which universe is that fine?? She’s risking not just my son, but the others she’s gone with and the whole audience!! She is very jealous if people do social things without her but surely there comes a time when sense is more important than FOMO?? I’m assuming she waited till she was there to tell me so I couldn’t do anything.

Husband says I’m being unreasonable for being annoyed as the rules aren’t clear cut and she hasn’t had the PCR test back.

AIBU for wanting to ban her as she’s so irresponsible and only really cares about herself?

Sympathise with you OP. Your SIL is downright irresponsible. I would put your foot down and set boundaries.

58bpm · 30/12/2021 17:09

I isolated all over Christmas so was totally alone.

That said we've seen numerous politicians fail to quarantine, the PM had a house guest last Christmas, and then all the Downing Street parties.

If these rules work, then why aren't those with access to all the data sticking to them?

Just like some people speed or clip red lights, it's just inevitable now people are going to do what they think best for them.

chaosrabbitland · 30/12/2021 17:11

i couldnt be bothered about this personally , lateral flows havent got the greatest rep for being reliable and she cant be feeling too ill if shes taken herself off out , and as someone else had said if its so rife then maybe the whole country should stay indoors for the next how many weeks , or maybe not .

if you dont get on well with her it would be best to not have much contact with her , you seem to talk about her like a stroppy teenager you are mum too with the thought we had turned a corner stuff and not letting her do as she pleases , shes an adult and most adults can within reason of course do as they please , if you really feel you cant get on with her and dont like her attitude it would be best to stop trying

suzyscat · 30/12/2021 17:12

I wonder if your partner catches it he'll feel differently?

I agree your biggest problem here (other than the likliehood of your son missing the start of school whilst quarantining) is the idiot you married.

humdingle · 30/12/2021 17:16

She's deliberately trying to provoke a reaction and outrage in you, and she's succeeded.

I think it's wrong of her to go out and about in the circumstances, but I wouldn't be getting all dramatic about the risk to my child - I don't think you can go anywhere at the moment without some likely exposure, so I'd probably be expecting them to catch it at the theatre regardless of SIL.

I would feel sorry for any vulnerable people who might pick it up, but I think with it being everywhere right now everyone needs to make a personal decision about their risk threshold. If I was vulnerable, I'd be avoiding places like the theatre for a little while.

DappledOliveGroves · 30/12/2021 17:17

Yes OP report to the police I've had enough of these dangerous selfish people now. We're all going to die at this rate frankly. It's enough with people accidentally spreading it.

You do realise, I hope, that everyone is going to die at some point? The odds of you dying from
Covid, though, remain tiny - less than a 1% death rate (the latest figures for Omicron suggest a death rate of 1 in 833).

For the vast, vast majority, Omicron is a cold. That's it. And if someone is CEV, why this obsession that Covid will kill you when a host of other diseases (norovirus, regular flu) could presumably carry you off just as easily?

Staffy1 · 30/12/2021 17:19

@Lacedwithgrace

Lots of people seem to think until they're positive they're fine. Same people who who go on as normal while their entire household is isolating.

But she was positive on an LFT.

MaybeHeIsMyCat · 30/12/2021 17:20

@DappledOliveGroves

Yes OP report to the police I've had enough of these dangerous selfish people now. We're all going to die at this rate frankly. It's enough with people accidentally spreading it.

You do realise, I hope, that everyone is going to die at some point? The odds of you dying from
Covid, though, remain tiny - less than a 1% death rate (the latest figures for Omicron suggest a death rate of 1 in 833).

For the vast, vast majority, Omicron is a cold. That's it. And if someone is CEV, why this obsession that Covid will kill you when a host of other diseases (norovirus, regular flu) could presumably carry you off just as easily?

Because I've had norovirus before, and I've had flu before, I know how I react (fine with noro, pneumonia from flu) I've never had covid. I can't fight infections, and the NHS are worried enough to offer me covid treatment if I get a positive PCR which isn't something I've ever had from flu Also never been told to isolate in a bad flu season or had a government food box sent or been told to stay home