SIL gone to panto when waiting for PCR result - oh yes she did!

[anotherannoyngSIL]

Name changed as I’ve been slated on here before for not allowing my SIL to do as she pleases.

Today I thought we’d made a positive turn as she has taken my older son and hers to the pantomime as I’ve got a broken leg (though she has made a big thing about helping out).

Unfortunately she’s just text me to say “BTW I’ve had a positive lateral and waiting on my PCR but decided to take the boys anyway as xxx (her son) was looking forward to it, I’m sure that’s fine”.

In which universe is that fine?? She’s risking not just my son, but the others she’s gone with and the whole audience!! She is very jealous if people do social things without her but surely there comes a time when sense is more important than FOMO?? I’m assuming she waited till she was there to tell me so I couldn’t do anything.

Husband says I’m being unreasonable for being annoyed as the rules aren’t clear cut and she hasn’t had the PCR test back.

AIBU for wanting to ban her as she’s so irresponsible and only really cares about herself?

I don't blame her. This madness has to stop.

@ronalisa

There will be other people there who arent just on a jolly day out through, the staff have to be in work regardless on their own or houshold memebers vunerbilities. The decent and legal thing to do if you have symptoms and a bloody positive lft is to stay home not go to a panto or anywhere else.
It is absolutely discusting and imoral behaviour to go out knowing you have covid

I wonder why in world SIL told OP (or anyone).

@DappledOliveGroves

I'm afraid I couldn't get het up about this. If one-third of all people are asymptomatic and merrily spreading it, then what difference does it make if someone may be aware that they may test positive? If isolation worked, why do we have close to 200,000 cases a day?

Frankly, it's so contagious that if you don't want to catch it then don't go anywhere. Mind you, I've always felt that the onus should be on those not wanting to catch it to stay home, rather than others having to curtail their freedom in case someone catches it.

I find this attitude awful. What about those who are disabled, under chemo or other situations that make them CEV? Do their ‘freedoms’ not count? We have the rules to enable everyone to have a degree of freedom, not just those who ‘aren’t afraid’

@hedgehogger1

If you've got it you stay in for 10 days, a lot more reasonable than expecting vulnerable folk to stay in for the rest of the bloody pandemic. Some people are just beyond selfish.

I’ve learned from mumsnet that my life doesn’t matter as long as people can get a pint or go to the panto. I’ve learned I’m supposed to stay in my house indefinitely because others need their freedom more than I do. Im told not to send my kids to school if I’m so worried about catching it as a clinically extremely vulnerable person. Im reminded daily it’s only the old, obese and disabled that are dying so that’s ok… despite being neither old nor obese and my disability wasn’t a choice I actively made.

All those life must go on people haven’t stopped to consider or genuinely don’t care that for over 170,000 in the UK alone, life didn’t go on. It ended. That for over 2million people who had to shield and in reality still do that life goes on with anxiety and fear or hidden away… but currently not-disabled people assume that will never be them.

Husbands clearly a stupid twat aswell because the rule has been to ALWAYS stay home if you have any symptoms. She's also had a positive LFT so course her PCR is going to be positive.

YANBU and anyone who thinks you are is a dickhead and a bit thick.

@rainbowstardrops presumably you've had the vaccine and the booster. This is as good as it gets now covid isn't going anywhere and if you are a teacher pretty sure you will have had it/had antibodies.

Fuck right off with the selfish chat. It has been two years. We have sacrificed plenty. It’s not selfish to want to carry on with your life. It’s entirely normal and understandable. Stop trying to demonise people for this.

Like viruses care you think you've sacrificed plenty. Like that's how biology works. And no its not normal or understandable to be a selfish prick who doesn't care if they infect other people and keep the pandemic going full tilt. No one is demonising them they are just pointing out the obvious that they are either stupid or selfish or both.

@UserError012345

I don't blame her. This madness has to stop

Gosh, all those silly scientists and doctors and medical experts and thousands of people dying... just making it all up.

There is no helping some people.

@Marianne1234

Fuck right off with the selfish chat. It has been two years. We have sacrificed plenty. It’s not selfish to want to carry on with your life. It’s entirely normal and understandable. Stop trying to demonise people for this.

It is bloody selfish if you know you've actually got it! And the odds are that she has. You get more false negatives than positives with lateral flows.

Why do people only think of themselves?

Maybe she has wine and cheese in her bag so is calling it a meeting instead

She is an absolute dick BUT I'm not sure what you mean about 'banning' her (figure of speech?). I would only cut off someone my children had their own relationships with for something truly heinous, and this doesn't reach that threshold.

The rules are very clear. Once you have a positive lateral flow you isolate. The only time you leave home is to go for or post a pcr test. I know this because my eldest has tested positive yesterday. My partner tested positive today and I was negative. Ad a result I have just done our shopping online incase I test positive over next few days. If you wanted to be a cow you could contact the police and point out sil has broken the law in going and putting others at risk. I'm sure when test and trace call her up and she says she went out after taking the test they will point out she has committed an offence and can be issued a fine for it.

[quote Wizzbangfizz]@rainbowstardrops presumably you've had the vaccine and the booster. This is as good as it gets now covid isn't going anywhere and if you are a teacher pretty sure you will have had it/had antibodies.[/quote]

Yes, I've had all the available jabs so far but haven't had Covid as far as I'm aware.
I'm just pissed off that selfish people are gathering here, there and everywhere and with every Tom, Dick and Harry, even when they've bloody tested positive or have symptoms but will still send little Harry in 'because kids don't get it too bad' and it's 'no big deal' etc etc bloody etc.

It's bloody selfish.

Risk killing someone to see a pantomine.

@WhatAHexIGotInto

And I don't know what you were doing over the summer and autumn but my family were out and about as normal.

Likewise @Notonthestairs. We were abroad, cinema, meals out, concerts, theatre etc all normal stuff. I don't know why people are pretending they've been locked in their houses for two years.

Because a friend of mine who suffers from a blood disease, virtually has.

After 3 vaccines she still has no antibodies.
And because of this bloody pandemic she also hasn't been able to have her regular infusions. So she doesn't feel that great either.

So there are some out there who aren't 'pretending'.

She has no issue with people going out and about, but she has a huge issue with selfish twats who don't follow rules and risk other peoples' lives.

Why did she tell you after she'd taken your son not when she picked him up/you dropped him off? That doesn't make sense.

@lljkk I did wonder that but she told SIL and MIL so I would find out at some point. I think she timed it as she did as she loves the drama and to wind me up and to have "control" (she knows I will be upset all afternoon)

I’d have had more sympathy with her for going to the theatre without testing at all than going knowing she’s tested positive on LF.

It seems weird that she bothered testing if she was going to ignore the result anyway.

@BellaChagall if she told me then I'd have shut the door on her and not let DS near her!

Stupid, stupid idiot.

I hope they read this, realise it is about them and learn. I cannot believe people are so stupid and selfish.

Don't let it upset you then. Just "ban" her.

So many crazy sisters in law on here recently
Like that one the other day who deliberately infected half her family
They sound more trouble than they're worth
Quite glad I don't have one

@anotherannoyngSIL that's even worse! She deliberately didn't tell you. Awful.