To dread the return of my 3 year old Dd…

[Breastfeedingworries]

She’s due back in just over 5 minutes. I can barely stand, I’m so dizzy with flu, my throats on fire, I ache all over and I’m cripplingly tired.

Her dad was poorly and passed it on to her Xmas Eve unknown to me (obviously isn’t his fault and isn’t Covid) but I’ve now caught it from her so at least she’s immune. However! Last night I nearly hit her with a hair brush! I feel so unstable and poorly and I have no help. I obviously love my dd and do not want to hurt her but I feel that poorly I have zero tolerance.

Que her making messes, throwing food refusing to go to bed until after 9 last night.

No idea what to do, not sure how long I will be this poorly for and I have no help. Friends wouldn’t step in as no one would want to catch it.

Is there anything out there for support? A number I can call. I obviously would never hurt her but the level of sickness I feel bed bound poorly. Any advice appreciated it.

@Pumperthepumper is in the midst of fasting

I suggest you make yourself a snack

@Excitedforthefuture

But telling someone they have reached their limit

When there is no other option and that “limit” was a passing though 24 hours ago, then what value do you think it brings to the OP

I’m an going to take a punt
You are married
Have a supportive husband
Have a family network locally

I’m a single parent
No family network whatsoever

We do exist

There is another option for the OP though. The child’s father could take time off. And I’m sure he would, no matter how difficult it was, if he knew this was the extent to which the OP was struggling.

[quote Excitedforthefuture]@Pumperthepumper is in the midst of fasting

I suggest you make yourself a snack[/quote]
This is the second time you’ve said something about me and food, and I don’t understand it. Are you confusing me for someone else?

[quote Pumperthepumper]@Breastfeedingworries that’s a big leap then from
never smacking and having to stop yourself hitting her with a hairbrush.[/quote]
Oh behave. If you are feeling ill and your child is playing up you react completely different to normal.

There is another option for the OP though. The child’s father could take time off. And I’m sure he would, no matter how difficult it was, if he knew this was the extent to which the OP was struggling.

OP has explained why this can't happen! Can you not read?

You know damn fine well that you're not anxious about children, your crass comment about a lot of children being abused lately I will assume was talking about Arthur and Star.... this is clearly not the same.

Go away, you're not adding to the immediate need of the OP. All you're doing is effectively saying "she's a threat to her daughter".

Shame on you for trying to make ridiculous comparison to recent murdered children.

Hello all sorry for slow response

@Breastfeedingworries

Hello all sorry for slow response

Do not be sorry, how are you?

Remember fluids, fluids, fluids!

@Pumperthepumper

If you were on the phone to your daughter
And the sum total of your support would be to reiterate that she was at her limit and that her ex needs to take time off work (even though she has repeat ad nauseous that isn’t a possibility), then god help your daughter

[quote Excitedforthefuture]@Pumperthepumper

If you were on the phone to your daughter
And the sum total of your support would be to reiterate that she was at her limit and that her ex needs to take time off work (even though she has repeat ad nauseous that isn’t a possibility), then god help your daughter[/quote]
Ok. What’s the thing about food? About me fasting and so on?

I haven’t been able to keep up and read all your messages but thank you to most of you. She’s currently Playing in the bath and I’m laying down outside the open door. Isn’t very comfy!

I just hope I feel better tomorrow, the problem with asking friends is this flu is doing the rounds and people don’t want it. Older friends are vulnerable, her dad would have been best option. But do understand why he can’t, if I feel worse I’ll be calling my older sister, she lives over an hour away so that’s last resort.

@Breastfeedingworries

Hello all sorry for slow response

Don't apologise, your hone sick alone with a 3 year old, you've got way more to worry about than replying to the thread.

Do you have fluids and easy to munch food?

I’m trying to drink but it hurts so much to swallow, haven’t managed to eat anything b it few spoonfuls of soup. I just hope I get sleep soon. Dd is being good, house is trashed tho, gifts everywhere and total chaos but I can fix all that when better. I’m dizzy when walking so mainly trying to lay down.

So I am correct?

Your perspective is from someone married to a supportive husband with family support close by.

OP, ignore completely. I will now.

@Excitedforthefuture

So I am correct?

Your perspective is from someone married to a supportive husband with family support close by.

OP, ignore completely. I will now.

No, you’re not. And you’re not correct about the food thing either, which I now suspect you realise.

Don’t bother reading all the posts Op

Just know that the overwhelming majority of us are rooting for you!

You must have given it up then! The fasting that is

@Breastfeedingworries

I’m trying to drink but it hurts so much to swallow, haven’t managed to eat anything b it few spoonfuls of soup. I just hope I get sleep soon. Dd is being good, house is trashed tho, gifts everywhere and total chaos but I can fix all that when better. I’m dizzy when walking so mainly trying to lay down.

Don't worry about the eating, just worry about the fluids.

The house being trashed doesn't matter one bit,

The second DD is in bed, you go too.

@Excitedforthefuture

You must have given it up then! The fasting that is

I don’t understand what this means. You’re being weirdly cryptic about it.

@Excitedforthefuture

So I am correct?

Your perspective is from someone married to a supportive husband with family support close by.

OP, ignore completely. I will now.

No her dad and are aren’t Together, parents are working away miles away sister lives over an hour and actually has zero experience with young children so everything you’ve said is wrong.

Sorry I didn’t know this had turned into a fasting thread. But if it’s still on I will update when I can.

Oh op, I wasn’t talking to you! Horrid PP

@Pumperthepumper

Two words

Advance search

OP I think Exciteds post was in relation to the unhelpful poster on the thread not you lovely.

Keep trying to drink as the fluids are the most important way to get better and as soon as DD goes to bed take yourself off too.

Do you actually have The Flu OP?

@Pumperthepumper. When I was a child, being hit with a hairbrush if you wiggled or whined was Tuesday. It happened occasionally. Thinking about doing something and doing it are two different things. Brush her hair, but use a dollop of conditioner on dry hair to make it easy then braid it tightly. You can’t let long hair start to mat.