To ask if you orgasm during sex

[Tootaloo]

This is something that's always made me feel different to other women, for some reason. I've NEVER been able to orgasm during sex, ever. Or through any type of penetration.

Is this quite common?

YABU - Yes, you're able to
YANBU - No, you can't either

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Only with a larger penis or fisting can I cum from penetration alone

I can also have both vaginal and clitoral orgasms. With DP it's always the former, occasionally, when the planets align I can have both in one session- if I'm on top, for instance. So yes, I can orgasm through PIV. DP is the only partner I've ever had that has given me those though- it was a very welcome surprise!

I prefer vaginal- to me, the difference between the two is like having a full dinner (vaginal) or a snack (clitoral)

Never

I can orgasm through both, although it depends on position & whether it stimulates the clitoris and/or g-spot. Vaginal and clitoral orgasms are qualitatively different for me. However, the most spectacular orgasms come from stimulation of both, and the best sessions involve orgasms from both.

I feel a bit icky replying to this as a man but in my entire sexual career (though Im not a Casanova) there has been a single occasion where I sort of believe that a woman has orgasmed solely through my penis in her vagina, and tbh it was a bit weird and intense.
Or maybe I’m just shit in bed, but I’m bloody glad the clitoris is there as backup.

@Palmfrond

I feel a bit icky replying to this as a man but in my entire sexual career (though Im not a Casanova) there has been a single occasion where I sort of believe that a woman has orgasmed solely through my penis in her vagina, and tbh it was a bit weird and intense. Or maybe I’m just shit in bed, but I’m bloody glad the clitoris is there as backup.

Most of the time, when I orgasm through PIV it's due to clitoral stimulation.

YABU

Every time. But I generally have to be on top

Yes, the basic 101 positions of missionary and on top are clitoral stimulation to me

@BirdsRoundandRound
In missionary position the mans lower abs/pelvic area, hits or rubs against the clitoris and stimulates it. I guess it depends on the woman's anatomy as all vaginas are different and also her sensitivity. But also on the mans body type.

It depends on the position and whether your clit gets enough direct stimulation. It happens sometimes

@Cotswoldmama

Yes and nearly always.

Me too. Always have.

I orgasm relatively easily with the right partner but I got the shock of my life when during a particularly torrid session I ejaculated. I didn’t know what had happened, hadn’t been aware that such a thing existed. I now keep a bath sheet handy in the hope we reach that level again but sadly it has happened only 5 times.

@Tootaloo

This is something that's always made me feel different to other women, for some reason. I've NEVER been able to orgasm during sex, ever. Or through any type of penetration.

Is this quite common?

YABU - Yes, you're able to
YANBU - No, you can't either

Does google not work where you live? Because that's a very obvious and easily found answer.

But I guess it's not quite as fun as reading everyone's stories. Bit taken aback at how many people are so keen to share details of how they orgasm with strangers asking odd questions on the internet.

Yes but not always. Has to be specific positions (missionary or me on top), a particular tempo (i.e. very slow!), and generally a fair bit of foreplay.

Outside of penetration I come very easily, which I think is quite lucky.

yes I can, although it used to be a 100% guarantee and now it is very rare. I blame my ruined pelvic floor + weight gain; I think things just don't meet the way they used to, in every way

@Shodan

I can also have both vaginal and clitoral orgasms. With DP it's always the former, occasionally, when the planets align I can have both in one session- if I'm on top, for instance. So yes, I can orgasm through PIV. DP is the only partner I've ever had that has given me those though- it was a very welcome surprise!

I prefer vaginal- to me, the difference between the two is like having a full dinner (vaginal) or a snack (clitoral)

I agree with your metaphor!

@Shitandhills

I can't orgasm just from penetration but I quite frequently have orgasms in my sleep and wake up midway through. How weird is that?!

I have them fairly often and it's the only time I've ever had multiples.

I've never been able to either via penetration. I'm 22 for reference, been on antidepressants for over a decade so my GP says that's why. (doesn't explain the killer pain every time I have sex- gynaecologist didn't have an answer to that either).

@Shitandhills

I can't orgasm just from penetration but I quite frequently have orgasms in my sleep and wake up midway through. How weird is that?!

I do that too!

All the movies and books make it seem so normal and possible to guarantee orgasm during penetration- very different reality.

No never done with vaginal sex do t have sex now.

Not from PIV but I do have multiples (as in 5-10) so I'll settle for that!

Sorry no sex now for me, never been a big part of this marriage.

I was married/LTR for 20 years and NEVEF had an orgasm with my then partner but frequently had dream orgasms. Discovered that subsequent partners could indeed make it happen (go figure ) There was a definite psychological barrier with ex which has now disappeared THANK GOD. It’s all clitoral and was a huge reward to me after we split. My first orgasm was at the age of 42