To ask if you orgasm during sex

[Tootaloo]

This is something that's always made me feel different to other women, for some reason. I've NEVER been able to orgasm during sex, ever. Or through any type of penetration.

Is this quite common?

YABU - Yes, you're able to
YANBU - No, you can't either

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Only on top so my clitoris is stimulated and only if I’m controlling the motion. These days it’s much rarer for that to happen - we used to always start that way. I don’t know why but I just can’t get into it in the same way as I’ve got older.

My only failsafe orgasms come from “self-care”.

I do still like having sex though, even without O.

Not From penetration. Kind of have to grind if PIV

@Idolovetrees

Unfortunately for me no, never. I've only been able to do it on my own and now there's the association that it's something that I only do alone and that's hard to break. I have tried to let go but I just can't. I've not orgasmed with anyone. I love my husband and we do have satisfying sex, but it just doesn't happen. It's quite sad really. I am quite a sensitive and anxious personality though anyway and find it hard to let go.

I completely understand this! My DP can make me orgasm with a toy, but it never feels as good as when I'm alone.

What prompted you to join Mumsnet and ask this question tonight?

Not with just penatrive sex, I need clitoral stimulation too. Tbh, I can ‘sort’ myself out in about 10 minutes with my bunny vibrator (the ears provide excellent stimulation).
I have a we-vibe type vibrator which cost me a fortune. I much prefer my rampant rabbit from ann summers

Is there still a Sex topic? Have you tried posting on there? Might help with your research 😎

@OnlyAFleshWound

What prompted you to join Mumsnet and ask this question tonight?

Insecurities, and the fact that I'm sick of it

@OnlyAFleshWound

What prompted you to join Mumsnet and ask this question tonight?

Tbf, a good open chat about fingering, clitoral stimulation, sexual positions and the best vibrator (if we're lucky we might get instructions on how to use it!) is always welcome on a Saturday night ☺️

@FriteFuaite

Is there still a Sex topic? Have you tried posting on there? Might help with your research 😎

No tbh, I haven't. Maybe I should try there too

@FriteFuaite

LMAO!!!! 🤣🤣

I always orgasm - I know which position works for me (on top).

Yes, but position and angle dependent.

Pressure needed internally and externally.

Usually. Certain positions will do it, though it's not as intense as a clitoral orgasm.

Yes I do most of the time. Best orgasms are while he's sat up and I'm riding facing him.

I do, a lot more after children as I have found I am more sensitive down there! With my ex boyfriend before DH, I never orgasmed once, through PIV, only fingering, though we were 16 so he wasn't great, two pumps and it was over...

Yes always - but with foreplay first!

No should I not have posted that?? Oops!

Also really interested with those who say they can - is it literally just the PIV bit that works for you, with no clitoral stimulation needed?

Yes, it can be. I can have vaginal and clitoral orgasms.

@santaclothes

Also really interested with those who say they can - is it literally just the PIV bit that works for you, with no clitoral stimulation needed?

Yes, it can be. I can have vaginal and clitoral orgasms.

Are they much different to one another? Always been curious to know that

I can't orgasm just from penetration but I quite frequently have orgasms in my sleep and wake up midway through. How weird is that?!

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Link to product and not shy name dropping. Could you be more overt?!

The coital alignment technique is what works for me. You need clit stimulation everytime.

@Shitandhills me too.