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This isn't enough for Christmas....

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bridgeovertroubledwatrr · 13/12/2021 17:11

Strangely this is my first proper boyfriend at 29Confused
Anyway been together 7 months and I'm not sure if I have enough for him for Christmas
So far
Adidas tee
Vans tee
Adidas jogging bottoms
Backback
Pjs
Socks

Spent around £120
Do I get more bits or am I okay with that?
Don't want to come across stingy but then don't want to be ott
Is this okay ?

OP posts:
Fatgalslim · 13/12/2021 17:14

7 months in? Probably more than I'd spend to be honest

PinkWaferBiscuit · 13/12/2021 17:14

£120 is a huge sum in my opinion. I honestly don't know anyone who spends that much on their significant other for Christmas, most people I know myself included just do a few small bits. Did you set a budget?

FlickyCrumble · 13/12/2021 17:15

Check what he's spending on you.

HippeePrincess · 13/12/2021 17:15

That’s over the top 7 months in in my opinion

MistyGreenAndBlue · 13/12/2021 17:16

7 months? I'd probably have hit him a card and some beer Grin

Cheeseycheeseycheesecheese · 13/12/2021 17:17

I think that's a fine amount of items. (I'd probably swap something out for chocolates, but that's because dh likes chocolate) Value wise a bit high imo. But it's your money to spend as you see fit.

Have a lovely first Christmas.

NotAshamedToFancyTheGrinch · 13/12/2021 17:18

It’s plenty. If he tells you it isn’t enough or sulks about it then ltb.

dudsville · 13/12/2021 17:18

It all depends on where you're both coming from financially.

Comedycook · 13/12/2021 17:19

That's loads!

TeacupDrama · 13/12/2021 17:19

it's more than I spend on ym husband so yes plenty

Pinkflipflop85 · 13/12/2021 17:20

Seems a bit ott!

Akire · 13/12/2021 17:21

If you are on mim wage it’s what half a weeks pay that’s huge sum. If you earn £50k not so much. Either way I’d except them to be nothing but grateful and if they started hugging about “is that all” I’d start 2022 as single! It’s a new relationship so hard to know unless you had exact conversations some families just exchange socks and that’s it. Long as it’s not getting you into hardship that’s main thing.

stealthninjamum · 13/12/2021 17:22

I think that’s a lot for 7 months. I think I spent about £40 on my boyfriends first Xmas. This year is our third and I’ll probably spend about £100.

Wrongaddress · 13/12/2021 17:22

I spend about £100 on my OH, we've been together 7 years. I'd quite happily not bother but he loves Christmas Xmas Hmm

WithANameLikeDaniCalifornia · 13/12/2021 17:22

Do you know how much he’s going to spend on you? It’s going to be a bit awkward if he’s sitting there unwrapping half of Jd sports and all you get is a box of Quality Street.

percythewitch · 13/12/2021 17:24

I would consider all those to be "bits"

My OH does this - drives me mad.

If someone is going to spend that amount of money (which is insane in the first place IMO) then buy one nice thing within budget and a few minor extras such as chocolates/scratch cards/whatever.

I always ask which is the main present to open and my heart sinks every single time he says "it doesn't really matter what order you open them"

When someone asks what did MrWitch get you for Christmas/birthday I would love to be able to say "a lovely necklace/a beautiful book/a coveted handbag" instead of "some CDs, socks, a notebook and stuff" (the total cost of which would have bought one nice thing that I actually want).

But I am having a very bad day so just ignore my rant Xmas Blush

MsVestibule · 13/12/2021 17:28

It really does depend on your income, but if you can afford it, it's not OTT. I understand the 'how much are we spending on each other' could be an embarrassing conversation this early in a relationship but as long as you don't mind if he doesn't reciprocate, don't worry about it.

I hope you have a lovely first Christmas together 😊.

CSJobseeker · 13/12/2021 17:29

It's a lot of things, but none of them seem very personal to me. With romantic partners, I've tended to go for fewer (and possibly cheaper) items, but try to make it really personal. E.g. a framed photo of a place I know he has good memories of.

Obviously you know best what he'd like though! And £120 is more than enough.

CSJobseeker · 13/12/2021 17:30

When someone asks what did MrWitch get you for Christmas/birthday I would love to be able to say "a lovely necklace/a beautiful book/a coveted handbag" instead of "some CDs, socks, a notebook and stuff" (the total cost of which would have bought one nice thing that I actually want).

I agree with this. One nice thing that's really personal is best.

Clymene · 13/12/2021 17:30

It's way too much for 7 months. I'd spend max £50 and that's only if I really liked them.

WhatToDo1988 · 13/12/2021 17:33

Strange choice of presents....his mother can buy him clothes and socks, not his girlfriend of 7 months. For Christmas, you want to buy him something nice and fun. Keep it light. And £120 is quite a lot actually.

Nidan2Sandan · 13/12/2021 17:35

I've been with DH for 16 years and spent about £100. So I think you've over compensated somewhat for 7 months Wink

ChiefStockingStuffer · 13/12/2021 17:35

Too much, too random, too generic.

Would you be happy if he did the same for you in reverse ... couple of tshirts, leggings, backpack, socks ... or would you prefer that he bought you one thoughtful think that shows he 's really getting to know you.

Fritilleries · 13/12/2021 17:35

That's 4x what I've spent on my hubby of 16 years! Grin

EmpressSuiko · 13/12/2021 17:36

Way over the top!

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