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Original poster

Twat at the softplay car park

413 replies

CheeseFiend36 · 12/12/2021 13:36

Leaving soft play this morning and walking towards our car. A family had parked next to us and were getting ready to go in. Their car was parked really close to my right side which is where toddler DS's car seat is. I opened his door really gently but couldn't open it wide enough to get him in without making some contact with their car, so I rested it on their left side passenger door and I made sure I did it softly, even then it was still tight. Man from the family comes up behind me while I was strapping DS in and says "please can you take your door off my car". I turned around and politely asked "sorry?", He repeated it. I said "I've done it gently", he then started walking off and said sarcastically "oh that makes it ok then", I said loudly back "well if you gave me some space I wouldn't have had to", which he ignored

Was I being unreasonable to have leaned my car door against his so that I had some space to put my child in? I wasn't tutting or being arsey or anything, but I'm not sure what he expected me to do

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Chamomileteaplease · 12/12/2021 13:38

I would have asked him to repark his car further away! You had good reason.

HugeAckmansWife · 12/12/2021 13:38

Could you no have reached across from the other side? I mean, yes, twatty, generally.. He could have left a proper gap or seen the problem and offered to move over but you could have reached across from the other sud.

HugeAckmansWife · 12/12/2021 13:39

Side, ffs!

CrushedPistachios · 12/12/2021 13:40

Yabu

Original poster
CheeseFiend36 · 12/12/2021 13:42

I had a car seat on the other side for my other DS so it would have been really difficult grappling to get the toddler in to his seat, strapping him in is a challenge at the best of times Blush

After he went inside, I checked the other side of his car and he'd left himself a wide berth!

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SusieBob · 12/12/2021 13:42

Why didn't you just reverse a bit and give yourself room?

Ponoka7 · 12/12/2021 13:42

If the car seat was in the car when he parked, then that's on him.

Original poster
CheeseFiend36 · 12/12/2021 13:45

@SusieBob

Why didn't you just reverse a bit and give yourself room?
Why didnt he reverse to give me room if he could see me struggling ? His kids were already out of the car and standing with their mum. I was by myself with 2 kids, it would have been easier and safer for him to re-park more appropriately
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EvilPea · 12/12/2021 13:45

Sorry. Yes you are. I had a car damaged when someone did that and the getting in and out made the car go up and down so wobbled the door up and down so put specked marks that didn’t polish out.

When my cars been close I either clamber in another way or drive the car out the space and then load up.

Merryhobnobs · 12/12/2021 13:45

Why didn't she reverse with two presumably small kids as they both have car seats standing in the car park? That would be safe. No she was fine. Resting a car door on another car does not cause damage. Other person should have parked more considerately.

EvilPea · 12/12/2021 13:46

He’s clearly a dick for not parking centrally though.

I do tend to check what’s in the car next to me to give more space to a driver or car seat if I can

daisydoh · 12/12/2021 13:48

YABU, you sound entitled.

KatieKat88 · 12/12/2021 13:50

YANBU, if you park like an idiot there are natural consequences. You wouldn't have damaged his car from resting your door against it anyway, and if he was so worried about that he should have parked more considerately. I'm sick of returning to my car with my toddler and finding that I can barely get her in because someone has parked so close to me. The other day it was a mum at the same playgroup as me and her excuse was that the car on the other side was too close when she parked there - find another space then! When I'd parked up there was plenty of space from the car that was there at the time. So frustrating!

nothingcanhurtmewithmyeyesshut · 12/12/2021 13:52

Make sure you bang it on the way back. Hard.

Sirzy · 12/12/2021 13:52

Surely you could have just asked him to move the car?

Kbyodjs · 12/12/2021 13:53

Well no it doesn’t make it ok. When that happens I use my hand to cushion between the two doors so it doesn’t rest on the other car. Or I climb through the other side, not perfect but I don’t think it’s ok to rest it on the other door as it can still leave a mark

Rosebel · 12/12/2021 13:54

You both sound unreasonable.

DixieSun · 12/12/2021 13:54

UABU. You can't do that gently and think it's okay? Grin

mary246 · 12/12/2021 13:55

I would have probably asked him if he could move as I couldn't open the door seeing as he was by here. If he refused then I'd have done the same as you

trickytrudy · 12/12/2021 13:55

You knew they were getting ready to go into the soft play. I would have just waited until they'd got out and gone in (weather/grumpy or not child permitting)

fabulousathome · 12/12/2021 13:56

I think I would have gone into the soft play place and asked them to make a annoucement.

He was definitely at fault.

SoupDragon · 12/12/2021 13:56

You were equally twatty TBH. He asked nicely and then you were both equally sarcastic. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Original poster
CheeseFiend36 · 12/12/2021 13:58

@daisydoh

YABU, you sound entitled.
I respect your opinion

My opinion is that I wouldn't have had to display my act of "entitledness" had he not acted entitled to park without consideration for the cars next to him

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kowari · 12/12/2021 13:59

I would park close to one line in future, so you have more space on the side you have to get the toddler in. If he was within the lines then he had done nothing wrong and you shouldn't have touched his car.

FAQs · 12/12/2021 13:59

YABU! Many car parking spaces are too small for modern cars. Agree to the person who said you was acting entitled.

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