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Do you think 22 is too young to get married?

211 replies

SleepingNWeeping · 10/12/2021 21:32

Do you?

Like the type of marriage that lasts past 45/50 (when I’ve heard other couples start getting divorced).

Is it better to have multiple relationships throughout your life for each stage of your life instead of banking on the same relationship with the same person for 40+ years?

OP posts:
parietal · 10/12/2021 21:34

there is no overall rule. some marriages as 22 could last 60 years, and some could last 6 months.

firstimemamma · 10/12/2021 21:35

Not necessarily too young. The lady next door to me got married when she was 19 and that was over 60 years ago. They are an absolutely lovely couple and so in love.

CaptaNoctem · 10/12/2021 21:35

Well I married at 22 and have just celebrated my 39th wedding anniversary.

No plans to divorce either

ShowOfHands · 10/12/2021 21:35

Depends on the couple. DH and I met as teens, he proposed when he was 22 and we married a year later. We've been together 22yrs now. We're not the norm amongst friends however.

DeepaBeesKit · 10/12/2021 21:36

I've been with DH since he was 19 and I just turned 21. A strong relationship is flexible enough to last through different life stages.

GoodnightGrandma · 10/12/2021 21:37

I think it is, because I got married at that age.
I should have shagged more blokes and travelled before I tied myself down.

thenewduchessofhastings · 10/12/2021 21:37

I got married at 20.we've been married for over 17 years and together 21 years.

DeepaBeesKit · 10/12/2021 21:38

Oh and my mother met my father when was 16 and he was 21. Married nearly 50 years.

gogohm · 10/12/2021 21:38

My mother married at 19, she's still married

EmpressCixi · 10/12/2021 21:38

A good, lasting marriage isn’t a box ticking exercise of
Age, #sex partners, £ income, #homes owned, # countries travelled to, # degrees obtained, etc.

Some 22 year olds are too young, others are not too young. And in life there is no guarantee that you will find the right person at all much less at a specific point in your life....ie. age 29, marry at 35, etc. You meet them when the universe decides you meet them. I’ve known successful couples who met as 14yr olds and others as 54yr olds.

So, I think it is very much down to the individuals and luck.

HandlebarLadyTash · 10/12/2021 21:38

Met at 19, married at 24, still married at 45
It's working for us

CoffeeBeansGalore · 10/12/2021 21:38

I married at 21. Just had 30th anniversary.

Floralnomad · 10/12/2021 21:39

I got married when I was 22 , met my husband when I was 18 - it’s worked ok for us , we’ve been married for 30+ years and very happily .

vodkaredbullgirl · 10/12/2021 21:39
Hmm
upaladderagain · 10/12/2021 21:40

It totally depends on who you marry. Which is no help at all. Sorry.

TreeLawney · 10/12/2021 21:40

Well my parents married at 23, celebrated their Ruby wedding last year.

DH & I also married young - we just knew we had met the right person so why wait? 15 years of very happy marriage and counting.

Santahatesbraisedcabbage · 10/12/2021 21:40

An old friend of mine met her dh at 13. Married at 16. Still together at 50. And have 7 dc!!

HalfShrunkMoreToGo · 10/12/2021 21:41

I got married at 22, 16 years later still going strong.

VladmirsPoutine · 10/12/2021 21:41

It would be odd now, but back in the day I suppose it would seem normal. Women by and large didn't have all that much independence back then.

StrychnineInTheSandwiches · 10/12/2021 21:42

I wouldn't have wanted to marry at 22 and wouldn't be thrilled if my child wanted to get married at 22 either.

hivemindneeded · 10/12/2021 21:43

Not necessarily. I know loads of marriages that began young and are going strong and only one that failed.

Usernameisgone · 10/12/2021 21:44

I got married at 21(him 31)
Had been together since I was 17.
We split up 3 years ago when I was 32.
We were together a long time and had alot of ups and downs, but ultimately we wanted different things in life.

SecondhandTable · 10/12/2021 21:45

Depends on the people! Me and DH got married at 20, been married almost 9 years now and been together since we were 18. We have grown in to 'proper' adults together so it has been a journey. We are very happy and have two children now. My DGM and DGF got married at 18 and were together until his death when he was in his mid 70s. DH's DGM and DGF likewise married at 21 and together until his death at 80. I think statistically people who get married under 25 are more likely to divorce though I think I remember reading that somewhere?

onlychildhamster · 10/12/2021 21:45

I got married at 22 in 2015. Still happy but I guess it hasn't been that long :)

Pysgodywibliwobli · 10/12/2021 21:46

It would have been too young for me.

I met my now husband and we were together from age 21 ( almost 20 years ago). Lived together from age 23. Now Married 8 years and 2dc.

Had I married him at 21 I think it would have changed my mindset. There were certain things both of us wanted to achieve before settling down and it sort of allowed us that freedom - perusing academic qualifications, working abroad etc.

To me your 20s are for experimenting, risk taking, partying and working hard. I wanted to freedom to do all those things.