Do you think 22 is too young to get married?

[SleepingNWeeping]

Do you?

Like the type of marriage that lasts past 45/50 (when I’ve heard other couples start getting divorced).

Is it better to have multiple relationships throughout your life for each stage of your life instead of banking on the same relationship with the same person for 40+ years?

I was 22 when I married DH. I fully believe e would have had 40 years at least together if he hadn't died after 20. I think it's about compatibility, some people are lucky and met the love of their life at 22, others don't until they are in their 40s or 50s. It's the luck of the draw.

It's young and was unheard of in my social circle (we are all sadly far older than 22 now). But young and too young aren't necessarily the same thing.

Completely depends.

Some people are mature at 22 others are immature.

In regards to the marriage lasting until you die if you are mature you need a crystal ball.

I met my DH at 19, married at 21 and had our first child at 23. We have been together 20 years next year (married for 17 now). He is 8 years older than me, not sure if that makes a difference.
We’ve had some ups and downs as I expect most marriages have but overall we’re still really happy together. Still enjoying spending time together, regularly intimate, still hug give a kiss goodbye etc.

I married at 22. No regrets. Still with DH.

Not too young if it feels right.

Met DH age 18 and married age 26, still together aged 34 and very happy.

You're going to get skewed responses on here @SleepingNWeeping The 'I married at 19 and am still married 40 years later' brigade will be roaring about how unreasonable you are, but I reckon you meant NOW. Is it too young NOW?

And I think it is. It suits some, but not all.

If my DD had said she was getting wed at 22, I would have been surprised, and a little disappointed TBH. I feel there is SO much more she can do with her life than getting hitched at 22. She is well-educated, intelligent, and ambitious, and has so much more to give - and so much more to do - before tying herself down with marriage and babies...

She is now 27, she as a university degree, she is climbing a successful career ladder, on a high salary, living with her boyfriend, and has travelled to 15 different countries in the past 9/10 years since she started uni (as well as 9 different countries with us as a child.)

I just can't imagine her being married at 22. But as I said, it suits some.... Some young women want nothing but marriage and babies, and that's fair enough. I know several girls/young women who got married at 20-22, and it's five to eight years on, and they have 2 kids each and seem happy as pigs in muck. So there is no one-size-fits all.

When I was a teen (1980s) LOADS of girls got married between 18 and 22, but around half of them were divorced within 5-10 years after realising they have nothing in common with the man they married, and by 27-28 years old, they were quite mature and grown up, and their 27 y.o. husband had spent much of their marriage behaving like he was still a single man, and was still very immature mentally...

Some of those women are still married to the same man though, their kids left home 10-15 years ago, and they are very happy.

I think 28-32 is a good age to get married, but as I said, there is no one-size-fits-all. Everyone is different.

I got married at 22. Still happily married after 20 years.

These days yes it is.

Met at 17 , married at 19 , divorced at 38.

Dh and I got married at 22. We were both too young, but luckily it didn’t work out, otherwise we would never have met and married each other in our 30s

Life and the economy is very difficult now as well.

Getting on the housing ladder whilst being single is nigh on impossible, it's still difficult as a couple with two incomes.

Finances aren't a reason to marry obviously, but understandable in these economic times.

I got married 2 weeks after my 23rd birthday (dh was 26). We've been married 16 years now so hopefully I wasn't too young. We'd been together 4.5 years before we got married.

@LittleDandelionClock but you can get married and still a degree and a career and travel . I have.

Not married at that age but we have been together since I was 19, now 35 married with kids. Never had another serious relationship and also not bothered about it

I think there's more chance of people changing or wanting different things down the line the younger you meet, but that can happen at any age too. Some people grow together, some grow apart.

Yes, in my opinion it's too young. I think anything under 26/27 is too young, and even that is a bit on the young side. 29/30 is about right.

I got married at 22, some people were very hostile about it at the time because of my age, no one who knew me well, but some work colleagues were very unpleasant.

We celebrated our 20th wedding anniversary this year and we’re still very happy, I’m quite confident we’ll still be in love in another 20.

I was confident it was a good idea because not only did we love each other but were also really nice to each other and got on really well, we had similar interests and could talk easily to each other. I could imagine it being good after the crazy love waned. I didn’t know if I’d meet anyone as lovely again so I decided to go for it despite being so young. Best decision ever.

I married at 22, DH was older. Still together nearly 25 years later. I’m the main breadwinner and I suspect I’ve done better in a solid relationship than I would have done on my own.

My parents got married when she was 17 and him 20
Still together 50 years on with 4 kids and 7 grandkids
Dunno why they don’t just spilt up as they are so unhappy together but from what I can gather my grandmother said they wouldn’t last 6 months
She died 20 odd years ago but my mother just won’t admit defeat and my father is waaayyy to dependent on her

It would have been too young for me but obviously not for others. My brother and his wife met when she was 16 and he was 18. They got married when she was 23 and still together 25 years later.

I was married at 22. Been married for 44 years next year.

I didn’t have DD till I was 35, though. 22 would have been too young for me to have a baby.

I got married at 23. Everyone at work told me I was mad, too young, etc. I don’t think it’s always been easy maturing together - we’ve both changed a lot since those days, and sometimes those ways haven’t been entirely compatible. But we’ve worked hard at our marriage and we are both so glad to be married to each other.

Since getting married we’ve lived in 3 different countries, we’ve travelled extensively, we’ve each completely restarted our careers, we’ve each done an MSc, and we have 3 super kids. I can’t see that I would’ve had a more fulfilling life without DH by my side.

I want to say yes, but I got with Dh at 20 and we’re still happily together 20 years later. We got married late 20's though. I wonder if we'd got married in our early 20's if that would have added some sort of pressure that might have caused issues? What I do know is, we both changed and matured loads from our early 20's to late 20's. Luckily we changed and grew together but, I can see how it could have easily gone the other way. So for that reason I'd say yes, I think it's too young. But, I don't think it means it can't work. I just think you know yourself better when you're older and I think you make better decisions when you know yourself better.