Do you change what drink you want when doing rounds at the pub?

[TheSoapyFrog]

My OH gets the hump with me when we go to the pub as I order my favourite wine and it can cost between £6 - 8 for a large glass depending on where we are. His pint is usually £3 - 5.
He is a tight arse and I'm trying to come to terms with it, but I wonder if I should order a small glass or a cheaper drink when he's paying and order what I want when I pay.
He (half jokingly, I hope) said that I should buy him two pints when it's my round to make up for it. I told him that was ridiculous, but is it?

YABU - I should order a smaller/cheaper drink when it's not my round.

YANBU - order what I want

It's called a round for a reason.

I would make a point of ordering and paying seperately.

Being tight is so unattractive.

That's really tight! I wouldn't expect spirits to be part of a round but wine is fine

Pathetic to moan about £3-4 🙈 not like he's buying every single round himself.

He's quibbling over about £3-4 per round, and would prefer you to have a drink you don't want. I could not stand this level of meaness. Next time, order a bottle and tell him to buy his own.

Does he split a packet of ready salted one crisp at a time too?

If it were a friend I regularly drank with and I typically had a drink that cost twice as much as hers, I would not change my drink, but I would make sure it is me buying the extra odd numbered round.

It seems very petty with a partner, I can’t imagine being in that scenario to comment.

Order what you want, that’s beyond tight and very unattractive! Have you been together a long time?

I have a friend that does this. He gets himself a beer when it's his round but when it's our round he asks for a gin & tonic and a packet of peanuts!! It makes me laugh!

So you are worth less than £3 to him?

Does he say this to other people he socialises with?

Tight with money - tight with love - so maybe be ready for the lack of kindness and respect at other times.

What’s is relationship history - did others move on quickly?

I change my order if someone else is paying to something with a more reasonable cost. It's ok saying it's only £3-4 however if you each get 2 rounds and go out 3 times a week that adds up, if however you go out once a month for a quick drink it's a different matter.

Because he’s your partner YANBU! However if it was a friend/ colleague I would order a small glass, not large.

No, I’m a wine drinker too. DH got a nice break when I was pregnant and had to order a coke and him a Peroni, but it’s back to normal now.

If it was a friend or other family member though I’d probably get a smaller glass or a cheaper wine. Or go to Wetherspoons where the drinks are largely the same price

“He is a tight arse and I'm trying to come to terms with it,”

Why?

Your partner resents spending a couple of quid so you can drink the thing that you actually enjoy? Christ almightly.

Why dont you just tell him to get his own drinks if its such an issue for him?

But im surprised you can keep up with someone drinking pints if drinking large glasses of wine, if in rounds with someone having pints i would probably go for a medium glass rather than large. Not because of the cost, but becuase i think its annoying if someone is not keeping up with other drinkers, who end up having an empty glass in front of them waiting for you to finish so you get the next round in...

Fuck That.
When we go to the pub DH orders me a double spirit measure in a tall glass because pub measures are crap🍷🍷and gets a pint for himself.
I wouldn't order a double (brandy) with friends if we are doing rounds but with family they always order doubles.

Stop going to the pub, or anywhere else with him

Is this a relatively new relationship? I can see this tipping over into all aspects of your life if he’s like this. No thanks!

Yeah good pint actually, DH often goes to her himself a pint while I’m still working through a large glass. Three large glasses is a bottle but quite easily consumed in a pub

I will start by saying that I do change my drink order if someone is buying a round, but that's in a group of friends or colleagues and there are many of us. I will order a cheaper drink, or a soft drink.

My own husband? No.

Ugh I hate buying round when my friends want double gin and tonics that are about £8 a go.

Maybe make sure that you always buy the first round, then it will likely even out cost-wise over time. It does depend how often you go out drinking though, and how much spare cash you both have. I would raise my eyebrows at my OH ordering a drink for £8, but we are saving at the moment and being careful with our spending.

Order what you want. I don’t do rounds. I order what I want to drink.

If I’m drinking with my husband, he pays the tab at the end.

FFS, if my partner was quibbling about buying me the drink I like, he definitely wouldn't be my partner anymore.

I cannot abide tightness and that's what this is. You like the drink and that's the size you like to have.