Do you change what drink you want when doing rounds at the pub?

[TheSoapyFrog]

My OH gets the hump with me when we go to the pub as I order my favourite wine and it can cost between £6 - 8 for a large glass depending on where we are. His pint is usually £3 - 5.
He is a tight arse and I'm trying to come to terms with it, but I wonder if I should order a small glass or a cheaper drink when he's paying and order what I want when I pay.
He (half jokingly, I hope) said that I should buy him two pints when it's my round to make up for it. I told him that was ridiculous, but is it?

YABU - I should order a smaller/cheaper drink when it's not my round.

YANBU - order what I want

Gosh what a horrible trait - I’d tell him to get his own drinks and you’ll get yours.
Does he do this regarding other things? It’s just so tight.
I couldn’t personally “come to terms” with that

He sounds tighter than a drum! If he is like this now ,then I dread to think what he would be like of you had DC together ! Please re think RL not boding well Im afraid!

Would you not be cheaper buying yourself a bottle of wine and he just does his own pints? If you're paying £6-£8 a glass, it sounds more economic to go for the bottle. Then you don't need to do multiple trips to the bar or rush to keep up with rounds.

Although in honesty, my DP would buy my bottle AND buy his pints. We don't keep a tally of such things. Sometimes he pays, sometimes I pay.

Just get your self a bottle and be done with all the pettiness.

I mean a large glass is practically half a bottle or something?

How many rounds do you have and how often do you go out? If it's lots then it could quickly add up to being a sun that affects his monthly budget.

@CloudyStorms no, a third.

@WheelieBinPrincess

If it was a friend or other family member though I’d probably get a smaller glass or a cheaper wine. Or go to Wetherspoons where the drinks are largely the same price

This definitely. Absolutely not with my husband though.

No, I order what I want!

@FriendWoes111

That's really tight! I wouldn't expect spirits to be part of a round but wine is fine

Why? A spirit & mixer is very unlikely to cost more than £6-8 (OP's wine) surely?

I wouldn't if I were with my husband, but in another group I would make sure I was ordering something broadly in line with everyone else.

Having said that, I'm not very keen on rounds - I prefer to drink at my own pace.

So when he comes round to yours and you cook for him, does he pay for his half of the food?

To answer your question, I order what I usually drink, if it's wine then I'd order wine. The inky time I'd change was if someone was driving, in which case I'd refuse to let them buy me a drink.

If thats what you, thats what you drink, just order it. If hes that bothered for the money, he can always have a half 🤭

Although we have encountered people who "change" their drink on anothers round it always seemed to be a more expensive option surprisingly 😅

It depends on how rich he is/you are as a couple and whether you have other cocklodger tendancies.

My husband and I never count the cost of rounds. However what do you mean other half, this signals a long term live in partnership, is this the case or is he just a boyfriend? How long have you been together?

Order what you want but I would pay for my own or pay for more rounds. Rounds only work if drinks are a similar cost or if it evens out.

I would order a medium glass in that situation.

There is nothing remotely attractive about penny pinching.

Start ordering him a half each time and see how much he likes it.

With dp it isn't an issue though, he would buy me champagne if I wanted it

I think it depends on the circumstances, with my husband it wouldn't matter what the cost differential in drinks was as we are one unit/household anyway.

With friends I have to admit that it has on occasion felt annoying when most of us had ordered a glass of wine or another similarly sized drink, but one decided that she was going to drink large premium gins and tonic that cost £14 each (where the glass of wine was around half that), but that is very different circumstances to going out with a partner.

This doesn't get better, OP. Tight people remain tight people for life. Is he living off you? Cocklodger type scenario?

With a group of colleagues/acquaintances, I'd go for something similar to what others are having.

With my own partner, I'd drink what I wanted.

Oh my word! On the rare occasions I drink I only have a small glass of wine whilst my bf or friend has a large one. I never think to quibble over a couple of quid and I would much prefer someone I love having the drink of their choice that they will enjoy.

From now on I would just pay my own and seriously feather my own nest.

@Confusedteacher

Because he’s your partner YANBU! However if it was a friend/ colleague I would order a small glass, not large.

This. I would also order a cocktail if I was paying but wouldn't ask or expect someone else to pay for an expensive cocktail for me.

If he's more concerned about £2 or £3 in his wallet than he is about you having what makes you happy, you have bigger problems than who has what drink.

Is he kind, loving, giving, thoughtful, otherwise?

Is he very very skint?