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To not appreciate vibrators etc playing a part on family dramas!
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Chamomileteaplease · 27/11/2021 13:32

Last night I started watching Bump on iplayer. In the first five minutes there is a scene where the mother's vibrator falls on the floor and is seen in all its glory.

I watched the first episode and it seemed like an OK drama, the kind you might watch with your older teens. But why do they have to throw in the vibrator scene? It wasn't needed and is just an embarrassment to the audience. Are they trying to be edgy??

A similar thing with Fleabag - I thought it would be a good series to watch with my older teenage daughter but then I remembered the first episode where she benignly accepts unasked for anal sex. The rest of the series is quite full on I would say, but nothing that bad again, from memory.

AIBU to be pissed off that programmes that might offer good family watching with older teens can be spoiled by unwarranted, in your face sexual scenes? Interested to hear if others agree.

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Am I being unreasonable?

AIBU

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Mantlemoose · 27/11/2021 13:33

No, I'm with you. Its poor writing IMO.

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Sparklingbrook · 27/11/2021 13:34

I agree. Also I found Bump a very weird watch TBH. Some strange family dynamics and a baby that seemed to not require much.

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NuffSaidSam · 27/11/2021 13:35

YABU.

Fleabag is not a family drama! Although it is suitable for older teens even with the anal sex bit (talk to your teens about it!).

I haven't seen Bump. If it is aimed at families then I would agree about the vibrator, but sounds like it's also not a family drama. It's perfectly acceptable for older teens to know about vibrators!

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Carrotte · 27/11/2021 13:37

Does it not warn you that there's adult content?

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CarrotSticks19 · 27/11/2021 13:38

I would say neither of those things prohibit older teens watching, it's just a vibrator, they will probably have seen one before. Fleabag is hardly a family drama, it's an adult comedy show.

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FionnulaTheCooler · 27/11/2021 13:41

Bump has quite a few explicit sex scenes so I wouldn't continue watching it with your teenagers if you're going to be embarrassed about that kind of thing. It wasn't really what I was expecting either, I thought it was going to be more focused on Oli learning to accept motherhood and take care of the baby, it seemed pretty unrealistic to have her stick the baby in a sling and carry on going to school as normal. Definitely wouldn't have happened at my school, a friend who had a teen pregnancy had childminder hours funded for her to let her continue her education, no way school would have allowed a young baby in the classroom.

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notacooldad · 27/11/2021 13:41

Bump isnt a cozy family drama.
Isnt it on well after the 9.00pm watershed. I saw it after news at 1p so it was on about 10.40pm.
It's not aimed at young teens and older teens would know about the stuff you are complaining about anyway.
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Chestnutshell · 27/11/2021 13:42

What’s shocking about a vibrator?

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2typesofjungle · 27/11/2021 13:44

I think it's pretty reasonable that some shows are not for watching with your teenage children, and that you take some responsibility for deciding what you watch.

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HollowTalk · 27/11/2021 13:44

My only gripe about fleabag was that anal sex scene at the start. It's the only bit I would cut from the whole lot.

In a way I felt she was sorting the viewers out into those who would stick with the programme and those who would switch off.

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TabithaTiger · 27/11/2021 13:48

Seriously? I think older teens know what a vibrator is! Did you never watch Inbetweeeners with your teens?

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DriftingPlateTectonic · 27/11/2021 13:48

Fleabag isn't something I'd watch with my teen, but I don't think the anal sex part is over the top or out of place in what is a very well written and acted show. If you don't want to risk a dildo showing up, you're going to have to make different choices about what you watch together.

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BarefootHippieChick · 27/11/2021 13:54

I've never seen either of these so can't comment on them in particular, but I think if you choose to watch anything with older teens you run the risk of one of you being embarrassed about some form of sex scene. There's very little content made these days that doesn't have any in. I guess it all depends on how comfortably you/your teen are with viewing it together.

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NightmareSlashDelightful · 27/11/2021 14:01

Neither Bump nor Fleabag are 'family dramas'. They're not Hamish Macbeth!

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Chamomileteaplease · 27/11/2021 14:03

Glad some agree Smile.

I suppose I feel that a bit of "normal" sex under the covers, the usual sort of stuff is bearable but for me, vibrator stuff is going further. A teen might know what one is, but you don't necessarily want to watch that stuff with them Grin.

I only watched the first episode of Bump so acquiesce that it perhaps isn't the family drama I thought it was. I figured a series about a teenage pregnancy would be suitable for a 16 year old. Maybe not.

Anyway, it is good to hear the views of others.

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BeingATwatItsABingThing · 27/11/2021 14:04

Haven’t seen either but the vibrator one sounds like you being a bit prudish. The anal sex one sounds like something to discuss about consent.

How old are your teens?

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Vursayles · 27/11/2021 14:06

Fleabag is absolutely brilliant, one of a kind, but absolutely not to watch with teenagers! The utter filth starts pretty early in the first episode so if you’d proof-watched even a little bit you’d have realised that.

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GozillaGirl · 27/11/2021 14:06

I felt like this about Ginny and Georgia. Thought it might be like Gilmore Girls, some hinted at sex but nothing to explicit. Think actually teens can watch it by themselves!

Agree that Fleabag is for adults.

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MadeOfStarStuff · 27/11/2021 14:10

Maybe stick to watching actual family dramas with your teenagers then

Many things that teenagers and adults both watch are things they wouldn’t want to watch with their mum or daughter

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Bagelsandbrie · 27/11/2021 14:10

You probably won’t want to watch Sex Education on Netflix then… which is a shame because it’s absolutely superb and perfect as a conversation starter with older teens 16/17 plus. (Although dd and I watched it separately and then chatted about it later - she’s 18).

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SleepingStandingUp · 27/11/2021 14:10

Bump is 15+ so it's more your comfortableness around your daughter than it being inappropriate for a young person who can legally have sex. How will you feel if she wants to talk to you about her bf wanting anal sex or the girls in school all saying they have a vibrator?

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Dahlietta · 27/11/2021 14:12

In a way I felt she was sorting the viewers out into those who would stick with the programme and those who would switch off.
This is quite possible. I didn’t make it past the first couple of minutes 🤣

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Chikapu · 27/11/2021 14:16

I suppose I feel that a bit of "normal" sex under the covers

I wouldn't say under the covers sex is 'normal'.

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Chamomileteaplease · 27/11/2021 14:16

@SleepingStandingUp do schoolgirls have vibrators these days?! Am I behind the times?

I think I would be ok with a conversation with my 16 year old about anything but maybe not watching explicit stuff on a screen.

But you all have a point about being more aware of what I suggest to watch when we are together.

I watched Game of Thrones with my other child when she was 16 and that produced some good discussion. But there were no vibrators in that programme so it was ok Grin.

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neverbeenskiing · 27/11/2021 14:17

You can't expect script writers who are writing content for adults to tone it down in case there's a Mum somewhere who finds vibrators embarrassing and wants to watch the show with their teenager. Bump is not written for adolescents, although the central character is 16 it is also an exploration of adult relationships and how the dynamics/problems change at different stages of life. The vibrator scene wasn't just random, the character feels bored and trapped in her marriage but develops an infatuation with a colleague that prompts something of a sexual re-awakening, hence the vibrator and the stuff about her taking up salsa dancing.

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