To think it's fine to ask children to go to their room after a certain time

[TvWhatNot]

So adults can watch what they want in the living room? Curious to gauge opinion.

I personally think it's fine to ask older children who would be up later, to go and play / watch TV in their room after a certain time so the adults can watch something themselves. I often watch programmes which I'd not want to watch with my DC so that's my opportunity to do so.

I was also expected to do the same growing up and it never bothered me.

What do you think?

I think thats fine, they're probably just on their tablets etc anyway but I see where you're coming from as we watch quite brutal stuff I wouldn't watch with any child around like kill bill last night

How old is older?

We’re currently watching Vikings (Amazon)
No way could we watch that with the kids about 😆

In answer to your question: depends on so many things. Ages, what you’ve been up to that day, the mood of the kids!!

It's fine but many people on here don't like that idea 🙄

Yes absolutely fine!

Depends how old you mean! Secondary school ages, I think that’s fine. Primary ages still need something of a “bedtime routine” so you could just chill out while they’re still up.

Our have to be upstairs by 9pm weekends but eldest is 13 so he tends to live in his bedroom anyway.

What age are you talking about?

Personally, no I wouldn't send my kids upstairs so I could watch them, not appropriate for them

I would just wait till they were in bed and watch it then.

Of course it’s ok.

Thanks.

So I'm talking about kids who are too old to have a proper set bed time at weekends, like early teen upwards so just waiting until they go to bed (especially at the weekend) isn't much of an option.

Obviously young kids who to to bed at like 8pm is different as you could just wait until they are in bed.

@TvWhatNot

Thanks.

So I'm talking about kids who are too old to have a proper set bed time at weekends, like early teen upwards so just waiting until they go to bed (especially at the weekend) isn't much of an option.

Obviously young kids who to to bed at like 8pm is different as you could just wait until they are in bed.

In that case I am not sure. Both mine would have go e up their room to talk to friends or game or watch Netflix.

Also, by the time they were old enough to not have an actual bedtime, there wasn't that much that I would watch that they couldn't.

For me no, we never excluded our daughter. She was as welcome to be in the living room as we were.

We used to send ours upstairs at a certain time, usually an hour before their lights out time, not necessarily for us to watch stuff on tv but for them to 'wind down' .
They could have a bath, read or whatever, but it always made evenings relaxed and also impacted on usually having pleasant mornings with no grotty/tired/whingy kids

I wouldn't send my kids to bed so I could watch telly, no.

My teenager comes down at 9pm so we can hang out together! She's upstairs all evening so if we didn't have family time then I'd never see her! I love hanging out with her and just watch teen appropriate things. Mind you, my dh is boring so I'd be alone otherwise.

We do and our kids are younger than yours. Up to rooms, they have an hour to read, play, faff about then it's lights off

We've started doing this as when would we ever get time to be together and chill?? Not all the time, but sometimes. There are two of them though, so they do have each other for company. Just creating a t.v. room for this very purpose. I feel like I haven't been able to watch any of my t.v. in months. They dominate everything!!!

I don’t do this. There isn’t much i’d watch that i wouldn’t let my teen dc watch. I wouldn’t kick them out of the living room, I’d prefer to watch something together and don’t think it’s fair to banish them. But clearly lots do think it’s ok so each to their own I guess.

depends on their age.. but then mine have always preferred to be elsewhere in the house on their tablets/gaming rather than sitting in the lounge with me.

Sometimes DD comes and sits with us, but i can't stand the burbling of her tablet/games in my ear while i'm trying to watch TV (i have adhd and sensory issues with sound) so if she won't wear her headphones, she's asked to turn it down or go somewhere else.

Mine ARE both young teens now though, i think once they're old enough to play unsupervised, its fine to ask them to spend some time elsewhere (and still have a bedtime routine)

No way. It's their house too.

I think allowing a set amount of reading time or something similar for children who have a bedtime is fine.

But I wouldn’t dictate when they could use communal areas once they had aged out of having a bedtime.

I tell my kids to go upstairs (or leave whichever room) any time I need them to.
whatever age.

I thought everyone did that.

We do this with 11 and 13 yr old boys. At a certain time they’re expected to go to their rooms, and start winding down. An hour before their “tech off” time seems to work for everyone.

Absolutely!!! Mine are happy to scarper anyway and and do their own thing. I actually relish that time on my own to be honest.

I think it’s fine for teens - although I guess there’s not that much that you couldn’t watch with them about?

I have said to my Dd (13) that parents do need to “clock off” at a certain time, so if she starts staying up past 9.30/10 (luckily she’s a lark so doesn’t stay up late) she needs to do her own thing.

If they’re old enough to stay up past a certain time, they’re old enough not to need you imo