AIBU - husband called 3 year old a liar and a thief

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Just looking for other people's opinions. We have a 3 year old. Three old got a hold of his daddy's work van keys and we couldn't find them.
My husband was saying, wee shit, moron, stupid child. He kept asking my son if he knew where they were and he said no. I don't think my son was lying, he just didn't know where he put them.
When he found them ( in a cupboard) he came in and angrily said, you're a liar and a thief. I'm taking all of your lego away. My poor son said, ok.
I'm just really feeling so sad. Like , he didn't need to act like this.

Your husband is a prick that bullies a tiny child. Any man that spoke to my child like that, his or not, would be out on his arse.

So what are you going to do about your abusive partner? Protect your child
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Blimey. So not ok!

What the fuck is wrong with him?

Follow your username.

DH needs to learn to put his keys and important things out of reach of a 3yo. 3yo needs to be told that some things are not toys. Sounds like your DH was stressed and didn’t handle it well (name calling etc).

Your husband is an arsehole. But I expect you know that.

He is a coward and a bully being so cruel to a small child who can't defend themselves, that is your job. This will only get worse as your child gets older, your child deserve better, strive to give it them.

Find someone to help you away from this man.

This isn't the first time he's been verbally abusive to your little son is it?

Stop feeling sad.
Get angry. Get really fucking furious.
Outrageous behaviour from your DH.

Whether it’s a LTB or a learning opportunity all round depends on the history- but none given so assume it’s a one off and so LTB is a bit OTT IMO.

I would go fucking BALLISTIC on a tiny-dick "man" who bullied a little child like that. Why aren't you more angry about the way hes just treated a baby? How does he speak to you, OP?

I'd have shoved his van keys where the sun don't shine!

@SockFluffInTheBath

Whether it’s a LTB or a learning opportunity all round depends on the history- but none given so assume it’s a one off and so LTB is a bit OTT IMO.

He called his child a moron.

Absolutely LTB.

Please for the sake of your vulnerable child don't put up with this. Both of you are worth so much more than this.

What does LTB mean? He was really stressed - had a long day etc.
I know it's not right though. My heart was breaking for my son.

What does LTB mean?

It means leave the bastard.

That's really bad.

What he said was totally awful.

Yes little kids do this. Looking at stuff putting in weird places. I mean it's a thing. It's utterly infuriating, of course. Saying please try and remember where you put xyz important thing. Frustrating.

But you keep your cool and try not to sound too annoyed impatient frustrated as you say please try to remember etc.

He was properly angry and out of line totally. Has he never misplaced his keys or something? These things happen.

You put important stuff out of reach and if you don't that's your fault not the child's.

Up to you what to do. Is he home from work? What like/ said?

Whenever I lose my temper with family and it's not fair I apologise. A lot. Say it was me being frustrated and not their fault at all. My children are bigger though.

I think how he is when home. If really apologetic to you, I really fucked that up, I'll go and say sorry give him a cuddle. Of course not take Lego. Etc.

That's one thing. And assuming he's never done this before to you or DC.

If not then that's a real concern imo.

Don’t even know why you’re questioning what to do. Pretty obvious.

LTB - Leave The Bastard

Run like the wind and protect your child.

Oh he didn't go off in Van to work? I assumed he was late etc.

What did he need them for? Has he not calmed down/ said shit I shouldn't have done that don't know what came over me?

Have you said anything to him?

Please stick up for your son. You are making excuses for his Dads behaviour. There are none,

Hmmm. It’s not going to be a one off though is it? Our children all drive us mad and none of us are perfect in the way we sometimes deal with it, but to call a THREE year old a shit, stupid, and then to his face a liar and a thief?! He’s THREE. How is you DH going to react when your child really starts pushing boundaries?
Depending on the history, I would either be making plans or this would be the final call, next time he’s out. However the fact that your son didn’t object to his Lego being taken away, just complied, says to me that he’s already scared of his dad. You know already if this is true.

How many times so far has he spoken to your son (or you) in such a hate filled way?

Why didn't you stick up for your son? Remove him from the situation? Call out your 'D'H?