AIBU - husband called 3 year old a liar and a thief

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Just looking for other people's opinions. We have a 3 year old. Three old got a hold of his daddy's work van keys and we couldn't find them.
My husband was saying, wee shit, moron, stupid child. He kept asking my son if he knew where they were and he said no. I don't think my son was lying, he just didn't know where he put them.
When he found them ( in a cupboard) he came in and angrily said, you're a liar and a thief. I'm taking all of your lego away. My poor son said, ok.
I'm just really feeling so sad. Like , he didn't need to act like this.

Good you've told your sister.

It must have been terrifying for a wee boy to have a large man raging at him.

I wonder whether this incident was the final straw for you? Certainly your description of how calmly your DS accepted having his Lego taken away was chilling - that certainly suggested he is afraid of his father.

So I'm glad you're starting to work on exit plans and enlisting help. Good luck.

how was it today with dh