To have been offended by this in the play centre.

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Took DS to the play centre this afternoon. He wanted me to video him coming down a slide which I did. Straight away a member of staff came over and said “do you not know the rules?” I said “no sorry, what rules?” She said “you’re not allowed to take photos or videos of children in here” I apologised and told her I didn’t know that. I genuinely didn’t, I have never and wouldn’t have taken the video if there was another child near him. But there wasn’t, there were only roughly 4 other parents in the play centre and none of the other kids were anywhere near him. She then said “it’s the fact that you could be anyone” I was highly offended and was left to feel really uncomfortable after it.

Sounds like a bit of a jobsworth. If there wasn't any other children around I don't see the harm.

It’s standard in lots of places.

They're just doing their job. Probably could have worded it better

Can't say I'd be offended no I'd just probably feel a bit embarrassed for a minute or two and then forget about it

Yes, it’s the rules, why would you be offended by that?
You weren’t MADE to feel uncomfortable, you opted to react that way. Get over it and move on, life is far too short.

I thought that this would be common knowledge tbh. Cameras can be quickly aimed at other children, so it doesn't matter if there is anyone near him. It isn't a big ask to protect vulnerable children. There's plenty of other photo opportunities.

No I wouldnt be offended I think it makes sense. Much easier to ban it outright than to try and police it because people have different ideas about what is acceptable. Sorry you felt uncomfortable though.

I’m more offended by the “you could be anyone” comment.

Annoyed at unnecessary rudeness? Yes.

Offended? Don’t be silly!

I thought this was common knowledge.

It’s standard policy, nothing personal. She’s not accusing you of anything.

@Plumpkinn well no obviously not. Learnt my lesson now though!

I wouldn’t have been offended. They could have worded it a bit better though.

Better that you feel uncomfortable than people are allowed to take photos of other people's children. You can never guarantee at somewhere like soft play that another child won't run in front of your phone, hence why it's a blanket rule.

And yes, you could be anyone. Unsavoury people look the same as anyone else.

YABU to be offended. She's just doing her job.

YABU.

She is right, they have no idea who you or anyone else videoing a child might be. I think you're over reacting TBH, it's about safeguarding all children, yours included.

But you could be anyone, any of us could. Get passed it. There's going to be all sorts of similar rules in school and on the school yard.

I think "Do you not know the rules?" is a bit rude. Just come out and say "Sorry, no photos or videos please."

None of the soft play around my way have a no photos policy. Also she was rude and could have worded that better.

You're highly offended that they have safeguarding procedures in place?

@Clymene nope, just the way she worded it.

Not rude. They were probably taken aback that a parent didn’t know this basic safeguarding precaution.

Ok thanks everyone. Points taken

She then said “it’s the fact that you could be anyone”

Well you could be anyone so she's not wrong. I suspect you're feeling a bit embarrassed about it. I'd let it go and feel reassured that they take safe guarding seriously enough to put children's safety before your feelings. It's not personal.

Crikey they don't have those kind of rules at any play centre I have ever been at so I would have been surprised, irked by her rudeness but probably not offended.