To have been offended by this in the play centre.

[spidermummy19]

Took DS to the play centre this afternoon. He wanted me to video him coming down a slide which I did. Straight away a member of staff came over and said “do you not know the rules?” I said “no sorry, what rules?” She said “you’re not allowed to take photos or videos of children in here” I apologised and told her I didn’t know that. I genuinely didn’t, I have never and wouldn’t have taken the video if there was another child near him. But there wasn’t, there were only roughly 4 other parents in the play centre and none of the other kids were anywhere near him. She then said “it’s the fact that you could be anyone” I was highly offended and was left to feel really uncomfortable after it.

My child can only go to places like these if there's a blanket rule on photographs/videos for both of our safety.

I understand you were a bit embarrassed, but these things are in place for really important reasons.

@spidermummy19

I’m more offended by the “you could be anyone” comment.

Do they just allow “anyone” in then? Presumably you have to have a child with you to get in in first place

Link to story if anyone’s interested

www.google.com/amp/s/www.theargus.co.uk/news/19692105.amp/

One of them not what she said but they way she said it type situations.
Had a lifeguard telling me once that swimming lessons aren't a social event (my friend and l were both there and chatting whist kids were splashing around) and l should be watching my child even though she was right near me in a 2 foot deep pool. I asked him if he was having a bad day. Jumped up little prick.

Just don’t like the fact I was made to feel like a pedo
You weren't made to feel anything.
You chose to take offence and turn it into something dramatic.

They were right, you could be anyone, which is why their centre has chosen not to have photos there.

If photos matter that much then go to somewhere that has a different policy.

@PinkiOcelot

I wouldn’t have been offended. They could have worded it a bit better though.

This!

And remember the person who said this to you is earning £8.91/hour, probably does a 9 hour shift with a 30 min break and has had zero training in how to handle people.

She didn't mean it.

@TinselTitsAndGlitteryBits

My child can only go to places like these if there's a blanket rule on photographs/videos for both of our safety.

Why do you think a pedophile would go to a play centre to take photos and not a supermarket/town centre/restaurant etc where they’re much less likely to be noticed though?

Obviously the thought of a pedophile taking photos of my child repulses me but I don’t see what difference the location makes to your fear of it?

@LolaSmiles I would but apparently according to some people on this thread this is a policy everywhere so🤷🏻‍♀️ But if you read further up I have held my hands up and said I understand where the woman was coming from.

You are very easily offended.

@Unhomme

Yabu to be offended by that. At least she didn't out and out call you a peado, that would be much worse.

Why would she be called a paedo?

We have 4 play centres nearby, it’s not a rule in any of them, or anywhere I’ve been on holiday in this country, any farms with soft play type places we’ve visited etc.

It was rude and unnecessary. OP you are not a snowflake, or anything else.

You chose to feel uncomfortable when a member of staff reminded you of the rules. She is right, you could be anyone.

I hope she stopped you leaving with your child since 'you could be anyone' 🙃

[quote spidermummy19]@LadyTiredWinterBottom2 so original and funny😘 Yes I know that as I’ve already stated on the previous pages😴[/quote]
So glad this was already highlighted to you as you didn't manage to figure it out for yourself 😘

@LadyTiredWinterBottom2 If you read some other replies you’ll find I’m not the only one who didn’t know this policy. But you carry on practising your jokes😘

This isn't directed at OP, just saying in general that the no photos/videos rule is not just because of paedophiles but also there may be looked after children or children at risk who can't be identified as being in a certain area for their own safety so if they were photographed in the background or something and this was shared on a social media page or whatever this could put them in harms way. Not saying that the OP was taking pics of other children or anything, just thought it was worth mentioning as lots of comments about paedos.

But you COULD be any one.

Sex offenders, pedophiles, kidnappers and groomers don't wear flashing neon signs on their heads, or carry a flipping lanyard.

Think I would be annoyed by her rudeness more than anything. Possibly because my husband loves tech but if a unsavoury character is about they could take multiple photos without anyone knowing as they wouldn't be using a massive camera phone.

Policies like this just make it harder for responsible parents to comply.

She could have worded it better, yes. You didn't know and now you do so don't worry about it. They probably have parents who are rude about it or think the rules don't apply to them.

I work in a nursery and one time a child's father came to pick them up. I had never met the father before, so had to politely ask for ID. He was so angry about it and said I was basically accusing him of being a "dirty old man" and "attempting to kidnap his own son" I tried to explain that I was following measures put in place for the safety and wellbeing of the children but he put a complaint in about me anyway.

I’m more offended by the “you could be anyone” comment

In which case, surely there would be a concern about you being there with the child at all! I wouldn’t be offended but would be annoyed by the stupidity.

You being offended doesn't trump the right to safety of the children there. There are all kinds of reasons using a camera in this kind of setting is inappropriate and dangerous. I certainly wouldn't be offended-you'll know for next time.

OP, they’ve smelt blood so will not give up now.

The staff member was unnecessarily rude, she could have just said ‘for safeguarding reasons we don’t allow pictures or videos’.

I would have liked to say to her ‘Well, yes, I am someone’.

@Squeezita Jesus Christ don’t I know it Even holding my hands up and admitting I was being unreasonable for being offended still hasn’t stopped some of them😂

Yanbu, it is a common rule and there is nothing offensive in saying you could be anyone.

Should be yabu