To have been offended by this in the play centre.

[spidermummy19]

Took DS to the play centre this afternoon. He wanted me to video him coming down a slide which I did. Straight away a member of staff came over and said “do you not know the rules?” I said “no sorry, what rules?” She said “you’re not allowed to take photos or videos of children in here” I apologised and told her I didn’t know that. I genuinely didn’t, I have never and wouldn’t have taken the video if there was another child near him. But there wasn’t, there were only roughly 4 other parents in the play centre and none of the other kids were anywhere near him. She then said “it’s the fact that you could be anyone” I was highly offended and was left to feel really uncomfortable after it.

*doing the job for cash

I think she was rude and spoke to you in an unnecessary manner . But Like others are saying, she’s doing her job. Great 👍 but her customer service skills are clearly not so good.
Don’t worry about it 😁

Did you clutch your pearls? Please this is a pointless post

@WTAFhappened123 Not as pointless as your reply☺️

But you could be anyone. One of the children in the play centre could have an extremely violent Dad for example that she is not allowed to see. If you take a picture and post it on social media and it falls into the wrong hands that violent individual may be able to see where that child has been and be able to track her down. Yes this sounds extreme but it does and has happened.

I'm a regular at play centres, never been a problem, lots of parents videoing amd taking photos. It's a ridiculous rule. Fond another play centre

To try to put a different perspective to it, if I had to go and tell someone not to do something, I’d have felt embarrassed about it so I might have added the comment explaining why. Not to be nasty or condescending at all, but in my mind I’d think I was going to make the person feel better. Perhaps that’s why she said it to you - not trying to offend you?

It’s your responsibility to read the rules when you go into somewhere like that - you put the staff member in the uncomfortable position of having to speak to you, whereas if you’d read the rules (which everyone should do to know is it socks on or off, is there a section with a max age/height, max no on a play piece, etc) this wouldn’t have happened.

Consider this - you can’t tell by looking where your phone is pointing exactly, or how zoomed in/out it is. It might look like you’re pointing at your child, but in fact you’re filming a child much further away. You know you weren’t - how did the member of staff know that?

I don't go to soft plays anymore, but I took photos of my kids without others. Is this a new rule?

[quote AnAverageMum]**@TinselTitsAndGlitteryBits

My child can only go to places like these if there's a blanket rule on photographs/videos for both of our safety.

Why do you think a pedophile would go to a play centre to take photos and not a supermarket/town centre/restaurant etc where they’re much less likely to be noticed though?

Obviously the thought of a pedophile taking photos of my child repulses me but I don’t see what difference the location makes to your fear of it?[/quote]
@AnAverageMum

In her case, I would guess the concern might be about birth family / unsavoury family members recognising the child and following @TinselTitsAndGlitteryBits home and knowing where the child lives, rather than concern about random paedophiles

@AnAverageMum and it's not possible to prevent people taking photos in supermarkets etc, but I can imagine someone trying to minimise their risk in any way they can

@notanothertakeaway
I’m sorry but I’m not understanding you.

birth family / unsavoury family members recognising the child and following @TinselTitsAndGlitteryBits home and knowing where the child lives, rather than concern about random paedophiles

It’s happened to me too. See it from the staffs perspective if a manager saw her allowing you to use your phone, then she could have faced consequences.