To have been offended by this in the play centre.

[spidermummy19]

Took DS to the play centre this afternoon. He wanted me to video him coming down a slide which I did. Straight away a member of staff came over and said “do you not know the rules?” I said “no sorry, what rules?” She said “you’re not allowed to take photos or videos of children in here” I apologised and told her I didn’t know that. I genuinely didn’t, I have never and wouldn’t have taken the video if there was another child near him. But there wasn’t, there were only roughly 4 other parents in the play centre and none of the other kids were anywhere near him. She then said “it’s the fact that you could be anyone” I was highly offended and was left to feel really uncomfortable after it.

[quote spidermummy19]@Squeezita thank you! And I actually never said I don’t agree with the policy[/quote]
You’re fine, OP. These lot, on the other hand 🤣

[quote Squeezita]@CormoranStrike

How rude! I read your OP and replied to it. I didn’t realise I had to read every post in AIBU, then respond to your initial query, taking in every nuance as I went”

Actually the etiquette is to read ALL of OP’s posts before commenting.

So you are rude not to RTFT (read the fucking thread).[/quote]
Get a fecking grip 😂

@Squeezita I thought people would have gotten bored by now but I guess not😂

If he hasn't started school yet, you will probably find they won't let you either, unless all parents have agreed and you've signed a million forms. Just to prepare you.

Thank you for your feedback.

It's called Safeguarding - be grateful that they take it seriously and try to put your ego back in its place and think a bit about why this matters so much, our children are precious

I used to take my son to a paddling pool in a large public park - a sleazy creepy man was taking photos of undressed children for purposes I'd rather not think about - safeguarding is all our responsibility

@Bertiebiscuit Thanks for saying what about 100 people have already said🙄 it’s boring having to keep reading it over and over. I put my ego back in place about 4 pages ago👍🏼

I was highly offended and was left to feel really uncomfortable after it

Just don’t like the fact that I was made to feel like a pedo

Nobody has left you feeling uncomfortable or like a pedo, OP. You did that all to yourself. That tends to happen to people who often get “highly offended”.

Highly offended? Why? What is it about people who keep being 'offended ' by stuff. Bloomin' snowflakes.

My personal response would have been, "They're right...I could be just anyone. They're trying to protect my child's privacy." And moved on.

Fair enough she as to point out the rules but she could have done it in a less arsey way, she does sound like a complete jobsworth and I would have pointed out that she too could be 'anyone' try to forget about it and rest assured that unless she learns how to communicate her point in a more professional, less aggressive way in future she'll end up getting a slap sooner or later 😉

It’s easier to have a rule that is clear - no photos under any circs than to leave it to the discretion of staff who may be manipulated by pushy parents

@ShabbyRobedNun

Fair enough she as to point out the rules but she could have done it in a less arsey way, she does sound like a complete jobsworth and I would have pointed out that she too could be 'anyone' try to forget about it and rest assured that unless she learns how to communicate her point in a more professional, less aggressive way in future she'll end up getting a slap sooner or later 😉

Rough as a badger's arse...

I’d be offended too!! You were clearly taking a video of your DC. Me and my friends do this all the time at soft play

Better worded sure. But it’s standard really. Most parents know this. And yes - you could be anyone.

@ShabbyRobedNun

Fair enough she as to point out the rules but she could have done it in a less arsey way, she does sound like a complete jobsworth and I would have pointed out that she too could be 'anyone' try to forget about it and rest assured that unless she learns how to communicate her point in a more professional, less aggressive way in future she'll end up getting a slap sooner or later 😉

Because that wouldn't be aggressive at all... you sound ridiculous.

I have taken photos and videos of my grandchildren when there are other children around. We have become a bit ott about this. What do people imagine will happen as a result?

Lol OP , DH and I had similar incident on first time taking DC swimming
(Lockdown children and FTP - we didn’t know any rules either)
The pool was empty and a OAP fitness class was finishing , so our corner was just us
Guard comes over says : eh no photos !
Other staff member seeing our faces of confusion and gesturing to now empty pool comes over : you’ve to sign a form at reception first, if you want to take a photo : here, I’ll snap some for you the now”
Lol
DH and I were just laughing about the absurdity of someone creep being put off by having to fill in a mad form , first- but still allowed to take the photos presumably?

How is anyone expected to know the rules if no-one tells them? Bad customer service... Training needed.

@Clymene

You're highly offended that they have safeguarding procedures in place?

Clearly not. It’s obvious that’s not what the OP is offended by, don’t be obtuse.

OP if it was said the exact way you’ve put it here then I agree it was a rude way to speak to you. What would be wrong with ‘sorry, no photos or videos, for safeguarding reasons’.

You could be anyone though. You wouldn't be too happy if someone was taking pictures when your children were playing near and the staff didn't do anything. She sounds rude but she's probably sick of telling people.

It’s done for right reasons, some children in foster care or adopted, some families hiding from Abusive partners, it’s absolutely right to have one clear rule. I think however many places are staffed by people who feel anxious enforcing the rules and don’t always know how best to handle the situation- they probably felt as awkward as you. It’s not a big deal and you’ll know next time

Yabu. Grow up, get over it and don’t do it again.

@KathySelden

None of the soft play around my way have a no photos policy. Also she was rude and could have worded that better.

They don't where I live either. I know people will not like me for saying this but most employees at these places are young or just don't the job for cash rather than a career and so may not have the professionalism of amazing customer service. It can be sharp as a parent when someone makes a comment that feels accusatory, so allow the hurt to hurt for a short time and then rationalise it and move on so it doesn't stop you from visiting the play centre again with your child.