to think I did not break his fucking arrows?

[ShoveThatArrowUpYerArse]

OK, so we both work F-T. I take the our eldest to his hobbies after school, as H does not get home in time. This means I have stopped the two hobbies I have as they clash with DS1's hobbies. Its also a pain as they are 20mins drive away which means I end up in some crappy cafe for an hour trying to entertain ds2 whilst DS1 is in his classes.

H worked from home this week so I asked him to take DS1 to his class on Thurs. H said 'but I do archery then', 'yes' said I ' but you can also do that on Sat instead' 'That could be quite good' said H ' I can do it in daylight then.'

However, H has just decided to fire his arrows in the garden.

And they all broke. Some how he has reframed this as 'my fault (if you had 'let' me go on Thurs I wouldn't have 'had' to practice in the garden and they would not have broke

He is now huffing and puffing and trying to claim this means I am not supporting him to do his hobbies.

Stab him with a broken arrow.

Seriously though, remind him when you last did your hobby?

You just laugh in his face. He knows he’s talking the bollocks

That's pretty pathetic.

All on him.

What a child.

Tell him it's time to grow up and that being married to a petulant, manchild is not something you signed up for.

I'm not really sure what to say, other than your username is amazing and pretty much sums it up!

I second @SameToo suggestion

Ah, fuck off
Would be my answer!

Just reply "Don't be ridiculous"'

Also arrange another time to do your hobbies and leave DH with the DCs

About time it was evened up

dh used to do that early in our relationship.

A consistent eyeroll followed by "fuck off and don't be so daft" cured him pretty quickly.

Go out there now and snap the bow Do it.

He didn't have to practise in the garden, that was entirely his choice.

Well he ain’t got any arrows now so wont be needing Saturday for his hobby.

Go do your hobby on Saturday. All day.

Ah so you have 3 children.......

They all broke??? How????

He doesn’t sound ready to be let loose with any arrows.

I understand breaking the first arrow, but how did he fire them all before noticing?

What??? When do you get to do your hobby? Why is his more important than yours?

I'd point out in nonumcertain terms that I have sacrificed all of my hobbies in order that he can retain his own. And I'd be telling him it stops now.

He can drop half of his so that you can pick up half of yours. And he must be available during the times you are doing yours.

What a cunt.

If he's that bad at archery that he's managed to break all his arrows (presumably by missing his target), I'm not sure he should be allowed to practice in the garden. Otherwise it's only a matter of time before Mr Jones at No.54 bends over to tend to his roses and gets an arrow in the arse.

Someone that childish shouldn't be playing with sharp sticks. Confiscate his bow, and tell him he can have it back when he grows up.

So wait. He would actually be able to take your son to his hobby on a Thursday but doesnt because he goes to his own hobby? But you had to give up your hobby to take your son to his?

So he gets to keep his hobby, you give up yours but... you're not supporting his hobby?

Have you married a fucking idiot?

I'd be telling him now that I'm going back to my thursday hobby, and he can do his archery on a saturday instead and he is responsible for the kids on Thursday nights.

It sounds sensible to be taking turns so you can both do your hobbies rather than you stopping both your hobbies and your DP carry on a hobby that he could do over the weekend anyway, Was it King Lear who pointed out a family is like a bundle of arrows, together they cannot be broken. If a single arrow has to stop both hobbies and the other carries on doing his hobbies then his arrow breaks and then he can have custody of some of the other arrows EOW. Or something?

Well who was the muppet who tried to do archery in the garden dear

I’m so glad you’ve made me think about this. I’ve given up my hobbies to take ds to his, very much supporting you to do yours, but it’s clearly not appreciated so you are taking ds from now on and I’ll go back to having a hobby, but unlike you I will try and be grateful for this. Good talk. I didn’t break your stupid arrows by the way.

Archery is my hobby and I would say that anyone who manages to break all their arrows in a back garden practice (I hope with a backstop and netting unless your garden backs on to open fields!) shouldn't be allowed out. I shoot aluminium arrows, but I haven't damaged one in years.

Who the fuck are the 3% who voted YABU?? Any of you care to talk us through that verdict?