to think I did not break his fucking arrows?

[ShoveThatArrowUpYerArse]

OK, so we both work F-T. I take the our eldest to his hobbies after school, as H does not get home in time. This means I have stopped the two hobbies I have as they clash with DS1's hobbies. Its also a pain as they are 20mins drive away which means I end up in some crappy cafe for an hour trying to entertain ds2 whilst DS1 is in his classes.

H worked from home this week so I asked him to take DS1 to his class on Thurs. H said 'but I do archery then', 'yes' said I ' but you can also do that on Sat instead' 'That could be quite good' said H ' I can do it in daylight then.'

However, H has just decided to fire his arrows in the garden.

And they all broke. Some how he has reframed this as 'my fault (if you had 'let' me go on Thurs I wouldn't have 'had' to practice in the garden and they would not have broke

He is now huffing and puffing and trying to claim this means I am not supporting him to do his hobbies.

I have adhd, it certainly can mean in children that they mature more slowly, but not a complete failure to mature. People with adhd are extremely sensitive to rejection so can sometimes deny responsibility to avoid blame in an attempt to protect themselves emotionally, but I’m not sure this is what he is doing. People with adhd are often very empathetic because they are so emotionally vulnerable. They can be very impulsive, which would fit the garden practice, but the childishness and placing you as his mother figure I don’t think can be explained by adhd.

I’d struggle to stick with him to be honest, sounds utterly exhausting.

He is a fact-free, logic-free, reason-free zone.

But not at work. Which suggest it’s deliberate at home.

Don’t stay with him because of a phantom ADHD diagnosis.

Being selfish doesn’t just appear. It’s been there for years. Why oh why would you marry this individual?

Your name makes you sound so very angry.

Do your children know this is how you feel (obviously with cleaner vocabulary)

Up the DH's arse the arrows go!

You made his arrows break?

He does know that 16.48 is just before ten to five of a Saturday evening, not the year we are in and you really aren't a witch?

I'd be getting myself up in a black robe dressing gown, making cackling sounds and muttering about cauldrons and newts' eyes every time he starts to do something stupid.

Well that or slapping him round the face with a magical incantation for expunging a pestilence or bad humour from one's home. Otherwise known as a divorce petition.

Speaking as an archer it takes a hell of a lot to break an arrow, let alone all of them (they come in sets of 3). WTF was he doing?

Great username.. you must be secretly hoping this becomes one of those threads that ends up all over the place....so he can realise what a cockwomble he is being...

We are all influenced by our childhoods but nothing is fixed in stone. Negative behaviours can be changed. If you want them so.

Make him a cup of tea as way of an apology, but add salt or chilli powder to it. Then ask is he double sure you broke his arrows? If he still insists, remind him he has an arrow in his pants and you wouldn't want to break that one as well so you will refrain from touching it anymore.

Tell him to grow up.. he is a parent aswell. Urghh

@DerAlteMann

Speaking as an archer it takes a hell of a lot to break an arrow, let alone all of them (they come in sets of 3). WTF was he doing?

I was about to say something like this. I am a truly terrible archer, and have hit all sorts of non-target things (usually the frame or the ground, nothing living!), abs have never even bent an arrow.

How come he gets to go to archery m, but you’ve given up your hobbies OP?

Wrt the car, what happened when you attempted to pack it for a trip away?

Tell him to grow up and get a life... Or you will stick the arrows somewhere dark.

@IbizaToTheNorfolkBroads you're more likely to break arrows putting them in the target on top of each other than by missing it entirely Although I've also bent a fair few aluminiums by (intentionally) shooting them into the ground from a height when the ground is hard.

Not that it's at all relevant to the OP, who has a DH problem, not an arrow problem!

Please live up to your nickname, OP, and tell us all how it went.

Tbh, I'd be tempted to file for divorce on the grounds that it's illegall to be married to a child.

[quote CaptainThe95thRifles]@IbizaToTheNorfolkBroads you're more likely to break arrows putting them in the target on top of each other than by missing it entirely Although I've also bent a fair few aluminiums by (intentionally) shooting them into the ground from a height when the ground is hard.

Not that it's at all relevant to the OP, who has a DH problem, not an arrow problem![/quote]
Agreed the arrows are not the OPs actual problem!

I’m a fairly new and occasional archer. I joined the club to give myself something to do while DS is there.

When mine get’s in a huff over something stupid (not often), I just laugh at him. Eventually, he realises he’s being a dick. Hopefully, that will work for you too.

Sorry, I hadn’t read all of your posts before posting previously. I have now and can see, it’s not that simple! It sounds like time for couples therapy.

Aim the bow and arrow at him and tell him to run..

why is adhd always bandied about then used as an excuse

he clealr doesnt do this at work so why do it at home

@SameToo

Stab him with a broken arrow.

Seriously though, remind him when you last did your hobby?

I haven't even read OP's post but I wonder if a husband posted about disagreement with wife and men commented: stab her with xxx

Wtf is wrong with you? I know you're "only joking" so why do you think it's funny about joking to tell someone to stab their partner?

@TokyoSushi

I'm not really sure what to say, other than your username is amazing and pretty much sums it up!

Wholehearted agreement over here. (Except why stop at ONE arrow?)

Shoot arrows, not fire them!
And OP your husband is an arse! (and apparently a crap archer!)

Show him this...