Telling my child to be quiet on holiday

[Ohhappydays123]

Name changed for this as it’s outing. On holiday - all inclusive family resort, nothing too fancy, very popular destination. My DC (4&9) went in the swim up pool around midday but the section by our room was in the shade so they moved round the corner to be in the sun. They were on the side playing with toys. After about 5-10 minutes, some ladies who were on sun loungers near them got up and I saw one say something to DC4 and put her finger to her lips.
They were walking out of the pool area and as they walked past me I said “sorry, are they too loud for you?” She said “yes, I told him. It’s like he has a speaker inside.” I apologised. And then cried.
My DC are loud. I spend half my life asking them to be quiet and reminding them that sometimes we need to be quiet out of respect for other people. I’m a considerate person and try so hard to make my DC behave in the same way. I’m hormonal, the whole holiday experience has been pretty stressful due to Covid and it just pushed me over the edge.
But later on I though that actually, was she right to tell my DC to be quiet? It’s a family resort FFS! It wasn’t very early or very late and they weren’t even being THAT loud. I always make sure I remind them when they are.
I’d never dream of telling a stranger’s children to be quiet in this situation.
AIBU to think she shouldn’t have said anything?

I think the analogy that they were essentially swimming on her patio is accurate. They shouldn't have been there never mind making too much noise.

They weren't swimming

I am totally lost now then, what is it they were doing?

Also, more generally what is wrong with people teaching their kids to be considerate to others? No you can't just go round making as much noise as you want, it's basic manners.

The unwritten rule is that you stay in the section by your room unless you are passing through to the main pool.

Its not a private pool to use the whole length of.

@Poetrypatty

They weren't swimming

I am totally lost now then, what is it they were doing?

Also, more generally what is wrong with people teaching their kids to be considerate to others? No you can't just go round making as much noise as you want, it's basic manners.

It's in the OP

"They were on the side playing with toys"

This is why I don’t stay in family resorts, I don’t want to be around kids. But that’s on her for booking an inappropriate hotel for her requirements.

@SweetMaryHell

This is why I don’t stay in family resorts, I don’t want to be around kids. But that’s on her for booking an inappropriate hotel for her requirements.

How do you know it was inappropriate? Perhaps she had kids herself or it was a location without any adult only hotels. There's a difference to normal kids-having-fun in the main pool noise and children being excessively loud in your personal pool right outside your room noise.

Just because you dont exclusively patronise kid free hotels, train carriages, pubs, restaurants (of which there aren't that many and are often more expensive) doesn't mean that kids in shared spaces can be as loud and obnoxious as they like!

I’m loving the posters suggesting that if you book a resort where children are allowed you should just expect noise!

1. So does that mean if you book a hotel where alcohol is allowed you should expect people staggering around blind drunk vomiting everywhere?
2. If I want a holiday without loud noise I need to book an expensive adults only resort?

Playing, laughing etc is fine, but it sounds like these kids were very noisy right outside this woman’s room and in her swim up pool! I think she has a right to politely ask them to be quiet. Since when are our children so fragile they need to be protected from this?

@Bookwormbitch

I’m loving the posters suggesting that if you book a resort where children are allowed you should just expect noise!

1. So does that mean if you book a hotel where alcohol is allowed you should expect people staggering around blind drunk vomiting everywhere?
2. If I want a holiday without loud noise I need to book an expensive adults only resort?

Playing, laughing etc is fine, but it sounds like these kids were very noisy right outside this woman’s room and in her swim up pool! I think she has a right to politely ask them to be quiet. Since when are our children so fragile they need to be protected from this?

It certainly goes some way to explaining why EVERY. BLOODY. THING. is so loud nowadays...

This is why I don’t stay in family resorts, I don’t want to be around kids. But that’s on her for booking an inappropriate hotel for her requirements.

Or, she has kids but they playing in a place that's means they don't sit outside other people's rooms creating a racket that needs another adult to ask them to be quiet.

Yeah OP, YABU - your DC playing loudly in/on her swim-up area is akin to them playing loudly on her drive or porch. Big faux pas. At least she was polite about it.

"They were on the side playing with toys"

Thanks Bloodypunkrockers although I read that as on the side of the pool Maybe they were on this woman's patio? Diagram needed. Anyway hopefully OP has moved on and is having a nice holiday

@NotPersephone

The OP (and the first few replies) demonstrate why "family friendly" resorts are the seventh circle of hell for some of us.

"But there wasn't a SIGN telling us not to be selfish gobshites!"

Yep. That's pretty much why I scroll past anything advertised as family friendly. And I've got 3 DC.

@Poetrypatty

"They were on the side playing with toys"

Thanks Bloodypunkrockers although I read that as on the side of the pool Maybe they were on this woman's patio? Diagram needed. Anyway hopefully OP has moved on and is having a nice holiday

Oh yes, could be

I was picturing them sitting poolside shrieking and yelling