To wonder if Mumsnet is full of men who are a waste of space

[DownToTheSeaAgain]

...or most men are a waste of space so Mumsnet just reflects the real world.

It’s pretty obvious that most people who’s partner is not a waste of space won’t be posting about that.

Whose

I came to the conclusion that it's the real world with the issue being we had somehow been tricked in to thinking it's isolated cases.

@PurpleDaisies

Whose

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Its the same as customer complaints though, people are much quicker to vocalise complaints than compliments, just because people arent on here complimenting their dhs for being normal decent people doesnt mean the rubbish men represent 100% of men

@TheQueef

I came to the conclusion that it's the real world with the issue being we had somehow been tricked in to thinking it's isolated cases.

I think you are probably right. Depressing.

@TheQueef

I came to the conclusion that it's the real world with the issue being we had somehow been tricked in to thinking it's isolated cases.

I agree with this and it is depressing.

I was correcting a typo

@PurpleDaisies

I was correcting a typo

Sorry. I misquoted.

@Toomanyradishes

Its the same as customer complaints though, people are much quicker to vocalise complaints than compliments, just because people arent on here complimenting their dhs for being normal decent people doesnt mean the rubbish men represent 100% of men

Straight in with the NAMALT

😔

Mumsnet doesn’t reflect what I see in real life in terms of useless husbands and huge numbers of blended families. But there definitely seems to be an increasing avalanche of posts from women asking if they’re being unreasonable when it’s clear their partner is an absolute waste of space. I don’t know what’s gone wrong that so many women are ending up in these situations. Also in what seems like 90% of cases the women are either pregnant or have had multiple children with said waste of space.

It’s a bit self selecting, isn’t it? I don’t really post about my relationship on here because it mainly ticks along just fine because my DH isn’t a waste of space. If he was a waste of space and I was having a shit time as a result I’d be more likely to post for advice or support.

But there are plenty definitely of them out there.

Straight in with the NAMALT

Well, they aren’t all “rubbish”. Dh isnt. He’s absolutely not perfect. Neither am I.

The people posting here will be the women whose partners are rubbish. Plenty of men are fine.

@journeyofthedragons thats totally unfair. I would never say not all men on a thread about feeling safe out and about etc. But the op is literally asking are all men a waste of space or is it just how it looks from mumsnet.they are literally asking "are all men" to which the answers can only be yes or no. My comment is a fair point that has been made on here before. You are out order

Straight in with the NAMALT

Give over.

Hear hear @Toomanyradishes

What worries me is people posting about their totally rubbish partners apparently oblivious of their rubbish-ness.

Maybe even the 'good' ones are rubbish and we/ society have conditioned ourselves not to see it.

There any many thread subjects where NAMALT is not appropriate.

This isn't one of them.

We should be shouting NAMALT on these threads, the 'aren't men so useless at housework/ childcare, what can you do 🤷‍♀️ ' threads are depressing.

Maybe even the 'good' ones are rubbish and we/ society have conditioned ourselves not to see it.

Dh is not rubbish. He cooks. He cleans. He does his fair share around the house.

What should I be on the look out for that o haven’t noticed?

@situas

Straight in with the NAMALT

Give over.

Agreed.

There are some rubbish men around but there are some rubbish women around. I know plenty of women who are lazy, cheat and treat their partners like crap. Works both ways! My husband is far from perfect but then again neither am I. I wouldn't like live with me

What should I be on the look out for that o haven’t noticed?

His browsing history.

@Journeyofthedragons

What should I be on the look out for that o haven’t noticed?

His browsing history.

Ffs. Sometimes this place is so depressing.

@Journeyofthedragons

What should I be on the look out for that o haven’t noticed?

His browsing history.

Oh have a word with yourself will you? Imagine being that paranoid. How sad.

What worries me is people posting about their totally rubbish partners apparently oblivious of their rubbish-ness.

So not what you were asking in your OP, then? Other posters have pointed out that your question is based on a logical fallacy so you move the goalposts

Maybe even the 'good' ones are rubbish and we/ society have conditioned ourselves not to see it.

So now 'good' actually means 'bad'?! As @situas said, give over.