No, I think it’s universal. EVERY one of my female peers in a heterosexual relationship with kids gets the shitty end of the stick. Without exception, they’re the ones who have to check to see whether they can go out in the evening rather than just….going, who are late or absent from planned meet-ups because their partners are back late from work, who have had to put good careers on the back burner while watching their husbands’ go from strength to strength, who are stressing over life admin into the evening while their OH relaxes.
Even the couple with the SAH dad and the mum with the high flying career still seem to have her rushing home to cook and stressing over child development, while his precious exercise time is ringfenced in a way I rarely see with SAHMs.
Wait though, there is ONE couple I know where childcare and household tasks are split and juggled equitably, so that each partner has equal opportunity to advance their career - yep, it’s the lesbians across the road.
Thing is, if EVERYONE is in a relationship somewhat like this, then that’s what becomes baseline normal, hence acceptable. What’s the point in LTB, when you’ll just end up meeting someone exactly the same? You’re better off telling yourself everything is fine, aren’t you.