Husband taking £400 spending money for 2 nights in Liverpool..aibu to think it's ridiculous?

[rachybarrr]

He has gone to Liverpool till Monday.
The hotel is paid for and includes breakfast.
He has taken £400 spending money.

He said "the bars are quite expensive down there"

So basically he is happy to potentially waste £400 on alcohol for two nights.

I'm annoyed and think it's pathetic
He said we are going for a nice meal tonight too.

£400 for two nights is just scandalous I think

@EspressoDoubleShot

He’s entitled to spend as he wishes without your approval or permission As indeed are you. You’re a bit over invested in this tbh

So did you miss the bit where although he's allowing £400 for his weekend, he gave the OP grief for spending £50 on a coat (that will last a lot longer than a weekend)?

And to PPs saying he should be able to spend whatever he wants, on this weekend or whenever - this is out of the savings pot to which they both contribute, but he treats it as his personal cash point. But she's controlling to have an issue with it?

@RussianSpy101
As the OP's husband drinks pints and whatever other drink that she mentioned and is having a Steakhouse dinner and Sunday meal at 'spoons, I thought it a reasonable bet that he wouldn't be over-spending at a 3 star Michelin restaurant, not that he COULDN'T, more that he wouldn't.
No, I don't know him.
People I know spend that amount on a bottle of wine. 😉😂

They both put £500 a month in. If he spends £400 of his £500, so what. And the app did rather drop the coat in a bit after the replies weren't going her way. And 'giving her grief' is pretty emotive. I would not want to be in a relationship like this. Both are clearly good earners with low outgoings. Spending (or not) their discretionary cash shouldn't be so contentious. What a way to live.

Just withdraw £400 from your "joint" savings account and stash it somewhere. And if he notices, say you're off out to the shops to get a new jacket😂😂

If he’s going with a group, then they’ll likely be buying rounds, so it can add up quickly.

Say £5 absolute bare minimum a drink and there’s say 5 people, that’s at least £25 per round. 4 rounds over the course of the evening and you’ve easily spent over £100 in one night.

@browneyes77
If there are 4 of them each buying 4 rounds, is EVERYONE necking 16 pints or the equivalent? I doubt it.

Spending a fortune on booze and clubs without his wife ...

'Lads' on a night out might stump up for a few drinks if they meet a crowd of females they get chatting to. Nothing in it, just banter and mixing with the locals.

I actually did not miss any bit. Op got grief about a Zara jkt he get grief about a social @Feedingthebirds1
They both give grief about money.
Op needs to answer back then,about the Zara jacket instead of fretting about his spending
I literally couldn’t be bothered justifying a jacket or quizzing him about a social do

@browneyes77

If he’s going with a group, then they’ll likely be buying rounds, so it can add up quickly.

Say £5 absolute bare minimum a drink and there’s say 5 people, that’s at least £25 per round. 4 rounds over the course of the evening and you’ve easily spent over £100 in one night.

Are you suggesting they'll each buy four rounds totalling £100 each? Five people each buying four rounds would mean each person having 20 drinks.. Surely they would by one round each so they'd have 5 drinks each at £25 min.. Or am I missing something?

@Gillimac37 did you have a point to make?

Are people no longer allowed to socialise without their spouse once they’re married?

@LoisLane66 missed that he was eating at weatherspoons!

He'll be on his way home tomorrow with £25 in his pocket and a sore head.

@Bigbiggles 5 drinks each on a lads weekend away??

I really like Wetherspoons and can have a full English with toast and unlimited tea, coffee and
hot chocolate and still have change from a fiver.
My last brekkie there was 4.35.

His money - his choice.

Joint money and it most definitely requires a discussion.

I'm also in the minority and think £400 for spending/eating/drinking money for two days is a lot. With hotels and travel on top that makes for a pretty expensive weekend which is fine if you can afford it and you've discussed it but it sounds like he's doing what he wants without any discussion with you.

I suspect from what I've read that him spending this money isn't going to leave you short, but I wonder if you acted the same and spent the same amount of money on yourself if it would, in which case that makes his behaviour even more unfair.

OP I feel your pain. It’s not so much whether you can afford it, but why anyone would that much money on themselves? That amount would pay for a nice weekend away for a small family.

Well I don't think you abu op. The hotel must have already cost a fair amount and another £400 on food and drink in my mind is obscene. Why anyone needs to drink so much is beyond me. No wonder Brits have a bad name where alcohol is concerned!

@KitchenKrisis

Yes it's alot what else is he buying? Female company? Drugs?

Really ? Women or drugs ?

£400 would be a lot for me to spend.

But if you have paid for everything you need to pay for, an emergency fund and enough money for you and any kids, I don't think you can begrudge him a blow out.

Why don't you arrange a weekend with your friends/ family. Leave him home with the kids and take £400. Evens it out and you'd have an amazing time I'm sure!

I would only worry Bout him bringing him cash.... as in... that would be untraceable where he spends it? Why not just pay on the go?

Sounds like a massive bender with his mates.

I think you're a bit out of touch with reality OP

Sorry

Prices have hiked in the last two years.

Have you seen the news lately? A few things happened: Brexit, covid, staff shortages. Its all caused prices to sky rocket

Sounds fine. People saying he’s buying drugs and hookers don’t know how much those things cost! £70+ for each dinner, £8 a drink, £30 each breakfast, £40 for lunch. Plus tips, spending money if he goes to any shops etc, maybe have spare for tickets to one show or club too but it’s not excessive.

It's a lot if you don't spend money on that sort of stuff, I don't, so think it is a huge amount. I do however spend what other people would think was a large amount on other stuff. This is probably why OP thinks it's a lot as people spend on different things