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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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Original poster

To have left them outside for 10 minutes

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Notoday · 20/10/2021 15:29

I'm a few days away from having a cesarian. I'm having to take some suppressant medication that makes me poorly, so that's fun. I've spent the last week between the bed and the bathroom.

My partner who lives with me went to collect his kids from school and bring them here but he didn't take his keys with him as usual thus leaving the door unlocked.

Naturally if I'm stuck on the toilet or vomiting into a bowl I'm not going to want to leave my door unlocked as I live on a main road, so I locked it until he gets back.

Typically they arrive back when I'm stuck in the bathroom. I couldn't do much about that unfortunately so they had to wait 10 minutes or so until I was able to go and let them in.

DP comes in doing a silly dance saying how much he's bursting for a wee and his youngest DC is majorly pissed off about having to wait outside for so long.

WIBU to have locked the door and made them wait as opposed to leaving the toilet to open the door?

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Orcadianrythyms · 20/10/2021 15:30

Grown up take their keys!

AutumnLeafy · 20/10/2021 15:31

He should have taken his keys.

pussycatlickinglollyices · 20/10/2021 15:33

@Orcadianrythyms

Grown up take their keys!

^this.

And they tend not to do a silly dance if they need a wee...

marykitty · 20/10/2021 15:33

Next time he is gonna take the keys with him

BurntO · 20/10/2021 15:33

Agreed that he needs to take his keys.

That aside I don’t think anyone else can comment on if you could have left the toilet or not. Thankfully I can’t say I have ever been in a situation where I couldn’t have paused to run downstairs and instead left people for ten whole minutes on the doorstep. But if you couldn’t leave, you couldn’t leave

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Notoday · 20/10/2021 15:34

He certainly should have taken his keys. It's a theme. I love how his son has concluded that I'm the problem though

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JaneDoe21 · 20/10/2021 15:35

YANBU. Your DP needs to act his age.

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Notoday · 20/10/2021 15:35

@BurntO

Agreed that he needs to take his keys.

I'll spare you the graphic details but let's say these particular tablets can cause alot of stomach trouble

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Notoday · 20/10/2021 15:37

Those who have voted IABU, what do you suggest I should have done in this scenario?

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MadeOfStarStuff · 20/10/2021 15:40

Agree, grown ups take their keys and don’t blame others for the consequences of themnot doing so

YANBU

PheasantsNest · 20/10/2021 15:41

A main road is the safest place to leave the door unlocked.

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Notoday · 20/10/2021 15:42

@PheasantsNest

A main road is the safest place to leave the door unlocked.

Ha not in this part of South East London it's not.

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girlmom21 · 20/10/2021 15:42

He should've used the toilet before he went out - isn't that what we always tell the kids?

MrsToothyBitch · 20/10/2021 15:50

I frequently need a wee. If I forgot my keys it would be my own fault if I was locked out & desperate.

TurquoiseDragon · 20/10/2021 15:59

Absolutely he should have taken the keys. And not made a song and dance about it.

If I ever need to be upstairs for a while, I'd make sure the door was locked, too.

Glitterybug · 20/10/2021 15:59

Silly twat should have taken his keys.

kateg27 · 20/10/2021 16:00

If my partner was at home I wouldn't take my house keys. Why would I? But then again I wouldn't lock the door and leave them outside either but I tend to think of others rather than just myself.

AutumnLeafy · 20/10/2021 16:02

Ah well he's learnt to take his keys now

Derbee · 20/10/2021 16:10

Toilet aside, I’d keep locking the door until he starts taking his keys with him without fail. I wouldn’t be happy to have the door on the latch a lot of the time

Rosebel · 20/10/2021 16:11

If you were locking the door when he left or thought you might wouldn't you just give him the key to lock the door on the way out or say take your keys as I might need the bathroom.
You shouldn't have to remind him but now it's lead to you and your partner being annoyed with each other. Also not really fair on the kids who were probably tired and cold. It's not their fault dad didn't remember his key.
I always take my keys but wouldn't be best pleased at being left outside.

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Notoday · 20/10/2021 16:12

@kateg27

If my partner was at home I wouldn't take my house keys. Why would I? But then again I wouldn't lock the door and leave them outside either but I tend to think of others rather than just myself.

So you'd get off the toilet mid-flow with diarreah to let them in would you? Slow clap for the martyr.

Sorry. 9 months pregnant poorly woman takes priority on this occasion.

I don't quite fancy being burgled again either.

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custardbear · 20/10/2021 16:16

We often leave the front door unlocked, I usually tell DH to take his keys if I'm planning on locking it whilst he's out - just like he does for me - we tend to try and make life easier for each other rather than harder or more awkward.
Saying that I used to live in SE london are there are some total shit holes so perhaps he should lock the door every time 😱

user1471541711 · 20/10/2021 16:16

Sounds like you’ve already made up your mind that you’re not unreasonable.
He should have taken his keys.
I would have tried to let them in.

Reallyimeanreally2022 · 20/10/2021 16:17

You’re ill
You knew he’d forgotten his keys

You could have left unlocked for ten minutes. You know it

shouldistop · 20/10/2021 16:17

I love how his son has concluded that I'm the problem though

How old is his son?

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