To have left them outside for 10 minutes

[Notoday]

I'm a few days away from having a cesarian. I'm having to take some suppressant medication that makes me poorly, so that's fun. I've spent the last week between the bed and the bathroom.

My partner who lives with me went to collect his kids from school and bring them here but he didn't take his keys with him as usual thus leaving the door unlocked.

Naturally if I'm stuck on the toilet or vomiting into a bowl I'm not going to want to leave my door unlocked as I live on a main road, so I locked it until he gets back.

Typically they arrive back when I'm stuck in the bathroom. I couldn't do much about that unfortunately so they had to wait 10 minutes or so until I was able to go and let them in.

DP comes in doing a silly dance saying how much he's bursting for a wee and his youngest DC is majorly pissed off about having to wait outside for so long.

WIBU to have locked the door and made them wait as opposed to leaving the toilet to open the door?

I live in what would be described in a nice area. We have had 6 opportunist burglaries in the local streets this year, an armed robbery in the next street, a digger stolen off a neighbouring building site, and the armed response team have been out 3 times.
I have a new front door that locks when you close it, but the one before that could be opened from outside if you didn't turn the key. I am quite obsessive about locking the door at all times.
YANBU

I'm so confused by the responses you've had on this thread, OP.

You live in a dodgy, high crime area so you lock your door even when you're in the house.

You were on the toilet and diarrhoea was coming out of you so you didn't get up to open the door until you were able to do so without leaving a Hansel and Gretel-style trail of poo along the way.

I just don't get why either of the above points are unreasonable.

@Notoday

He certainly should have taken his keys. It's a theme. I love how his son has concluded that I'm the problem though

Like father, like son?

Not been pregnant for a few years now however I remember at 9 months being incredibly anxious and protective. Head was all over the place. Also had hyperemesis and remember times where I'd been glued to the toilet for an hour, let alone 10 mins. Absolutely reasonable to have your door locked, and not to have moved from the bathroom. He's a big boy, he can take his keys. Worrying if you're about to have a baby and posting on MN about things which are quite petty (on his part) and also a step son who sides with his dad over said things. You may be in for a bumpy ride!

@evilharpy

I'm so confused by the responses you've had on this thread, OP.

You live in a dodgy, high crime area so you lock your door even when you're in the house.

You were on the toilet and diarrhoea was coming out of you so you didn't get up to open the door until you were able to do so without leaving a Hansel and Gretel-style trail of poo along the way.

I just don't get why either of the above points are unreasonable.

An OPs place is in the wrong 😁

I think that if your medication is causing vomiting and diarrhoea then you need to contact your dr. That doesn't sound right at all.

Also, if you know you are right then it doesn't matter what other people think does it?

Maybe a thread saying " give me sympathy, this happened " would be better.

Or maybe you were in the mood for a row....that happens sometimes.

@NormanStangerson

And another thread turns nasty so quickly, yet again.

The OP is ill, nine months pregnant, was on the loo with diarrhoea, her partner forgot his front door keys again and STILL people conclude that the OP must be in the wrong, and must therefore take a verbal kicking.

Jesus.

Yep, I'm with you and to the poste who's trying to make out OP has an issue with the stepson - don't be a dick and stop trying to twist what the OP has said

@thegreywoman

Me too. I'm disgusted with the pile on by so many posters in this thread. They seem totally lacking in comprehension and empathy.

for you OP and I hope the birth goes well

Agree with this. It sounds like you’re going through a lot to bring his baby into the world, I’m sure he wouldn’t want to swap needing a wee for 10 minutes for how rough you feel.

Once we had an opportunist burglar in our kitchen - my sister disturbed him and got a real shock. Not a bad area at all. He took money and a bottle of alcohol, these days it could easily be car keys. YANBU

@NormanStangerson

And another thread turns nasty so quickly, yet again.

The OP is ill, nine months pregnant, was on the loo with diarrhoea, her partner forgot his front door keys again and STILL people conclude that the OP must be in the wrong, and must therefore take a verbal kicking.

Jesus.

Totally agree! Unbelievable responses. OP you are most definitely not in the wrong here.

I also can't believe so many people are questioning the door being locked. I always have my front and back door locked when at home, whether I'm upstairs or downstairs. I just feel more secure that way. It's not odd or unusual at all.

@Antiqueanniesmagiclanternshow

I think that if your medication is causing vomiting and diarrhoea then you need to contact your dr. That doesn't sound right at all.

Also, if you know you are right then it doesn't matter what other people think does it?

Maybe a thread saying " give me sympathy, this happened " would be better.

Or maybe you were in the mood for a row....that happens sometimes.

Bad day, @Antiqueanniesmagiclanternshow? 🙄

Is your stepson the real issue, @Notoday ?

Haha. This is amazing. Of course that's it.....

What? I thought that was a nice message? Literally, asked if the meds need checking, told the op she didn't need validation.

What exactly is the magic response for this thread?

I think that if your medication is causing vomiting and diarrhoea then you need to contact your dr. That doesn't sound right at all

They are common side effects unfortunately. The risk to baby if I don't take them outweighs the D&V for me. I just have to suck it up.

Another saying he should have taken his keys! I would tell the sun that too!

We live in an area where we don’t have to lock the door but still take our keys out even if the other person is in. It’s just what you do!

*son not sun obviously!

@Notoday

I think that if your medication is causing vomiting and diarrhoea then you need to contact your dr. That doesn't sound right at all

They are common side effects unfortunately. The risk to baby if I don't take them outweighs the D&V for me. I just have to suck it up.

The medication sounds grim, OP. The things we have to go through to get a baby here safely! 😞

Did you tell him you were going to lock the door? You knew he had no keys, regardless. I'm not sure how being on the loo warrants needing to lock the front door.

Your attitude towards his children speaks volumes.

@Reallyimeanreally2022

You’re ill You knew he’d forgotten his keys

You could have left unlocked for ten minutes. You know it

He knew she was ill. He knew he hadn't picked up his keys.

He could have apologised for banging on the door and for him and his kid moaning.

Your attitude towards his children speaks volumes. Yeah! Just as his attitude and the unchecked attitude of his child does too!

@Peanutsandchilli

Did you tell him you were going to lock the door? You knew he had no keys, regardless. I'm not sure how being on the loo warrants needing to lock the front door.

Your attitude towards his children speaks volumes.

Are you serious? What attitude towards his kids? What do you make of his attitude towards his ill, heavily pregnant partner in whose home he resides @Peanutsandchilli?

Your attitude towards his children speaks volumes

LOL what did I say earlier. Here we go...

Did you tell him you were going to lock the door?
OP always locks the door and has done since before he moved in. Why would today be different?
You knew he had no keys, regardless
He also knew he had no keys regardless and it's his problem/responsibility.
I'm not sure how being on the loo warrants needing to lock the front door
Because OP has been burgled before and knows full well anyone could come in and do or take anything and she would be powerless to stop them, what with being stuck on the toilet at 9 months pregnant.

Your attitude towards his children speaks volumes
His attitude towards a very ill, pregnant and vulnerable woman who is carrying his child and who he is supposed to love and care for speaks volumes.

HTH 🙄

So many men apologists on here and those just relishing the chance to verbally attack a sick, pregnant woman from the anonymity Mumsnet affords them.

It’s making me feel slightly depressed so @Notoday I hope your pregnancy goes well, your partner behaved like a selfish twat.

Your attitude towards his children speaks volumes

Ffs. Ridiculous. I'd have the same "attitude" towards my own 12 year old if he/she failed to understand that I was vomiting my guts up and they had to wait for a whole 10 minutes ffs. 🙄 He's 12 not 2. It's a minor inconvenience. His attitude towards OP (not to mention that of her partner) are the ones that need addressing!