To have left them outside for 10 minutes

[Notoday]

I'm a few days away from having a cesarian. I'm having to take some suppressant medication that makes me poorly, so that's fun. I've spent the last week between the bed and the bathroom.

My partner who lives with me went to collect his kids from school and bring them here but he didn't take his keys with him as usual thus leaving the door unlocked.

Naturally if I'm stuck on the toilet or vomiting into a bowl I'm not going to want to leave my door unlocked as I live on a main road, so I locked it until he gets back.

Typically they arrive back when I'm stuck in the bathroom. I couldn't do much about that unfortunately so they had to wait 10 minutes or so until I was able to go and let them in.

DP comes in doing a silly dance saying how much he's bursting for a wee and his youngest DC is majorly pissed off about having to wait outside for so long.

WIBU to have locked the door and made them wait as opposed to leaving the toilet to open the door?

So, ExplosiveFarts..

Are you going to point out the evidence that supports your claim that anybody has an appalling attitude towards the step children? Or are you going to continue to harp on about how you feel discriminated against?

@Pallisers

@TirednWorried

Yabu. The risk from having the door unlocked afew minutes when you are in the house is infinitesimal. It was selfish

OP has said she was alone for around an hour. And I think she knows more about the risks in her area than you do.

@Reallyimeanreally2022

I would put money on the OP not doing this in same scenario But her children

What a weird idea. How could she have guaranteed not being ill just because it was her own child involved and not a stepchild? Or are you saying she would prefer to risk being attacked when at her most vulnerable rather than run the risk of having her child waiting outside for a few minutes on a relatively warm day?

[quote Explosivefarts]@pelosi you are right I didn’t answer I was so upset by the discrimination.[/quote]
What discrimination?

I lived on a main road opposite the entrance to a well used station that I could see from my front door really well lit and not in a high crime area. My neighbours got broken into several times. My car got stolen off my tiny extremely visible driveway, and another occasion they managed to get the doors open and steal everything inside it. We had several people turn up randomly in our garden for whatever reason I'll never know as I was too scared to do anything. If I ever hired a skip it was like a lucky dip for a load of people every night. Which was actually quite handy as I'd fill it up and it would be empty again by the next day saving me money. That was pretty much the only positive.

If that's the safest place to leave your door unlocked I would definitely advise against it! I moved welllll away from a main road since!
I think your dp should take his keys. OP my dh doesn't take his keys but if I'm busy he'll have to wait as that's the consequence of not taking them not your fault!

@Notoday

He certainly should have taken his keys. It's a theme. I love how his son has concluded that I'm the problem though

That's because it's what daddy has told him.

Also to the PP who says it is 'rare' to not have a door which locks automatically, I've lived in at least 4 houses which didn't so how about that! There are different types of locks, who knew!

@ChimChimeny my suggestion was that on a road in a high crime rate area, where one feels they want the door locked at all times, it is unusual to have that type of door. If I felt I wanted my door locked at all times, I would invest in a different style of lock. I would feel much safer that way.
Yes, of course I am aware there are different types of lock, which is why I suggested changing the type of lock she has.
I'm not talking about "double" locking, just a door that, once shut, needs a key to open - rather than just pushing down the handle and walking straight in.

And men have loads of pockets, too! What actually stops him picking up and picketing his keys as he leaves the house?

Does he think OP is the only adult in the relationship or is he training her to be a house elf? I don't believe it's a dodgy memory thing, or he would be getting lost on the way home every time. 🤷🏼‍♀️

[quote Explosivefarts]@AccidentallyOnPurpose saying someone has a bad attitude is not the same as discriminating someone with disabilities. We have the power to change our attitudes.[/quote]
Still all ears waiting for you to justify your wild accusations? You wouldn't have been discriminatory by any chance towards the OP on the basis of her being a stepmum would you? Given your views on discrimination? Or being deliberately nasty? Given that you don't like nastiness? Did you read something additional to this thread that suggested to you that the OP hates her DSS? Can you please elaborate? Dying to hear from you about this? Any apologies to OP forthcoming?

@PearlyShamps

Also to the PP who says it is 'rare' to not have a door which locks automatically, I've lived in at least 4 houses which didn't so how about that! There are different types of locks, who knew!

@ChimChimeny my suggestion was that on a road in a high crime rate area, where one feels they want the door locked at all times, it is unusual to have that type of door. If I felt I wanted my door locked at all times, I would invest in a different style of lock. I would feel much safer that way.
Yes, of course I am aware there are different types of lock, which is why I suggested changing the type of lock she has.
I'm not talking about "double" locking, just a door that, once shut, needs a key to open - rather than just pushing down the handle and walking straight in.

My mum’s front door has a lock which locks automatically, but it’s not safe.

I much prefer my front door lock which needs to be locked with the key when you leave the house, it’s much safer.

I don't think locking the door was unreasonable, he needs to take his keys or accept that he may have to wait. Preferably option 1 for your safety (what if you had collapsed in the bathroom?)
We live in the suburbs of a reasonably safe town and we still don't leave our property unlocked. We had a motorbike stolen from our back garden when we first moved in, so put a lock on the gate. However when I was 9 months pregnant with DD and had gone to bed, a bloke wandered in through our back door around midnight and my husband was sat on the sofa watching TV. He claimed to have "forgotten he didn't live there any more". Yes our back door was unlocked but we have a 6 foot wall around our back garden and the gate was locked. The guy had jumped the wall. We don't leave our gate unlocked and wouldn't again and we lock the door if we are upstairs or in the evening/ night.