To have left them outside for 10 minutes

[Notoday]

I'm a few days away from having a cesarian. I'm having to take some suppressant medication that makes me poorly, so that's fun. I've spent the last week between the bed and the bathroom.

My partner who lives with me went to collect his kids from school and bring them here but he didn't take his keys with him as usual thus leaving the door unlocked.

Naturally if I'm stuck on the toilet or vomiting into a bowl I'm not going to want to leave my door unlocked as I live on a main road, so I locked it until he gets back.

Typically they arrive back when I'm stuck in the bathroom. I couldn't do much about that unfortunately so they had to wait 10 minutes or so until I was able to go and let them in.

DP comes in doing a silly dance saying how much he's bursting for a wee and his youngest DC is majorly pissed off about having to wait outside for so long.

WIBU to have locked the door and made them wait as opposed to leaving the toilet to open the door?

Of course YANBU. Too bad that he had to wait. Hopefully, it will mean he takes his keys with him next time.

we have a security handle on our door so it can’t be opened from the outside without a key. i live in a quiet cul de sac but i had my handbag stolen by an opportunist thief who opened the door and grabbed it from the porch while i was in the kitchen. (adult) children and husband take a key or wait for me to open the door because obviously i will open it but i might be busy doing something and i am not a butler. you want immediate access take a key.

I don't understand why you locked the door - so YABU

@NormanStangerson

And another thread turns nasty so quickly, yet again.

The OP is ill, nine months pregnant, was on the loo with diarrhoea, her partner forgot his front door keys again and STILL people conclude that the OP must be in the wrong, and must therefore take a verbal kicking.

Jesus.

Thank you for this.

I can only conclude that it's something to do with the fact I have the temerity to be pregnant to a man who already has kids. We all know how step mum's / subsequent partners go down on here.

Of course people will insist otherwise

@BritInUS1

I don't understand why you locked the door - so YABU

Because she felt vulnerable and anyone could just pop in and nick something especially if they'd seen DP leave.

@Notoday

Naturally if I'm stuck on the toilet or vomiting into a bowl I'm not going to want to leave my door unlocked as I live on a main road, so I locked it until he gets back.

Naturally? Why would this be a given? I don't know why you would feel the need to lock your door if he was going to be home in a few minutes. We leave our door unlocked all day usually, once it's been unlocked and if someone is home.

Of course, if it's normal for the two of you to always lock your door when you're home, then he should have taken his keys. Even if you were available to come and unlock the door as soon as they got home, why wouldn't he take his key so as not to bother you?

@Notoday I think that's it. Ignore them.

@BritInUS1

I don't understand why you locked the door - so YABU

Because I live in a high crime area.

Because I've already been burgled.

Because I didn't want to leave myself/the house vulnerable whilst I'm stuck on the toilet unwell.

Because I never leave the door unlocked regardless of what I'm doing, and DP knows this.

Even if I'm sat indoors watching coronation street I still want the door locked.

I also live in London OP. I would be cross if my DH had left the door unlocked for 10 minutes.
All it takes is an opportunist to try the door to burgle you.
I can’t get on board with anyone thinking you are unreasonable to want to keep your property secure! An adult should take their keys with them and lock the door when they go out.

Op your dp acted like a knob and encouraging dss to act like one too.
Some comments on here beggar belief too, so many people leaving doors unlocked / open. Some obviously live in the middle of nowhere, but I wonder how many really do it and not just looking to pile on op ?[sceptical]

A main road is the safest place to leave the door unlocked.

What a breathtakingly idiotic thing to say when you have no idea where the op lives .. i mean it might be safe in your little middle class village, but maybe not where the op lives! Not to mention the safest thing to do is to LOCK your door!

She's pregnant and was on the toilet yet she's in the wrong because her useless dp couldn't remember to take his keys?! I mean . What. The . Fuck.

[quote Anonymous48]@Notoday

Naturally if I'm stuck on the toilet or vomiting into a bowl I'm not going to want to leave my door unlocked as I live on a main road, so I locked it until he gets back.

Naturally? Why would this be a given? I don't know why you would feel the need to lock your door if he was going to be home in a few minutes. We leave our door unlocked all day usually, once it's been unlocked and if someone is home.

Of course, if it's normal for the two of you to always lock your door when you're home, then he should have taken his keys. Even if you were available to come and unlock the door as soon as they got home, why wouldn't he take his key so as not to bother you?[/quote]
Of course, if it's normal for the two of you to always lock your door when you're home, then he should have taken his keys. Even if you were available to come and unlock the door as soon as they got home, why wouldn't he take his key so as not to bother you?

Yes this bit.

The door is always locked as a precaution largely due to the area we live in. I'd be surprised if anybody felt comfortable leaving theirs unlocked around here. I've asked him umpteen times to take his keys with him and he never remembers.

I can only conclude that it's something to do with the fact I have the temerity to be pregnant to a man who already has kids. We all know how step mum's / subsequent partners go down on here.

Of course people will insist otherwise

Maybe it's because you point blank refuse to see anyone else's POV, Nobody cares that you're a step mum. FFS.

I've never understood people who keep their doors unlocked tbh

It’s slightly different to if he’s just waltzed off without his keys but he did have the foresight to unlock the door so as not to disturb you when coming back. But with the added detail of the area etc it’s more about keeping the door locked than forgetting keys and he should respect your wishes.

Thank you for posting in my defence PP's.

I don't mind repeating this as I NC often but I live in Catford, Londoners will know exactly why it's not safe to leave your door unlocked around here. They don't call it 'crackford' for nothing

YANBU. I live in a quiet, safe village but if I'm going to have a shower or go to the loo I will always lock the front door, and I tend to keep it locked as a rule anyway. You just never know. Some of the PP on here though

Who leaves their front door unlocked??? As standard????

Our front door is always locked. We always take keys. Regardless of whether one of us is home or not.

If im poorly in bed I'd probably lock the door too. No you shouldn't attempt to pause the toilet into let them in (if that's even possible). He should have taken his keys!

@iheartredsquirrels

Op your dp acted like a knob and encouraging dss to act like one too. Some comments on here beggar belief too, so many people leaving doors unlocked / open. Some obviously live in the middle of nowhere, but I wonder how many really do it and not just looking to pile on op ?[sceptical]

I don't live in the middle of nowhere, far from it. I live in the suburbs. We don't think twice about leaving our door unlocked when someone is home.

Of course, in their case - if they always lock their door then he should have known to take his keys. Although I wonder if he is as on board with the whole always locking the door thing as she is.

Did you think someone would walk into your house whilst you were in the bathroom?

I mean he should have taken the keys yes but I think you're being rather theatrical with the door needing to be locked.

I can only conclude @itsgettingwierd that they’ve had shit days/shit weeks/are deeply unsatisfied or unhappy, and so resort to being nasty smartarses on here to try to feel powerful and therefore better.

I can’t see how happy and contented people could ever behave that way. And it really doesn’t matter what the OP is posting about, they will get a pasting.

@Iggly

Who leaves their front door unlocked??? As standard????

Our front door is always locked. We always take keys. Regardless of whether one of us is home or not.

Yeah, I mean I don't want to have to remember to lock it if I go out the back or have a bath or snooze. Why do people leave it unlocked?

Me too. I'm disgusted with the pile on by so many posters in this thread. They seem totally lacking in comprehension and empathy.

for you OP and I hope the birth goes well

Maybe it's because you point blank refuse to see anyone else's POV, Nobody cares that you're a step mum. FFS.

What sensible POV is there to be considered?

He should have taken his keys. He's frequently reminded to. We live in an area with a high crime rate and I've already been burgled once. The door is never left unlocked irrespective of what we're doing, even when we're sat watching TV.. so why would I be unreasonable to today leave it unlocked whilst I spend a considerable amount of time in the bathroom with a bad stomach?