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Isn’t it up to the her to do something about it? You can’t (or shouldn’t) care more than her. If she doesn’t like the situation she needs to change it. That may be by getting a job outside the home, retraining or additional education, or leaving the marriage.
I am so perplexed by the weird thought process that is so prevalent in these threads. Women should be equal and they should command all of the equality, but it’s unfair when we don’t get it handed to us. And before anyone else says it “But it’s not that easy because of reasons. Of course it’s not easy but it is possible.
You could say that about absolutely any situation. If you had absolutely zero empathy. Do you think everyone in a domestic abuse situation should just leave too. Everyone who has a difficult family should either suck it up or go NC.
Really OP I think the only reason you're getting these replies is because MN loves a pile on against SAHM. It's so depressing, but the same people would go mad if they were judged at all for their choices.
Also there's a strong streak here of 'none of your business'. This applies whether someone is having an affair, has a horrible child, is an alcoholic, whatever, we're supposed to all just ignore it and focus fixedly on our own lives.
In a better world, people care enough about each other to want more for them.
Interesting, also, that the people who believe so much in minding their own, are incapable of reading comprehension too, trotting out the same incorrect lines even though you have clarified the situation early on.
All you can do is give her a bit of emotional support OP, and hopefully she'll become more empowered to not put up with the sexist bullshit, because I sincerely doubt it just applies to the car.