My partner users my towels, flannel etc

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AIBU to expect to have my own towel, flannel etc? My partner and I have lived together for just over 2 years now and it annoys me that they keep using 'my' towels etc.

I don't mean as in I have my own set, like mine are green ones and yours are the blue ones, but once we start a clean set of towels we should stick to our own set, or am I being too fussy?

Nope not too fussy and I have low standards

Wouldn’t bother me. All towels are communal in my house, though we don’t use flannels.

I can't say it would bother me (what do you think you're going to catch from his towels that you wouldn't catch from actual close contact with him?), but Mumsnet is full of people positively obsessed with "hygiene" who will be ewwwww-ing all over the place very shortly.

Unless it means your towel is wet when you come to use it, what difference does it make?

Wouldnt bother me but on here I'm sure you'll get plenty of people saying anything other than having your own personal towel, washed daily, is disgusting.

Get different colour towels then he has no excuse

We stick to our own flannels but all towels are fair game in this house. I'm v slovenly by Mumsnet standards.

This wouldn't bother me to be honest

Well it sounds like a good idea that you should have a colour each. Make it simple .

It's probably quite a polarised view. Personally, no I don't want anyone else using my towel, no matter how much I love them.

Does your partner know that you don't want him using your stuff?

It doesn't matter what others do-you want your own towel!! Have you discussed it? What did he say?

My boyfriend and I share everything, towels included. Clean of course. We have sex, to get tetchy about using a clean towel that he has once used is a bit weird imo.
What is it you think might happen if you share towels, if you share a bed etc anyway?…

Wouldn't bother me but then I'm quite easy going in that way

What? Do people really do this?

Towels are for everyone in this house. I'm not sure what a flannel is but I'm assuming it's a face cloth in which case we share them too.

There was a thread in here about a man not washing his bottom properly and then wiping his bottom on towel so no I don’t want anyone using my lovely soft fluffy pink bath towel.

If you share bodily fluids, I think it's a bit much to be precious about a towel.

Do you not wash them after each use anyway?

Towels are communal in this house. Flannels are single use and go in the wash immediately so no chance of sharing.

If he's using your towels, why don't you use his?

Towels are communal here but it’s perfectly reasonable to ask him not to use yours if that’s your preference. Obviously one of those things people feel differently about.

We stick to our own but they look the same so sometimes there's confusion. So what?

Aren't towels washed after use? Does it matter who uses which one?

This is why I don't share a bathroom with my DP 😂 keeps towels separate!

I wouldn’t like it. Some men leave the towel really hairy.

It would definitely bother me!

(I secretly don't feel that DH washes thoroughly enough though..)

I don’t use a flannel but share towels with DH. Technically DS has his own as his bathroom is a different colour.
Never really thought about it tbh

@Morgantowers

There was a thread in here about a man not washing his bottom properly and then wiping his bottom on towel so no I don’t want anyone using my lovely soft fluffy pink bath towel.

But presumably you are not married to messsy bum man?