My partner users my towels, flannel etc

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AIBU to expect to have my own towel, flannel etc? My partner and I have lived together for just over 2 years now and it annoys me that they keep using 'my' towels etc.

I don't mean as in I have my own set, like mine are green ones and yours are the blue ones, but once we start a clean set of towels we should stick to our own set, or am I being too fussy?

Me and DH have our own set we just share in our en suite. Doesn't bother me. We have sex an share germs so what's a towel he's wiping himself down with once he's had a wash going to do ????
But the older lads have their own towels (hormones kicking in etc) and my youngest just have a set that they share between them unless they want their hooded towels on.

Your getting out of the bath/shower so you are clean lol

It's not the hygiene issue it's the fact it's horrible to use a wet/damp towel! That's why you need your own. YANBU

Towels in our house are just towels. You just pick one from the towel cupboard, use it, hang it on the towel rail to dry and be reused. 🤷‍♀️

We always had separate ones when I was married.

Now the kids and I still have separate ones

I get out a guest hand towel if we have visitors in the day, no one has slept over at ours for a few years and not likely to but I would give them towels for their use if they did.

Nope, own towels and flannels here.

I like to choose when and how to share bodily stuff!

@mswales

It's not the hygiene issue it's the fact it's horrible to use a wet/damp towel! That's why you need your own. YANBU

A very valid point (in addition to not wanting to press my face into 'Memory of Arse'). Using a cold, damp towel would set me up for a foul mood all day.

Never even thought to use someone else's towel to be honest! I grew up in a big family , clean house but not at all obsessed with hygiene and we just all used our own towel for showers/baths but did share hand towels.

My husband and I have always used our own towels too and he also thinks it's completely normal not to share so had no idea so many people seem to see towels as communal!
You really do learn something everyday

Separate colour coded sets for everyone here! And when DC were young and living at home, a lock on the linen cupboard to stop repeat offenders who dumped damp towels in their bedroom floors and picked out a new one every day!

Oddly, now they are all running their own establishments, towels are hung up and nobody has committed to the washing and drying workload of a clean bath sheet daily which they tried to impose on me! Of course they all have busy jobs - and so did I through those years!

@daisypond

Wouldn’t bother me. All towels are communal in my house, though we don’t use flannels.

Same

Own towels in this household. It’s not the germ issue, it’s the wet towel issue.

By and large DP uses his own towel but he’s got forgetful ADHD brain and will endlessly go “You used my towel, it was damp, so…” but actually he’s used mine.

His primary towel crime, though, is behaving as though we’re roommates on our own separate laundry schedules, so when he decides his towel is ready for a wash he’ll put it on for a wash, but no one else’s: not mine, or DD’s, or all the hand towels. Just his. Does he not love us! This also means we get out of sync so instead of a set of 3 green towels on the go, or a set of 3 blue towels, it’s a mix. Which is aesthetically annoying.

And!!! (Who knew I had strong towel feelings: not me.) Sometimes when he “puts his towel on to wash” what he ACTUALLY does is stuff a shower-damp towel into a ball in the washing basket, then cover it over with his dirty clothes pile in a rare tidying mood. So not only are the towels out of sync but there’s also a festering dank towel hidden in the washing basket.

God!! I’m enraged now and all the towels are in order.

Always had separate towels. I know for a fact that he uses his to dry his arse crack, so there’s no way I’d be using that!

As for flannels, even the word makes me feel a bit nauseous- they are utterly grim and we don’t have them.

@jaundicedoutlook The absolute hilarity of calling flannels "grim" when that clearly means you are just sluicing water and soap all over yourself without any way to actually remove the dead skin and filth of life, or re-using a sponge or one of those net balls that are absolutely heaving with bacteria- either way please don't stand too close to me on the train 😹

You put his dick inside you but you can’t share a towel?!

We mostly use separate towels but only because we shower within 10 minutes of each other so both want a dry towel.

Wouldn't use the same flannels (if we had any).

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[quote Wroxie]@jaundicedoutlook The absolute hilarity of calling flannels "grim" when that clearly means you are just sluicing water and soap all over yourself without any way to actually remove the dead skin and filth of life, or re-using a sponge or one of those net balls that are absolutely heaving with bacteria- either way please don't stand too close to me on the train 😹[/quote]
Each to their own, but meh

www.womenshealthmag.com/uk/beauty/skin/a707591/wash-cloth/

We dont have our own towels in this house.
Actually we often don’t even have as many towels out as there are people on the house either.

@jaundicedoutlook you don't use a flannel (or, yes, a washcloth) more than once, you have a big pile and grab a new one every shower, because they are 💫washable💫

We have our own towels for post bath /shower but will share hand towels. I don't know why but the thought of sharing main towels creeps me out.

Really? You have this towering pile of flannels in the bathroom and wash one immediately after use? Glad you have the time for that - I’ll happily pass.

I don't share towels. If DH uses my towel I get very cross.
All towels washed once a week and hung on the line to get them nice and hard for drying.

But I don't use a flannel. I use soap & water and my hands.
Never thought that meant I wasn't properly clean.

I had to hide my towels from Fil when we only had one bathroom as he used ours when he visited despite being provided with his own.

What if you have rough tradesman's hands? Does that provide enough friction on your body?

I did enjoy the casual racism of English people being smelly and not washing properly earlier too. Good job. (I'm not English so no vested interest either way).

We have our own towels.

Do you not wash them after each use anyway?

No because I'd rather the planet didn't become a burning hellhole.

I do have my own (fluffy White Company mmmmmmm).