My partner users my towels, flannel etc

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AIBU to expect to have my own towel, flannel etc? My partner and I have lived together for just over 2 years now and it annoys me that they keep using 'my' towels etc.

I don't mean as in I have my own set, like mine are green ones and yours are the blue ones, but once we start a clean set of towels we should stick to our own set, or am I being too fussy?

Once o saw how vigorously DH polishes his knob and balls when drying I vowed never to share a towel with him.

Can’t see the problem sharing towels with someone you’re having sex with. I’ve had his genitals in my mouth, we can dry our bits on the same towel

@Etonmessisyum

My boyfriend and I share everything, towels included. Clean of course. We have sex, to get tetchy about using a clean towel that he has once used is a bit weird imo. What is it you think might happen if you share towels, if you share a bed etc anyway?…

Agreed

What's the actual issue with sharing towels - maybe that would help to give better answers. Does he not actually wash and just rub a dry flannel over his nethers? Uses a dry towel to remove his athlete's foot? What's the bottom line here?

Yes that's gross. What if he wipes his arse with your towel and then you end up using it.

Also things like molloscum contagiosum are spread this way.

Can you have a set peg to hang towel behind the bathroom each?

Doesn’t matter what others do, you don’t want him using your towel and that’s a perfectly reasonable request.

Surely if they're using a towel they are clean? So i dont really understand the issue

But MN is a weird place when it comes to towels and bedding.

YANBU get a new towel every time and leave your DP with your sloppy seconds

Who wants to use a wet towel ?!

We have our own towels - just have your own "colours" or something.

I understand where you're coming from, I used clean towels everyday, my late dh made them so wet I had to wash them every day anyway!

Once o saw how vigorously DH polishes his knob and balls when drying I vowed never to share a towel with him.

That water that he is drying off is clean water presumably, if he's just got out of the shower/bath? In our house the towel goes on the heated rail to dry and gets used again. The environment does not need us all washing the towels after every use.

Do you mean hand towels or bath towels?

We have our own bath / shower/ dry your own bottom towels but hand towels we share and they are changed regularly.

@DeepaBeesKit

Once o saw how vigorously DH polishes his knob and balls when drying I vowed never to share a towel with him.

That water that he is drying off is clean water presumably, if he's just got out of the shower/bath? In our house the towel goes on the heated rail to dry and gets used again. The environment does not need us all washing the towels after every use.

Glad you said that about not having new towels every day - thought that was just me!!

I like my own towel. My ex used to hang his on a hook on the back of the bathroom door and they often had skidmarks on 🤢. Not a chance I'm ever sharing a towel with a bloke.

I have my own towels and never allow anyone else to use them. But then I have ulcerative colitis, and a fistula, so that is very much for everyone else’s benefit! So I’d say YANBU.

We all have our own bath towels. DH sheds a remarkable amount of dead skin, and I don't want his body dandruff on freshly washed me.

I wouldn't want to use a towel that's been wiping someone else's arse either.
I hang mine on the door,,the Mr.puts his on the radiator

It wouldn't bother me really but I am quite the slattern.
If you have sex with someone and share bodily fluids I can't see the problem.

It's only Dd and me in our house but we use bathrobes and hair towels only, we used to share all the time, which I wasn't fussed with hygiene wise but grabbing a towel that should be dry to find out its still damp from someone else was annoying for both of us. Using towelling bathrobes prevented that.

@espressomartiniweeny

Yes that's gross. What if he wipes his arse with your towel and then you end up using it.

Also things like molloscum contagiosum are spread this way.

Can you have a set peg to hang towel behind the bathroom each?

Who uses towels to clean their arse?

We stick to our own and face cloths only get used the once anyway.

We use bath towels for a week before washing so we have our own on individual pegs. We share hand towels.

Don't understand how people wash towels after each use - do you have copious piles of towels (and massive storage?) or do you just never stop washing? Or perhaps you only shower/bath once a week?

Wouldn't bother me re towels - we share towels.

Only my dh uses a flannel so he gets it to himself.