To think it's not right to charge adult children rent to live at home

[Hdhshxhs]

I have a few friends who charge their adult DC rent to live at home.

I personally find this very strange, no matter their age my children will always be my children and welcome in my home without any expectation of money.

I think aswell with it being so hard for young people to get on the housing ladder these days one of the only ways they can is to live at home rent free so they can save for a deposit.

AIBU?

I think a better idea would be to keep a running total from the day you give birth, of all the expense incurred and present them with a bill inside their 18th birthday card.

@Daisz

I think a better idea would be to keep a running total from the day you give birth, of all the expense incurred and present them with a bill inside their 18th birthday card.

You're boring af.

@Daisz

I think a better idea would be to keep a running total from the day you give birth, of all the expense incurred and present them with a bill inside their 18th birthday card.

TBH if you were my child I'd have done that. It's the closest thing to a refund.

Cost about £185,000 to raise a child till 18.

@Daisz are you actually for real ?
Go get a life and stop being so judgemental of others ffs

This is a fun thread!

I left at 18, and donkey’s years ago you could get a 100% student mortgage. So my parents set me up in a flat with a mortgage of £300 a month, and then I got some flat mates and a waitressing job so it only cost them the odd food shop for three years.

But my brother never left home, and my sister ping ponged home with her kids up until she was 35. So yeah, I think it is a good idea to start rent as soon as a child finishes education.

Yes this thread is ment to be lighthearted. Some of you are taking it way too seriously. Insults included.

@Daisz, judging by your last post, it's quite clear you have no idea what the point of the thread is about, light-hearted or not.

@CallmeHendricks Yes I do. Whether it is acceptable or not to make money from your children under the guise of helping them in life. It is quite simple!

@Daisz

I cant see any indication in the OP that this was meant to be lighthearted.
Why is it so hard for you to get your head around the fact that some families need a contribution from their adult children.

No one here is ‘making’ money from their children. Some will be fortunate enough to put rent/keep/contribution/digs whatever they wish to call it, into a savings account to give back to them,

I, like many others, will not be ‘making’ money from my son to teach him a life lesson, but to contribute to the bills. I will still be heavily subsidising him

@Daisz, I agree that if there's no real need, at least one should save or invest for them or even better, teach them how to invest (far more valuable lesson) rather than just charging for a family home.

I'm a bit baffled about kids suddenly costing way more the day they turn 18. Council tax I understand, but weren't parents going to cook anyway? Was the vision not have a kids room anymore free at 18 and take a lodger instead so are we talking about a lost opportunity cost? And why is gas bills increasing at 18? Isn't the house heated for everyone in it already? Presumably showers etc aren't increasing in number? What exactly is changing at 17 or 18 except council tax (if you aren't a benefit claimant I mean) ?

@PoseyRosey

for the umpteenth time. For many familes it is not a case that they cost more at 18, but that income reduces.

I am in receipt of some income as long as my son is in full time education, it will cease when he is either 18 or 21. If he is successful in applying for the apprecticeship he wants next year, I will lose more income than he will earning.
I can only absorb so much of that loss. He will not be paying for his occupying his room, he will be making a contribution to his food, transport, bills.
If people are really too thick too understand this then I give up

"for the umpteenth time. For many familes it is not a case that they cost more at 18, but that income reduces."

Emmm I specifically said if you aren't a benefit claimant? suggest you read posts with more focus before calling people thick.

I'm asking about others whose income doesn't reduce.

@PoseyRosey

I’m not a benefit claimant

@PoseyRosey another judgemental person who obviously has never struggled.
Stop looking down at others , life can sometimes throw people a curveball consider yourself lucky it hasn't you instead of being so judgemental .

@PoseyRosey child benefit changes for most at 18 , many many get that at £70 a month that can be a big loss

@PoseyRosey

preseumably those whose income does not reduce are presumably those who are lucky enough to be able to put any contributions away in savings

Hi people. So. I'm asking about people who do NOT get child benefits. What additional costs are they incurring the day a DC turns 18, except tax.

No I haven't yet struggled thankfully. Of course things can change.

DD is 19, lives at home and chose not to go to Uni, at least not for now, so has a FT job. She has started to pay me £200/month room and board. I don't need the money but think it's a good habit for her to get into so, unbeknownst to her, am saving it for her.

@Hdhshxhs

Not sure how it's a stealth boast. It doesn't make sense to me that youd have children but the second they turn 18 you can't afford to have them around anymore

It's not that you "can't all of a sudden afford them". It's encouraging them to get a job and pay their way in life.

The best turned out adults I know are the ones who were encouraged to get a job and pay for their way in life from the age of 16-18. I know a lot of spoilt adults who still live at home with their parents and are bone idle!

I dont take money. He 19. He bought a car and his insurance was high. He trying save too. Buys his own food at wends

[quote PoseyRosey]@Daisz, I agree that if there's no real need, at least one should save or invest for them or even better, teach them how to invest (far more valuable lesson) rather than just charging for a family home.

I'm a bit baffled about kids suddenly costing way more the day they turn 18. Council tax I understand, but weren't parents going to cook anyway? Was the vision not have a kids room anymore free at 18 and take a lodger instead so are we talking about a lost opportunity cost? And why is gas bills increasing at 18? Isn't the house heated for everyone in it already? Presumably showers etc aren't increasing in number? What exactly is changing at 17 or 18 except council tax (if you aren't a benefit claimant I mean) ?[/quote]
At what age do you draw the line?

I expect for most people who don’t claim benefits or lose child maintenance or have an increase in council tax - a 2-parent family with working parents - there’s probably not a huge rush to charge the moment a child turns 18.

But if the 18-year-old is working now, why wouldn’t you charge them ‘board & lodging’ - at what age does it become appropriate to charge a working adult ‘child’ to live in your house?

So in three years time, when I have retired and will be living on a pension, should I still be expected to enable my working son to live without cost in his home.
Should I carry on working to facilitate that?