Today is a big birthday and my husband forgot

[Kk789]

Today is a milestone birthday and my husband forgot. He remembered at 6pm and said sorry but we couldn't do anything anyway because of covid.

I feel really sad about it actually because we do usually do birthdays, not so much big presents but we make it a nice day

Feel pretty low :(

Happy birthday! Is he the sort who usually forgets things? Are you getting on okay otherwise?

I'm sorry you're feeling low. I genuinely don't get these posts tbough, as don't you talk about it in advance, especially a milestone?

@LagunaBubbles

I'm sorry you're feeling low. I genuinely don't get these posts tbough, as don't you talk about it in advance, especially a milestone?

Exactly :(

What an arsehole (unless he actually has covid).

Demand total selfishness tonight. Do something you would like to do. For me that was paying to see a theatre show online and getting takeaway of food that only I liked.

@HollowTalk

Happy birthday! Is he the sort who usually forgets things? Are you getting on okay otherwise?

I would call him thoughtless now really

Happy birthday op. Did you talk about it and make plans before?

That's rubbish kk and I'm nit sure why he's using covid as an excuse not to do anything. Hope you can salvage something and make sure you reciprocate in kind when it's his next birthday. Happy Birthday 🎂🍷💕

Happy birthday op!!! Why cant you go for a drink now or a meal??..

That's crap.
It's bad enough to forget but worse to say it doesn't matter. A better response would have been to apologise profusely and pull out all the stops for a nice day out/meal in favourite restaurant/special present tomorrow. If you're in the UK you can do loads of stuff at the moment.
Happy Birthday from me. Maybe treat yourself to something you've always wanted to get instead.

Couldn’t do anything because of Covid.. I had to check when op posted this, thought it was posted in the middle of lockdown not today

That's shitty, happy birthday

I hope he will surprise you with something nice to make up for it.

My birthday has been mentioned a few times because it's a big one. I know it sounds silly and it's just a birthday

Happy birthday.

Maybe next year tell him what you want to do for your birthday.....

@Wynston

Happy birthday op!!! Why cant you go for a drink now or a meal??..

It's kind of killed the mood now

Thank you all for your birthday wishes, so kind of you all

Its not silly at all.

It doesn't sound silly and if it has been mentioned then he's rubbish. What has he offered to make it up to you?

Happy birthday OP. Your husband has been a thoughtless arse. It's all very well suggesting doing something now but that won't really make you feel any better. He can't unforget now, can he? I hope he, at the very least, pulls something out of the bag this weekend for you.

Didn’t you have any discussion in the lead up about what you wanted to do? Especially if you usually do something for big birthdays it’s bizarre that you’d not mention it and even on the day just sit around not saying anything?

@Mumdiva99

Happy birthday.

Maybe next year tell him what you want to do for your birthday.....

I didnt even really want to do anything. I would have liked a card and to be treated to a morning coffee :( I am so pathetic

It's not silly at all and I would be upset in these circumstances. Happy birthday

@Dyrne

Didn’t you have any discussion in the lead up about what you wanted to do? Especially if you usually do something for big birthdays it’s bizarre that you’d not mention it and even on the day just sit around not saying anything?

I've been working, come home to still no card

He sounds lovely.
PS happy birthday op. Maybe try and get him to take you out tomorrow for food and some shopping (for a pressie!)

Ohhh happy birthday!

I think that's a real shame he was so thoughtless. There's a hell of a lot you can do now, covid is a very poor excuse.

Tbh I think I'd talk to him again about it.
Cake? Balloons? Book a dinner? Those things would be so easy to organise so I'd not let him off the hook for the covid excuse.
And I'd point those things out and ask him why he didn't even bother about that.

What's covid got to do with it? Everywhere's open, pubs restaurants, cinemas. Tell him you're going out and get him to ring and book something. He's lazy and thoughtless, and if you don't get anything, make sure you forget his birthday.

When my exhusband forgot my 40th birthday it was the beginning of the end for us..he was so selfish in so many ways