Today is a big birthday and my husband forgot

[Kk789]

Today is a milestone birthday and my husband forgot. He remembered at 6pm and said sorry but we couldn't do anything anyway because of covid.

I feel really sad about it actually because we do usually do birthdays, not so much big presents but we make it a nice day

Feel pretty low :(

So he’s aware he’s going out with you and friends tomorrow night for a meal and it didn’t once enter his head that this was to celebrate your milestone birthday? Is he a bit dim?

Happy birthday OP 🥳 I’m sorry your OH is thoughtless. Can you call up a friend and go out for a drink without your DH? Or get yourself a really nice takeaway?

Happy birthday, sorry you’re married to a twat

Happy birthday!!

I’m so sorry your husband forgot. That is just rotten. I don’t expect lots of money to be spent on me for my birthday but I would be really upset, and also quite angry, in your position.

Once he realised, he should have organised some flowers and a card at the very least…and should have issued a grovelling apology too.

Does he have Covid OP?

@PuppyMonkey

So he’s aware he’s going out with you and friends tomorrow night for a meal and it didn’t once enter his head that this was to celebrate your milestone birthday? Is he a bit dim?

I think so. I think he's just thoughtless

He doesn't have covid. He's been out with friends recently too...

Look him straight in the eye, tell him your going for a nice bath, look back and say, I am so glad you did this, as now I can just stop worrying about doing anything for your next birthday.

Happy birthday op!

Why is covid stopping you going out? Are you not in U.K.?

this has made me feel very sad -
Happy Birthday! I think you need to be very honest with him about how this has made you feel.

This has made me feel quite upset. What a twat he is. I don't think I'd be anywhere near him on his 40th let alone still married. It's thoughtless beyond belief.
Hope you have a lovely time tomorrow night

@Bollindger

Look him straight in the eye, tell him your going for a nice bath, look back and say, I am so glad you did this, as now I can just stop worrying about doing anything for your next birthday.

This is my favourite reply. Thank you

How can anyone be married to anyone and forget their birthday, big birthday or not? It just doesn't compute with me. Is he a keeper OP?

If there was a Mumsnet survey which asked "have you ever forgotten your partner's birthday?" I feel the answer would be 0.

@Benjispruce4

Why is covid stopping you going out? Are you not in U.K.?

We're in the UK. We have plans to go out with friends tomorrow. I am confused as to why he's mentioned covid as the reason for not doing anything for me? A card???

🎈💐🥂🍰🎁🍷🎉🎈

Happy Birthday!!

Have yourself a cup of tea or a glass of wine now and go ahead and order yourself a fantastic present. What would you really love to mark this milestone? My choice would be a cashmere scarf and hat and maybe some leather gloves in a complementary colour. Or a ring from Georg Jensen. Perhaps a lovely pair of boots now that autumn is here!

Something you really want that will make the day special for you.

Hi OP, I understand something of how you feel. In 30 years, my DH has never done anything for my birthday, or anniversary. If I do not arrange something it does not happen. I feel let down by the lack of effort, when I always do something for his. Just something I have learned to put up with. I know it will not change.

Oh, that sucks, OP! As you usually "do birthdays" it must have been really rather hurtful and disappointing. What a twit (your DH, not you)!

For what it's worth, Happy Birthday! 🎉🎊🎊🎂🎈🍷

I would be so hurt by this, and I don't think I'd be able to fully get over it, honestly. His thoughtlessness seems very contrived. Because of covid? Is he having a laugh?

@HollyandIvyandAllThingsYule

🎈💐🥂🍰🎁🍷🎉🎈

Happy Birthday!!

Have yourself a cup of tea or a glass of wine now and go ahead and order yourself a fantastic present. What would you really love to mark this milestone? My choice would be a cashmere scarf and hat and maybe some leather gloves in a complementary colour. Or a ring from Georg Jensen. Perhaps a lovely pair of boots now that autumn is here!

Something you really want that will make the day special for you.

I wear lots of jewellery. I think I should treat myself with a little money I'd saved for a rainy day :)

Happy birthday OP! You deserved to be spoilt today - not just because it’s a big birthday but JUST BECAUSE IT IS YOUR BIRTHDAY!!!! As PPs have said, can you treat yourself tonight? I know it isn’t the same but try and salvage it for yourself. I really hope you’ll enjoy yourself tomorrow xx

He didn’t acknowledge your 40th??? Bloody hell. That’s total total shit. He’s a complete jerk and has let you down. Unless he’s usually fantastic then.... maybe your 40th year will be time for a Dh upgrade and you can separate from this selfish and uncaring sad sack.

Oh op you poor thing. My DH has done this once before, granted it wasn't a milestone birthday. I totally understand how you feel. It's just awful. I agree with @Bollindger. And genuinely stick to it, when it's his birthday do nothing. See how he will feel. Unmumsnetty hugs to you OP.

Happy birthday Kk789 - please do whatever you need to feel special. I would be gutted if I was you. Had my 50th in the first big lockdown and was still made to feel special. I'm sorry he's an arse.

@HollyandIvyandAllThingsYule

🎈💐🥂🍰🎁🍷🎉🎈

Happy Birthday!!

Have yourself a cup of tea or a glass of wine now and go ahead and order yourself a fantastic present. What would you really love to mark this milestone? My choice would be a cashmere scarf and hat and maybe some leather gloves in a complementary colour. Or a ring from Georg Jensen. Perhaps a lovely pair of boots now that autumn is here!

Something you really want that will make the day special for you.

Lovely response.

Happy birthday OP.