Today is a big birthday and my husband forgot

[Kk789]

Today is a milestone birthday and my husband forgot. He remembered at 6pm and said sorry but we couldn't do anything anyway because of covid.

I feel really sad about it actually because we do usually do birthdays, not so much big presents but we make it a nice day

Feel pretty low :(

Wishing you a very happy birthday 💐

Happy birthday!

I’d be upset too.

What's a big birthday, I have had a lot of those, and never get upset if any are forgotten.. Lots of men forget special days, or suddenly remember them in a few weeks time.!

Happy Birthday, sorry he's been super thoughtless

This can't be a happy marriage OP, are you together because you have children?

Did anyone give you a card or present?

Happy Birthday 🎂 🍾

I suggest you you pour yourself a big drink of your choosing, go on the Internet treat yourself to whatever you fancy and get a takeaway. You should still enjoy your birthday

@1forAll74

What's a big birthday, I have had a lot of those, and never get upset if any are forgotten.. Lots of men forget special days, or suddenly remember them in a few weeks time.!

If less women put up with the ‘oh well loads of men forget’ lark and hold them to higher standards then maybe more men would remember

Happy Birthday!

If you wanted a fuss, you should have communicated your expectations. You sound like a bit of a martyr. Whether you know it or not, you set yourself up to wallow in disappointment. Your feelings may be real and valid, but you might benefit from a closer look at where they come from.

@rainbowmash

If you wanted a fuss, you should have communicated your expectations. You sound like a bit of a martyr. Whether you know it or not, you set yourself up to wallow in disappointment. Your feelings may be real and valid, but you might benefit from a closer look at where they come from.

This isn't a very nice comment :(

@rainbowmash

If you wanted a fuss, you should have communicated your expectations. You sound like a bit of a martyr. Whether you know it or not, you set yourself up to wallow in disappointment. Your feelings may be real and valid, but you might benefit from a closer look at where they come from.

What a mean thing to say. Are you OP's husband in disguise?

@rainbowmash

If you wanted a fuss, you should have communicated your expectations. You sound like a bit of a martyr. Whether you know it or not, you set yourself up to wallow in disappointment. Your feelings may be real and valid, but you might benefit from a closer look at where they come from.

FFS what is wrong with some folk? Always desperate to punch down rather than extend the ladder.

YANBU at all. Perfectly reasonable to think our nearest and dearest might make us feel special and cherished on one day in 365. That does not make you a martyr. Treat yourself, OP. Spend on yourself what you wouldhave spent on his next b’day. Nice present. Nice food and wine. Make a weekend of it xx

@rainbowmash

If you wanted a fuss, you should have communicated your expectations. You sound like a bit of a martyr. Whether you know it or not, you set yourself up to wallow in disappointment. Your feelings may be real and valid, but you might benefit from a closer look at where they come from.

It’ll be a sad day when I have to tell my husband I expect a birthday card, bloody hell.

I’m not sure I could get over this. I mean I wouldn’t end a relationship over it, but these things are really the beginning of the end in most cases.
You would have to be mother fucking Theresa to be able to forget this and be fine about it.

Do people really think I should have told my husband I wanted a card on my 40th birthday?

Oh and I would 100% dis invite him from tomorrow

Good grief, the OP said nothing about wanting a "fuss", just that she's hurt he didn't remember! And she had mentioned it already, he just forgot. Why do some people think that forgetting your OHs birthday is just fine, something that is shrugged off? What on earth else do you put up with if being so thoughtless as to forget a birthday is fine?

@rainbowmash

If you wanted a fuss, you should have communicated your expectations. You sound like a bit of a martyr. Whether you know it or not, you set yourself up to wallow in disappointment. Your feelings may be real and valid, but you might benefit from a closer look at where they come from.

Oh FFS. She mentioned her birthday to him several times. She didn't deliberately not say anything, to see if she could set him up to fail.

Jeeze. Talk about victim blaming.

@Kk789

Do people really think I should have told my husband I wanted a card on my 40th birthday?

No OP. Some people are being ridiculous.

It’ll be a sad day when I have to tell my husband I expect a birthday card, bloody hell.

Exactly.

Did he not notice any other birthday cards, do you stand them up

@rainbowmash

If you wanted a fuss, you should have communicated your expectations. You sound like a bit of a martyr. Whether you know it or not, you set yourself up to wallow in disappointment. Your feelings may be real and valid, but you might benefit from a closer look at where they come from.

Expecting the person you married to remember your birthday and give you, at the very least, a card is not making a fuss!!

What a dick comment!!

He forgot, didn't even say happy birthday because he forgot! Stop making excuses for dickhead men!!

And as for @1forAll74, what a lot of crap your comment is!! "Poor little men, need help with every aspect of life" FFS!

Fuck me this appalling. I make a big fuss about birthdays and a huge fuss about mine. As the person who keeps the show on the road this is the one day when they get to show appreciation.

Happy birthday but I'm sorry it wasn't happier.

Find a nice piece of jewellery and tell your DH to buy it for you as an "apology" for forgetting.

Make sure you mention that he forgot your big birthday several times when out with friends tomorrow. Embarrassment before peers is often a good prompt for better behaviour in the future....