Today is a big birthday and my husband forgot

[Kk789]

Today is a milestone birthday and my husband forgot. He remembered at 6pm and said sorry but we couldn't do anything anyway because of covid.

I feel really sad about it actually because we do usually do birthdays, not so much big presents but we make it a nice day

Feel pretty low :(

I’m so shocked at the number of people saying YOU should have reminded him about your birthday or prompted him on what to buy you. Is the bar really that low for the DHs of MNetters?!

So so sorry your birthday was shit @Kk789 - I hope your friends made up for it tonight

Ahahahahaha@Summersun2020 - that would have been horrible, but mum was worse! You gave me a huge laugh!!! (Btw, I told DH that our marriage was on the line at that time. We were living overseas and he needed me to sign paperwork to continue to stay there. I wasn’t prepared to do that until we went into counselling. He’s much better now.)

Did he go to the meal op

@Kk789 did you uninvite him in the end and tell your friends why?

Afternoon everyone
Thanks for all the birthday wishes
Had a fab 40th, uninvited the husband told him why and told my friends why too
He is now grovelling and I had the best time with friends
Unsure what to do about the marriage, but hey ho!

I'm glad you had a good day op. IMO birthdays are a big deal in this house no matter the age we always do balloons/ banners everything. If DP had forgot my birthday I would be livid, I want cake and for the one day to be made a fuss off. Very inconsiderate and selfish for DP to forget and if they did I would feel that they weren't invested in the marriage anymore and no bothered about my feelings.

Good for you OP.

We teach people how to treat us.

Kindness and consideration go a long way in a successful marriage.

I don't think he showed you either.

I'm delighted you had a good night with your friends.

If the person you are sharing your life with can't be arsed to mark your birthday on the actual day in as small away as a simple token, it is poor.

You don't have to accept this disregard.

It's not about the token, it's about the acknowledgement.

He didn't think it important to acknowledge it.

I would want to know why that is, and on that basis reflect.

Glad yo done that op-bit late isnt it for grovelling and its not just this is it

Glad you did that OP, it was the right thing to do. It’s also too easy to grovel.

It’s not nice to feel unappreciated.

@Kk789

Afternoon everyone Thanks for all the birthday wishes Had a fab 40th, uninvited the husband told him why and told my friends why too He is now grovelling and I had the best time with friends Unsure what to do about the marriage, but hey ho!

That is brilliantly done, OP! Revel in the aftermath of your birthday, and think about the marriage once that's over.

@1forAll74

What's a big birthday, I have had a lot of those, and never get upset if any are forgotten.. Lots of men forget special days, or suddenly remember them in a few weeks time.!

Wow I've read some low standards on here before but this is pretty bad. Check your internalised misogyny, you and every woman is worth more. The "lol at the little menz" trope is pathetic.

@billy1966

Good for you OP.

We teach people how to treat us.

Kindness and consideration go a long way in a successful marriage.

I don't think he showed you either.

I'm delighted you had a good night with your friends.

If the person you are sharing your life with can't be arsed to mark your birthday on the actual day in as small away as a simple token, it is poor.

You don't have to accept this disregard.

It's not about the token, it's about the acknowledgement.

He didn't think it important to acknowledge it.

I would want to know why that is, and on that basis reflect.

Yes this ^

Time for some hard thinking and talking. Best wishes to you Op and glad you had a nice time with friends.

Agree with Billy and shallwe. Time to talk.

Don’t stay married to someone so thoughtless

I'm glad your friends came to the rescue even if it was a day later.

To ruin someone's birthday is mean spirited, selfish and not remotely excusable or redeemable in my book. He showed you his true colours, that's for sure.

That’s so shit and really not ok for your kids to see that. I’ve had two birthdays in proper lockdown but it was still possible to get presents online or /order food in.

Glad you had fun with your friends.

Happy Birthday op. Crappy hope he feels bad about it! No excuse he could have food ordered in. A cake. Plenty of asda and tescos. This is so lousy.

This is my 40th birthday experience . Disappointing

You are not pathetic OP please don’t think that. He is an absolute arsehole using an outdated excuse to cover up his inadequacy. You deserve so much better and I hope you will be spending your next birthday in better company, with your friends or family, not with this man.
I hate fuss, but a card and nice lunch/coffee is the least you can expect.

I never understand this kind of post , don’t you talk about it beforehand?

I think the OP has probably moved on from this as it was a year and 6 months ago

ZOMBIE ZOMBIE ZOMBIE ZOMBIE ZOMBIE ZOMBIE ZOMBIE ZOMBIE ZOMBIE ZOMBIE ZOMBIE ZOMBIE ZOMBIE ZOMBIE ZOMBIE ZOMBIE

oh crap - I cannot add up - its only a baby ZOMBIE as was 6 months ago

@hulahooper2

I never understand this kind of post , don’t you talk about it beforehand?

@hulahooper2

I never understand this kind of post.

Don't you read the date?

I expect the OP has got over it.

Couldn’t do anything because of covid?
Is he normally thoughtless or is this the first time he has forgotten your birthday?
Has he offered to make it up to you by a meal out, weekend away etc?
Has he said sorry?
Maybe be less thoughtful to him in the future?
Has any other family members remember?

Happy Birthday 💐💐💐💐

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