Would you marry for wealth?

[COOKFORD]

On a thread recently a woman in her 30s said she pursued a man 40 years her senior in a quest to secure financial security.
As a female of a similar age, it made me think a lot. Whilst I can't, or at least at a stage, couldn't imagine sleeping with a man of that age, I can see why people would do it and can make sense of it.
The poster said she was sick of being broke and working for nothing and with that I can relate to. She never gave any details of her job etc but as a college graduate with a degree I myself work in a professional job yet am still renting and likely always will be with little savings and bugger all pension really.
The older I get the more it scares me and I would consider it I think sometimes but I don't know if I could go through with it. Could you?

Edit: Can I add the thing that scares me most is being old and still house sharing.

No, I wouldn't prostitute myself for money, which is essentially the same thing.

The idea of marriage being a love match is relatively recent in the history of the human race.

It's not something I would do - but that's easy to say as I'm married already. But I certainly wouldn't judge anyone who chose that path to secure their future.

I think the age of the other poster is quite telling. Someone in their early 20s might not feel the need to marry for wealth: feeling as if the world is full of opportunity. A single woman in her 30s might have experienced enough adversity to consider it.

* No, I wouldn't prostitute myself for money, which is essentially the same thing.*

^This. It is prostituting yourself.

So, someone in their 70s?
Bruce Springsteen, Harrison Ford, Tom Sellick - sure.

In theory I think I would like the lifestyle of having a lot of money, in practice there's no way I could be with someone I didn't feel physically attracted to.

Hell yes! A girl's got to live.

Marrying someone 40 years your senior for money is a lot different to 'just' ''marrying for money''.

Yes i'd marry someone for money if they were ok to look at, ok to be with, roughly my age but no big passion.

I would not marry someone 40 years older than me for any amount of cash.

Yes.

I couldn't marry someone I didn't like because they were rich, no. It's just morally wrong to use people in that way IMO not to mention I would be miserable.

Yes, I would marry for money.

*Marrying someone 40 years your senior for money is a lot different to 'just' ''marrying for money''.

Yes i'd marry someone for money if they were ok to look at, ok to be with, roughly my age but no big passion*

Not really as what you described is the criteria many marriages go ahead with, for marrying for cash I mean solely for the cash and wealth.

@thedevilinablackdress

So, someone in their 70s? Bruce Springsteen, Harrison Ford, Tom Sellick - sure.

..... we're talking about now though. They don't still look like they did 20/30 years ago.

Can't say I blame her, love won't pay the gas bill.

No I couldn't marry for money but I work with people who are highly motivated by money and drive the latest brand new high spec cars. Men a lot older than

I wanted someone equal to me. Similar age and education.

If it were a mariage blanc, I can see the attraction. But what if you fall in love with someone else?

we're talking about now though. They don't still look like they did 20/30 years ago

And yes these men still look unattractive now yet compared to the average man in their 70s they still look better because of their wealth.

It's not something I would do - but that's easy to say…I certainly wouldn't judge anyone who chose that path to secure their future.

Agreed.

If you’re lucky (and let’s face it, life outcomes are mostly down to luck, no matter how hard you work), you can earn a good living yourself. Easy to have principles then.

But what if you can’t earn a good living? What if you’re looking at a life of minimum wage jobs that aren’t secure? What if you dread working in a physically demanding low paid job, like cleaning, until your late sixties, then retiring on a small pension? What if your relationship has broken up and you have a couple of young children and no support from their father? What if you saw no way of ever owning your own home or having nice things?

Then you would at least consider marrying for financial reasons, I’m sure.

I was lucky. I don’t have to make that choice. I can see very clearly why somebody would.

If you were completely open with the person you were marrying and told them you didn't fancy them but only wanted the financial security, I can't see that it's morally wrong.

But I would never ever have done it myself. I value love too highly - it gives life so much value. Even if a love match was not on the table, I would still prefer to be poor and independent than rich and shackled to someone I couldn't love.

No. I was broke, I re-trained and worked really hard and now earn good money. Surely women can be financially comfortable without having to fuck for money by now? It is 2021.

@COOKFORD

*Marrying someone 40 years your senior for money is a lot different to 'just' ''marrying for money''.

Yes i'd marry someone for money if they were ok to look at, ok to be with, roughly my age but no big passion*

Not really as what you described is the criteria many marriages go ahead with, for marrying for cash I mean solely for the cash and wealth.

Interesting.

Solely for wealth.

So ... they are rich, but also:

• ugly
• old
• unpleasant to be with

All 3 or just one?

I would still prefer to be poor and independent than rich and shackled to someone I couldn't love

have you ever being poor though? Easy to say that when you haven't.

@thedevilinablackdress

So, someone in their 70s? Bruce Springsteen, Harrison Ford, Tom Sellick - sure.

Ha, actually I'd voted YABU till I saw this post - but then again, I'd not kick any of them out of bed even if they were broke!

I would, as long as they were nice to me!