Would you marry for wealth?

[COOKFORD]

On a thread recently a woman in her 30s said she pursued a man 40 years her senior in a quest to secure financial security.
As a female of a similar age, it made me think a lot. Whilst I can't, or at least at a stage, couldn't imagine sleeping with a man of that age, I can see why people would do it and can make sense of it.
The poster said she was sick of being broke and working for nothing and with that I can relate to. She never gave any details of her job etc but as a college graduate with a degree I myself work in a professional job yet am still renting and likely always will be with little savings and bugger all pension really.
The older I get the more it scares me and I would consider it I think sometimes but I don't know if I could go through with it. Could you?

They don't even need to be married though it's the life style isn't it.
Living in a presumably nice house, going on nice holiday, eating out assume he'd pay for sundries.

Finally, after investing time and effort 'courting' this old moneybags to marry her, he may suddenly ask her to sign a pre-nup, then what

they aren't legally binding in many countries and at best can only be taken into consideration.

There's no reason why a much older gentleman wouldn't make a loving companion, a good husband and a great father tbh so that's that bit dealt with

in my op the man was in his mid 70s and the woman was in her 30s-the prime of her life, there are MANY reasons why a man at that age would be completely an inappropriate choice to be a father.

No, I couldn't marry someone for money. I suspect it would take a lot of effort tbh. I'd rather read.

Are those the only two choices?

No, I couldn't marry someone for money. I suspect it would take a lot of effort tbh. I'd rather read

Against stiff competition, this might be the most sanctimonious contribution of the thread.

@GrandmasCat

Going to play devils advocate here, ok?

Every woman say they wouldn’t “Prostitute” themselves for money but…

• how many women stay in dreadful relationships for the sake of the financial convenience? say they are staying for the children but if they had the money to afford it, they would make a run. Ergo, they are staying for the money.

• How many women see an unemployed man as attractive? He could be the perfect father and house husband but very few would be happy about him not providing much or the most of the financial stability.

• Wether we like it or not, women are not willing to commit if there is not a good “nest” to bring children up, it is instinctual, in the past we would be attracted to the best hunter, these days we are attracted to “successful reliable men”

Your friend is somewhat extreme (or has huge debts!) if she is actively looking someone 40 years older for financial security, but she is just honest where others aren’t.

Plenty of women have kids with deadbeats.

@Iamthewombat

No, I couldn't marry someone for money. I suspect it would take a lot of effort tbh. I'd rather read

Against stiff competition, this might be the most sanctimonious contribution of the thread.

I dunno. Maybe the latest Jilly Cooper is really good.

I dunno. Maybe the latest Jilly Cooper is really good.

Hahaha

Just to challenge the idea that only poor women marry rich older men.

www.harpersbazaar.com/celebrity/latest/a37122881/princess-diana-niece-lady-kitty-spencer-married-italy-dolce-and-gabbana/

Oh hell, I thought it was a given that rich upper class young women marry money. Maybe they don't have many books.

If you'd asked me that question 20 years ago I'd have said unequivocally no, it was prostituting yourself etc.

Nowadays I'm not so sure.

I'm lucky enough that I earn decent money and am financially independent, for which I'm incredibly grateful, so it hopefully won't ever happen and I don't plan to marry again.

But the older I get the more I see the point of marriage as a strategic alliance to protect your wealth and an insurance policy. Marrying for "love" (really, sex) is a fool's game.

@COOKFORD

There's no reason why a much older gentleman wouldn't make a loving companion, a good husband and a great father tbh so that's that bit dealt with

in my op the man was in his mid 70s and the woman was in her 30s-the prime of her life, there are MANY reasons why a man at that age would be completely an inappropriate choice to be a father.

You should tell Mick Jagger. It doesn't seem to stop him.

If you marry for money, you’ll earn every cent of it

You should tell Mick Jagger. It doesn't seem to stop him

wealthy celebs are in a different league to the average person so it's no real comparison. He can afford nannies etc

No I really couldn’t and am disgusted by anyone who would.
Marriage is about love… not money. If you’re not happy with your life that you’ve made for yourself, sort it out.. do something about it yourself. Why rely on someone else to fund the lavish life you’re clearly craving?

@DrSbaitso

No, I couldn't marry someone for money. I suspect it would take a lot of effort tbh. I'd rather read.

Are those the only two choices?

Yep, every day -

Option A: Effort

Option B: Reading

I am happily married to a poor man who treats me like a queen so, yep, effort vs reading is as complex as my life choices get.

Never let a fool kiss you; never marry for love. (c)
Yes, I would (and I would be aghast at the suggestion in my 20s). I am not sure such a man would be interested in me though.

@Iamthewombat

No, I couldn't marry someone for money. I suspect it would take a lot of effort tbh. I'd rather read

Against stiff competition, this might be the most sanctimonious contribution of the thread.

I'm not sure why you'd think that is sanctimonious. I'm just really lazy when it comes to men. It actually does sound like hard work.

@Eilatan2018

No I really couldn’t and am disgusted by anyone who would. Marriage is about love… not money. If you’re not happy with your life that you’ve made for yourself, sort it out.. do something about it yourself. Why rely on someone else to fund the lavish life you’re clearly craving?

Marriage is a financial contract. That's literally what it is.

How much disgust have you got? It's going to have to cover all married people...

Marriage is about love… not money

what about the ones that can't find love?

My friend's niece married for money. She is a stunning girl but came from a council estate. She got in with a wealthy, attractive crowd and felt she deserved the same lifestyle. She has never worked a day in her life and believes she shouldn't have to.

Her DH is not particularly older than her but he regularly cheats on her and she turns a blind eye. She can't divorce him and take him for half as he's from a rich family and on paper has nothing, it's all in trust or in his dad's name.

Plenty of beautiful women marry for money. Plus, a lot of wealthy men are attractive. Money marries beauty and breeds good looking kids. Plus men with money are confident, they can afford an expensive gym membership, expensive tailored clothes, the best haircut..they look good in the same way that women with money look good.

Her DH is not particularly older than her but he regularly cheats on her and she turns a blind eye.

If she married for money, chances are she truly doesn't care.

No, I’d rather have nothing than do that.

I’d be very disappointed if DD chose that route rather than provide for herself and DS knows it’s ok not to subscribe to the old fashioned view that men work and provide for their spouse. I’ve taught him to expect an equal financial contribution and not accept anything less.

no I wouldn't. If there isn't love its selling services....not just sex but housekeeping, being arm candy, whatever. I wouldn't judge others but it wouldn't have been for me.

@MadCattery

If you marry for money, you’ll earn every cent of it

Maybe.

If you clean the lavs in Wetherspoons you’ll earn every penny as well, though, eh? So I hope that you wouldn’t judge somebody who chose to improve their financial position by trading their skills for financial security in a marriage.