Would you marry for wealth?

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On a thread recently a woman in her 30s said she pursued a man 40 years her senior in a quest to secure financial security.
As a female of a similar age, it made me think a lot. Whilst I can't, or at least at a stage, couldn't imagine sleeping with a man of that age, I can see why people would do it and can make sense of it.
The poster said she was sick of being broke and working for nothing and with that I can relate to. She never gave any details of her job etc but as a college graduate with a degree I myself work in a professional job yet am still renting and likely always will be with little savings and bugger all pension really.
The older I get the more it scares me and I would consider it I think sometimes but I don't know if I could go through with it. Could you?

Horrible idea for a man or a woman

*Solely for wealth.

So ... they are rich, but also:

• ugly
• old
• unpleasant to be with

All 3 or just one?*

rich but you feel nothing for them, whether they are 25 or 75 it's the same thing really if you don't find them attractive or have no attraction to them in the least. The money is the draw or otherwise if you have feelings the money isn't the draw.

I'm currently in poverty and debt crisis (officially). I would definitely marry for money

I dumped a barrister earning 6 figures for my at the time unemployed DH.

He got a job, progressed and now I get decent coin and the Fanny gallops.

No way I'd sacrifice years of my life with someone unsuitable. However I can earn my own money as well. I don't know if I was a single mum with responsibility and debt I might think differently.

I would yes, but not someone 40 years older.

I suppose if one was marrying for money a much older man would be preferable. He's going to leave you a rich widow much sooner, and while you are waiting his sexual demands may be less.

What’s the age difference between the recently wed spencer gal? 30 years?
70 year old men can be fit and attractive and interesting especially if well travelled and educated. I suspect they spend their money and spare time (if not a workaholic) in fun style.
Their interest in sex is hopefully mature and compassionate.
All about personality.

Depends.
Being in my 40s, I couldn't marry an 80+ year old if they expected sex. Companionship, sure.
A guy in his 70s, probably, depending on their attractiveness.

Wealth is very very attractive

I’m far more practical now that I am older. Friendship and having a very comfortable life I value highly

Great sex and passion less so

No I wouldn't.

Also why not better herself to increase her earning potential rather than prostitute herself? Assume because it's easier so for her she doesn't mind it too much as an option. Or is she after massive wealth?

Nope. I worked hard and created my own wealth.

No absolutely not.
The only the I've ever pursued is my own money.

Well I guess if you would have freedom in a couple of years that's appealing but not sure I could actually sleep with them.

A guy in his 70s, probably, depending on their attractiveness

look around you, most men, and people, won't look great at 60 never mind 70s.

No, but I’m with my childhood sweetheart so the idea is unthinkable to me.

money can make someone more attractive though if they like sharing it & exploring the opportunities with you.

Definitely not. I would never feel secure relying on someone elses money. It also puts you in a very vulnerable position being reliant on someone else for your income. I would rather be poor and earn my own money.

70 year old men can be fit and attractive

I can't say I can think of any

Also why not better herself to increase her earning potential rather than prostitute herself?

It's pretty hard to earn wealth though

Yep without a doubt! Married for love and that turned out to be awful so I would definitely marry for money if the opportunity arose.

Yes, but not if I was treated badly.

It's prostitution. No I couldn't go it.

Why not retrain, educate, work hard etc and get what you need (or think you need) that way.

I work very hard in a role that I love, I have a lot of responsibility at work as I’m sure many of us do on here

Still don’t earn a salary that gives me a very comfortable wage and never will

I have alway been independent but would still find wealth attractive

I wish I had been more practical when I was younger

For me it would depend very much on the personality. For a while I dated a reasonably wealthy man (he was 9 years older than me so not loads). I didn’t date him for money, I genuinely thought he was a nice guy. But he turned out to be extremely controlling. He wasn’t violent but I still found myself walking on eggshells all the time. He was always buying me expensive gifts but I ended it because I was like his prisoner. I wouldn’t live that way again for all the money in the world. A rich older, nice and chilled man? Maybe. I’m never going to meet my “love match” now so a mutually beneficial partnership could work for me. Although it’s all hypothetical as I don’t have any men queueing for me, let alone rich ones!

Also why not better herself to increase her earning potential rather than prostitute herself

In today's world, you can have a phd and still not afford a house etc.It's not like in the 90s when degrees were like gold dust.