Would you marry for wealth?

[COOKFORD]

On a thread recently a woman in her 30s said she pursued a man 40 years her senior in a quest to secure financial security.
As a female of a similar age, it made me think a lot. Whilst I can't, or at least at a stage, couldn't imagine sleeping with a man of that age, I can see why people would do it and can make sense of it.
The poster said she was sick of being broke and working for nothing and with that I can relate to. She never gave any details of her job etc but as a college graduate with a degree I myself work in a professional job yet am still renting and likely always will be with little savings and bugger all pension really.
The older I get the more it scares me and I would consider it I think sometimes but I don't know if I could go through with it. Could you?

What I always find interesting is about these sorts of threads is how deluded people can be. First of all, there seems to be a prevailing doctrine on mn that ''if you go back and retrain you can turn it around or save your money ...'.

Yes, I suppose it's a possibility but it's far from a guarantee and the op did state she had a University education, etc yet people chose to ignore that. The truth is that going back to retrain costs money and depending on one's age it can be fruitless on too many occasions once you get older as whether we like it or not our age is a big factor in whether we get hired and even with a top education the high flying salaries are still elusive and you will have big competition to secure that CEO role. Youngblood is preferred in many professions also when people recruit.

That and many people would just not have 'it' to be in a top paying position as it usually has a lot of responsibility and stress.

There also seems to be the consensus that here that it's your fault you are homeless etc at the 30s/40s which when we look at the house prices today is contrary to that. I know people with degrees and masters working in educated jobs like teaching and nursing who are in no way in a position to buy a house. People here seem to forget that the wages have not risen with the cost of living in the UK.

Just look at the housing threads and you will see why the op found herself going into this position-because for many homeownership these days is just a dream and this will only escalate with time.

Also, I think many posters missed the point of the op's question and framed it in a way that suited them. She is in her 30s and was pursuing a man in his 70s- no amount of 'kindness' or 'good personality is going to make any woman at that age bed a pensioner and the thought of it would make most people of that age disgusted. It is clear the question was would you shag/settle for a man old enough to be your grandfather and 40 years your senior to be financially secure?

If you think you might feel any attraction or love for a man 40 years your senior then you are deluded.

Hell yes, I'd marry someone hugely wealthy and 40 years my senior. But then I'm 67, so I don't imagine I'd have to tolerate them for long.....

It's sobering, terrifying stuff, and interesting how little wealth itself actually had to do with it (the girls didn't get much

Yes, but they would have lived the high life and they were sex workers albeit glamorous ones so it's very different to them and your average person. They'd also be in the business and with high profile work like being in the playboy mansion and contacts etc they'd secure long term work.

@Sofaking355

It's sobering, terrifying stuff, and interesting how little wealth itself actually had to do with it (the girls didn't get much

Yes, but they would have lived the high life and they were sex workers albeit glamorous ones so it's very different to them and your average person. They'd also be in the business and with high profile work like being in the playboy mansion and contacts etc they'd secure long term work.

You should read it.

Wjen I was mid 30s I dated a really attractive mid 50's guy. Wealthy, slim and handsome.
One day I caught a glance of a chicken neck / saggy skin round his neck / chest and that was it. I'd not seen him naked by that point and resolved never too!

There's a massive difference between men in their 50s and those in their 70s.

Melania, now there's a women who always looks happy with her life choices!

@COOKFORD

If you marry a man for money, that man is marrying for youth and looks and in a few years will be a lot of women younger and prettier than you

that's when you divorce him and get the settlement, if you in it for the money solely you won't give a fuck if he's chasing younger women.

But so many women don't divorce in these situations. I suppose they must be so accuustomed to the money they can't entertain having less of it on divorce.

And yes these men still look unattractive now yet compared to the average man in their 70s they still look better because of their wealth

Harrison Ford looks fantastic

Richard Gere's not bad either.

I would, but then I have no self esteem, am on benefits etc.

I married for love but my husband has a well paid job and we enjoy a nice lifestyle.

God forbid anything ever happened to him, I would happily marry for money, as long as we got on.
I genuinely could never love again after my husband. He is my everything.
I also like my lifestyle.

So companionship and a big house would be welcome. 🤷‍♀️

@Laiste

Marrying someone 40 years your senior for money is a lot different to 'just' ''marrying for money''.

Yes i'd marry someone for money if they were ok to look at, ok to be with, roughly my age but no big passion.

I would not marry someone 40 years older than me for any amount of cash.

I feel the same as this. I married young for love. That would be my preference. But if I were looking to marry now in mid 30s, when loads of people are already 'off the market', I would be more likely to settle so as to have a partner rather than be alone and I would be more inclined to consider someone perfectly reasonable but for whom I had no absolute passionate desire but who earned/had a decent amount of money. I would not marry someone more than double my age though. Not a chance. I would still want to have a marriage where my partner was alive for a good period and not just be looking to make a buck as the only factor. One factor but not the only one.

Yes.... I would if I had the chance.

10 years ago I would have said no but today, at age 40 then fucking right I would he could also sleep with other women too if he wanted too, I would love to be a rich gay mans beard, I could spend his money and he could sleep with as many men as he wanted, win win...but sadly I’m not destined to be rich.

Nearly all women would, if given the opportunity.

at age 40 then fucking right I wouldgrin he could also sleep with other women too if he wanted too

that wouldn't be the hard part though, it would be having to sleep with a pensioner.

Richard Gere's not bad either

Yes! Marriage material too

@Sofaking355

at age 40 then fucking right I wouldgrin he could also sleep with other women too if he wanted too

that wouldn't be the hard part though, it would be having to sleep with a pensioner.

It would be worth it to live a life without having to worry about money! Also because he was old then hopefully he wouldn’t be able to get it up 🤣🤣 I live in hope 🤣