Cheater's wedding- to go or not to go?

[VeryOldPoster]

Old poster, but don't want to be found out.
I am married to a lovely man, he is from a foreign country. His family member lives here too, married to a lovely woman. She doesn't want children, whereas he does. Somehow, family back home think that it is perfectly fine for him to 'marry' somebody else back home. I said to my DH I don't want to go to this wedding as it is so against any common decency. He thinks 'it is just a party' and we should go 'to show respect'. Absolutely have no desire to go and thinks that 'respect' is not the word I want to use in this situation.
We know his wife here, go to see them all the time.
Funnily enough, few of my friends said I should go to a wedding as it will be lovely experience- they are organising really big, posh wedding, which I have never been to. This took me by surprise. AIBU to think I would rather chop the groom to a police for bigamy and tell his english wife, rather than go and 'enjoy' myself at this mock-of-a-wedding party?

Exactly, @MrsFlinch. I think some posters on this thread imagine there’s an International Bigamy Unit permanently on standby in case they get a call from the wife of the cousin of a man who may or may not be attempting to marry a second wife in India.

@WomanStanleyWoman

Exactly, *@MrsFlinch*. I think some posters on this thread imagine there’s an International Bigamy Unit permanently on standby in case they get a call from the wife of the cousin of a man who may or may not be attempting to marry a second wife in India.

😂😂😂

So True!!

Well there’s no international bigamy unit and the police won’t go to India for this wedding but OP can certainly tip off immigration who can investigate further if this wedding does in fact take place. Immigration is who I’d be contacting anonymously if I were OP.

And I think some posters on here think they are the receptionists of the local police station who want to vet which crimes are more worthy of reporting than others

If the Op speaks to the police before she goes abroad the police can advise her of what evidence they would need for a successful conviction or if she should just stay away from the wedding. They could obtain evidence from her of the date and venue to build evidence. Just because some people think it is a laughable or minor crime doesn’t mean people shouldn’t report it.

Send her the invitation.. Or a made up one at least

And I think some posters on here think they are the receptionists of the local police station who want to vet which crimes are more worthy of reporting than others

Jesus Christ…

' If the Op speaks to the police before she goes abroad the police can advise her of what evidence they would need for a successful conviction or if she should just stay away from the wedding. They could obtain evidence from her of the date and venue to build evidence. '

Jesus Christ !
I will not go to the wedding. No way. I am not going to the police either, with the information about intended crime. I doubt Metropolitan Police will have enough powers to stop a wedding in India, anyway.

That's great about what you're not doing, OP.
What are you doing? Writing a letter to the man's wife and signing it, I hope.

How much dowry is he getting OP? Can you ask your DH?

What a disgusting man and totally understand your disgust with him as well as being asked by your DH to attend this wedding out of respect - when what is happening is in no way respectful.

I’d be telling my DH that and further that you’re very concerned he thinks this behaviour is ok because you’d never put up with it, it’s so wrong and illegal.

If you feel that strongly about not telling the wife in person, then by all means write the anonymous letter. Be sure to give enough details so there’s no confusion it could simply be a malicious letter. Post it from another town too. If you’re asked directly by the wife if it’s true, then of course tell her and tell your DH you’d been asked directly and wouldn’t lie to her face.

What a horrible situation to be in