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Please can someone get me home

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stuckingeneva · 23/09/2021 23:14

I'm in Geneva.

Last minute long weekend with newish partner. Two months.

first night. We came back to the room. I crashed on the bed. I woke to him pushing me in annoyance/aggression. I remember it. Like a shove.

We talked for a bit. He's pissed off. I mentioned it and all hells broken loose. Like I'm a wild cannon. How can I say that.

I just want to go home. I haven't sorted out the tests etc as that was his job and we had a few days. But I'm hiding in the bathroom now. I just want to go home

OP posts:
mrschocolatte · 24/09/2021 07:03

This happened to a friend of mine back in the 90s. She went for a romantic long weekend to Italy with her partner. They had been together a while and seemed really happy. On the first night he kicked off at her and hit her and smashed up their hotel room. This was before mobile phones mind. She escaped to Reception who were brilliant and let her use the phone to contact family in the Uk who got her a flight home the next day and then me (we were flat mates) to get me to pick her up from the airport. It happened so quickly but you can get out and home fast if you are not feeling safe.

TheMamaYo · 24/09/2021 07:04

OP, are you safe? Did you manage to contact reception? Hopefully they can give you somewhere safe to be until you are ready to go?

PurpleDaisies · 24/09/2021 07:04

He knows what he did was wrong

How can you possibly know that? Are you him? Were you there? Are you in contact with the op who has given you all these extra details that aren’t in any of her posts?

AwaAnBileYerHeid · 24/09/2021 07:06

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PurpleDaisies · 24/09/2021 07:08

You can’t say that on this site. You’ll get deleted for troll hunting. You have to report the thread.

Billybagpuss · 24/09/2021 07:10

Hope you’re ok this morning op

ittakes2 · 24/09/2021 07:14

Just call reception and ask for a man and a woman to come up to the room and to ring you when they are at the door so you can be sure they have sent a man and a woman. Ask them to unlock the door and come in and watch while you get your things.

DroopyClematis · 24/09/2021 07:15

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LakieLady · 24/09/2021 07:23

Even if this isn't real, I have been hugely impressed by the support and advice offered by PPs, especially the kind offer of somewhere to stay in Geneva.

What lovely people you all are.

sashh · 24/09/2021 07:28

Are you still in the bathroom?

Call reception, get them to send up security, pack your bag and go to reception. Get reception to call the British Embassy / consulate they can help you get home, you will have to pay for a flight.

www.gov.uk/world/switzerland

Swiss info on domestic abuse in English

www.opferhilfe-schweiz.ch/en/i-am-victim/domestic-violence/

FloconDeNeige · 24/09/2021 07:31

I’m in Vaud (outside Geneve) and I think it’s a bit fool-hardy of a poster to offer their home to a random on the internet, on a questionable thread.

When I read the dramatic title, I expected it to be someone who had lost their passport or was stranded somewhere where it was kicking off, not in a hotel in central Geneva!

BoreiPuriHagafen · 24/09/2021 07:32

@LakieLady

Even if this isn't real, I have been hugely impressed by the support and advice offered by PPs, especially the kind offer of somewhere to stay in Geneva.

What lovely people you all are.

I'm not sure that 'lovely' and 'impressive' are the words I'd use for offering your home to complete strangers on the Internet.
FrankieDobie · 24/09/2021 07:33

@FloconDeNeige

I’m in Vaud (outside Geneve) and I think it’s a bit fool-hardy of a poster to offer their home to a random on the internet, on a questionable thread.

When I read the dramatic title, I expected it to be someone who had lost their passport or was stranded somewhere where it was kicking off, not in a hotel in central Geneva!

I’m in Vaud (outside Geneve) and I think it’s a bit fool-hardy of a poster to offer their home to a random on the internet, on a questionable thread

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Totally agree. Very naive

rwalker · 24/09/2021 07:35

I can't workout whats gone on was OP asleep snoring he shoved her to stop her snoring and it startled her when she woke up.
That a in a complelty different league then threating violent assault .

Then she's accused him of assaulting her and he taken objection to this .

I've been shoved and have shoved someone to stop them snoring, it does startle you as you don't know whats gone on but wouldn't say I'd been assaulted .

I think anyone would get defensive it they were accused of assault for this I would .

nimbuscloud · 24/09/2021 07:36

some fucking idiots on MN, honestly.

Yep.

Cam77 · 24/09/2021 07:40

What’s his reaction to you saying he pushed you while you were asleep? Is it possible he thought you were sleeping on the remote control or something and was just trying to move you an inch? Then got embarrassed and defensive for some weird reason. I mean that’s not a good way to handle it obviously, but it’s a different ball game to some crazy bastard pushing someone for no reason at all while they sleep.

abouquetofsharpenedpencils · 24/09/2021 07:43

I hope you are ok OP.

Cam77 · 24/09/2021 07:45

@rwalker
Could be something like this. The fact they don’t know each other very well, meant it’s quickly escalated into accusations and defensiveness rather than being either laughed off or dealt with a quick rebuke “next time I’m snoring/lying on the remote wake me verbally rather than with a nudge/shove”.

ilovesooty · 24/09/2021 07:47

I hope she's called reception and explained her situation. She can then decide on practical next steps.

And yes, I agree that offering your home to someone you don't know is foolish.

DavidRosesJumpers · 24/09/2021 07:49

What's with all the shoving?! Pushing/moving your long term partner to roll them over fine. Shoving a new girlfriend of just two months on first weekend away does not sound ok at all to me? And when asked about it, surely you apologise and explain they were snoring. You don't blow up as she described. Surely you would want to reassure the person you only recently started dating and are sharing a bed with that you didn't mean to startle them/worry them.

Being away from home in a hotel room with someone who acts aggressively must leave OP feeling very vulnerable, because the reality is OP barely knows him and this must be sinking in. And she is in a vulnerable position.

As to not replying, she hasn't started the thread as entertainment and could be busy doing anything, or could be asleep.

It's not surprising that she posted on MN trying to gather her thoughts, and given the range of reactions not surprising she didn't know whether she is overreacting or not, or whether it's worth reporting.

merrymelody · 24/09/2021 07:50

I know Geneva very well also. Hotel staff are usually helpful, courteous and kind.

I hope you're feeling safe now, OP.

ChicChaos · 24/09/2021 08:56

I'm always suspicious of a poster who is too 'all over the place' to speak to the Police yet can register/namechange on MN to a name that applies to their dilemma. I'm surprised this thread is still here @MNHQ

PurpleDaisies · 24/09/2021 08:59

Yes, I am surprised too. I had a LOT of emails this morning.

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soniamumsnet · 24/09/2021 09:04

Hi - just dropping in to say that we had a few reports and can confirm that OP is not a troll. We took the thread down briefly to have a look behind the scenes. Flowers

ChicChaos · 24/09/2021 09:05

@PurpleDaisies

Yes, I am surprised too. I had a LOT of emails this morning.
Grin

That's very tactfully worded, I also received a similar amount of emails this morning. Masses, in fact.